coogar:


no vex......
they just want to eat their cake & have it. freeloading on another man is what they consider romantic. how many nigerian women would agree to split the bill on the first date? even if they manage to go dutch, the guy would not get a second date from them - the average nigerian would rather spend her money on brazilian hair than waste it in a classy restaurant in the name of romance....

Timbuktou:


Go dutch? In Nigeria? Only a measly 0.06% would ever consider this, and an even smaller percentage would carry through.

Stillfire:


Thank God you noted the difference. The aggression can cause a 2000 pound ship to capsize.

Stillfire:


Haa Coogar. It's the economy that caused it.
When a Naija woman says a man is caring, it's all about money o.

coogar:


this was why i said different strokes for different folks in my first comment - from my own experience, the ladies would rather couch up with me at home - watch movies, watch football or play video games. they actually suggest coming to my place than taking them out on a date.........i guess some of them are trying to portray the good girl rather than the gold digging heifer.

i mean the only reason a man would be adamant to collect a girl's number is to take her to bed. sexual attraction comes first before he even summoned up the courage to say