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Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by humilitypays(m): 11:07am On Jun 19, 2015 |
Prospero01:God bless you my brother! You are very intelligent, no doubt. The problem with most women of our time is that they fail to access themselves and ask themselves this question: “What value do I have to add to the life of a man I am going to date or marry? Is it only sex that I can offer to a man?” If it is only sex that you can offer to men as a lady, then I am sorry to disappoint you that you will experience lots of heartbreak if God doesn't intervene on your behalf. As a lady or girl, learn to be an asset and not a liability to any guy u meet. As a lady or girl, learn to be contented with whatever you have or whatever your parents and siblings can provide for you. Learn to be a value instead of a burden to men and majority of men will never play with you. Sex is not enough to win a guy's commitment nowadays. How can a girl or lady intentionally plan to go on a date with a guy she know deep down her heart that she's not going to date, just to squander the guy's hard-earned money? There's no reason for a lady to do such! But unfortunately many Nigerian ladies do this b4 they reach d age of 30yrs and they still expect men to be happy and romantic to women? Over time, Nigerian ladies proved to Nigerian men that the only thing women can offer to men is sex and maybe house chores which many ladies today have stopped doing in the name of gender-equality and feminism. But when it comes to spending and sponsoring dates, Nigerian women will forget gender-equality and feminism & start preaching romance/caring Now, how do u expect a guy to treat u like a queen when he knows that the only thing he will gain from u is sex which u will also enjoy with him? No one labours to acquire a liability and still celebrate the liability. Ex president Goodluck doesn't play with Patience no matter the criticism from people and u know y? because Patience brought value to his life aside sex. The economy is not as friendly as in the past and for this, guys are beginning to look out for other valuable qualities in a girl before committing seriously. Just count how many rich guys or celebrity men in Nigeria today who married ladies that have no value or handwork? Gone are the days men married anyhow girl so long as she is pretty. In conclusion, when a guy notices that the only thing he can get from you as a girl is sex, then he will do everything he can just to get the sex and flee! But if u are lively, friendly, humble, worthy, and have positive value to offer to his life, believe me sex will only come to his mind out of natural and mutual attraction. But unfortunately today, majority of the ladies we have in Nigeria end up being liabilities and burdens to men in their life and u expect men to be romantic with them? I repeat again: women shape men into what they become in any society; so it is the duty of Nigerian ladies to start behaving well in order to get the men to change. Talking, writing and ranting can't change anything. Nigerian ladies should stop being selfish, materialistic, money-conscious, unfriendly and watch Nigerian men change to that kind of men they desire 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by ehjiwummy(f): 11:15am On Jun 19, 2015 |
Dis'come to my house issue'..is so annoying dat I imagine why so guys are fond of dat,thou I was once did it,but now if u really lik me nd u want us to be friends na to find me come oo there r plenty restaurant nd eatery to talk.come to my house ko,come to my house ni#hiss# 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by Ikemikeobi(m): 11:23am On Jun 19, 2015 |
As if Nigerian girls dont like "come to my house " try being romantic and you will end up seeing her in another man's house 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by humilitypays(m): 11:30am On Jun 19, 2015 |
ehjiwummy:Whether he invites u to his house on first date or he takes u to the best restaurants for 1month, if he doesn't want to keep u, he won't keep u! And if he has bad intention towards u, inviting him to a restaurant won't stop him because he can pretend for ages till he achieves his aim. Your best bet is to work on yourself to be a value, an asset that no man will want to miss! And then be contented and reasonable with your demands from men generally. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by bakila: 11:37am On Jun 19, 2015 |
coogar:That is the main stroke. Even the not-church girls will not want to be seen, gossiped at, at last date promise demanded from; at those restaurant. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by Nobody: 11:58am On Jun 19, 2015 |
kedukc:[quote author=kedukc post=34921504] If chris brown asks u over to his apartment will u take ur hot galfriend along or even ur own sister? For ur own good, open ur eyes and see the beauty of starting a date from a guy's place. A guy that has done his homework will put you at ease the moment u step in, however the broke dudes u fear so much will be emitting a stinky aura of inferiority the very moment u step up in their domain... What happened to ur lady intuition/instincts...that's where u activate it: flight/freeze asap . [/quoteI don't fear broke dudes,all i am saying is that is risky to be going to a guys place and i can't go without my friends or sis. |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by free37: 12:11pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Hmm...... |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by BornnAgainChild(f): 12:12pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
domopps: Read,Read and Read again to get the OP point |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by Nobody: 12:31pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Stillfire: The oyinbo lady can't be compared to our own naija lady , she doesn't see a relationship as a means of meeting her needs. Once the naija lady accepts to date you she immediately dumps all her expenses on you ( some still hold their own sha ) , so why all the long story to get to her pants , abeg come to my house jare. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by joseph1832(m): 12:31pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
April07:Yes thank you very much! And you should direct this statement at those girls who tell guys "come and buy me my toiletries", "please give me money to make my hair, do my manicure and pedicure" etc. And please stop generalizing okay! Not all men ask girls to come to "their house". 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by Nobody: 12:36pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Osyxcel:Very soon hun. |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by Nobody: 12:36pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Osyxcel:Very soon hun. |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by player007(m): 12:40pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Can't help but laugh, not at you but at the idea that all men allegedly have this syndrome. The truth is there are men and there are men. Truth be told the way or place a meets and woos you 70% of the time determines the way he treats you. If a man ask you to come to his. House, babe don't go alone, go with a friend that's the way it used to be. |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by vickylala239: 12:43pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
swagloverss: My dear forget all this long gist, does guys who take u to romantic places are Evn Mre dangerous Dan d Huz invites. Also u Hv to knw Dat,Once a guy has made up his mind to slp wit u he will surely do. U cn Neva tell Wat a guy has in mind. Tking u to romantic places Dnt Mean he will Nt slp wit u n let u go,Jst as d same gel Dat went to his Huz. Weda a guy rape u or slp wit u is sx.rape coms wen u as a gel has demanded too much,either tru phone or Wich Eva means,eventually u cum to his Huz n say no.y should u say no.. Y Nt say no wen he was giving u cards,money etc.u ask for to much n give Notin. My dear I wnt to conclude by saying,pray for a Gud man.Weda romantic or Not. If ur bf cnt Tke u to romantic places Wat hppn to ur money,use it n Tke him out. (Sum of u maynt undastnd my post.sowi ) #We are Nt whites# 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by FROkoroMiss(f): 12:47pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Thank you for finding this worthy enough to be shared, but I am simply wondering about why you would post someone's work without due credit or something? I sent this article to Bella naija and it was published there, if you wanted to share, you could simply have given due credit to the writer, not taking someone else's intellectual property as yours. Please rectify ASAP Nairaland. This isn't right. Signed, Frances Okoro. The writer of this article whose work should be duly credited. www.imperfectlyperfectlives.com 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by pbs4real(m): 12:58pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
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Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by FROkoroMiss(f): 1:15pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
But I must also say thank you for sharing this, even though I said so in my comment before. If the due credit is rectified, fine - it should be duly credited (I hope admin is seeing this?) Learning a lot from the comments and I hope a real man can change his ways from this article. The ladies too can learn to place value on ourselves...we can act like the worthy vessels and prize that we are. He says my house. You say no. End of matter. Act like you want to be treated, we might have made mistakes in the past(myself inclusive) but we can correct them now. Thank you again for sharing. |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by wordbank(m): 1:34pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
I stick to bad guyz affirmation If u like bring ur sisters n friends I go nyash u, nyash ur sis, nyash ur sis friend, nyash ur friend, nyash ur friend's friend. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by gamaliel121(m): 2:15pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
That is what bit-cheese want now!!! Y won't we invite dem over.. It happens everywere Y should we follow rules (etiquette) when ladies don't care about those rules,, ... 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by Nmeri17: 2:26pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
April07:owky owky calm down sooo what lines do you propose we use instead?? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by coogar: 2:34pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
FROkoroMiss: the OP added the "source" at the bottom of the page. you might have missed it. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by omocheche(f): 2:42pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
They invite to come you re complaining my problem with them is that once they get to know that you leave alone the next thing is they want to come to your house, after then they wont even wait for you to invite them to come again, they will turn your house to a resting place. it is very annoying men should stop this thing joor 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by SilvanusII(m): 2:52pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
I thot I was the only person that shii sickens. I roll my eyes every fucking time I hear it. Its worse when they even say it in Yoruba-"Igbawo lo ma wa ki mi?" like ur house is a fucking tourist attraction and u d main view. I always tell my gfs, if a guy cannot talk about certain things like sex among ur friends, likely chance if he asks u to his house, he wants sex. But girls, una own too much. A guy wants to see u alone in a fastfood outlet, u wee now pack all the girls in ur hostel along 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by domopps(m): 3:01pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
BornnAgainChild: Oyo ! but av done that stil don't get Op's point! Cheeeers 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by queensmith: 3:06pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
soo tru i dont actually mind going to his house - but if you're inviting me there better be amazing food, candles, movies or video games. if you invite me to your house to come and listen to your love making playlist you will never see me again . . . . unless its an awesome house (seriously where they at?) I'd also agree - men that invite you to theirs on the first date are usually only looking for one thing. But in this world of dating, going out may be too tiring, you have to make efforts at restaurants, can't talk at the movies, i don't like playing pool or mini golf. Bars and clubs for first dates I feel slightly inappropriate environments. It gets a bit difficult, sometimes you wouldn't mind unwinding. . . . so long as it's not on his bed and he keeps his hands to himself . . . . .why not? 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by gamaliel121(m): 3:16pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Nawadays, its the girls that want to visit we guys.... 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by Nobody: 3:18pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Ok if you don't want to come to my room, would you prefer to come to my hotel room or we could just use standing method, the choice is yours... 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by decode55(m): 3:21pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Nmeri17: You |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by pweetyface(f): 3:48pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
KyleBerry:Am gud |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by Curvinus(m): 4:12pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
Hundreds of thoussands of girls are turning 18 every year, ready to strut their shi* and have their throat banged from inside out, yet some hags apparently living in denial still want to be chased, wooed and cajoled nonstop like they are some kind of secret to immortality. Hmmm Formality indeed. Abeg we no dey for games anymore o..... If you want to play, just lay down on the floor....... 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by KyleBerry: 4:22pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
pweetyface:I'm veritably sorry "Pweetyface", the mention wasn't really 'bout you. This was to serve as a compliment to a lady labeled Angieberry... Danke shion! |
Re: Nigerian Men & 'Come To My House' Syndrome by hedonistic: 4:40pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
kedukc: Hohohohoho. Help me ask them oh. Very pathetic bunch. Vex money my ass. BTW, where dem dey keep the so-called vex money, since according to bros Cooger, they don't carry their purse with them when going on dates? Abi dem dey chook the "vex money" inside bra like market women? 2 Likes |
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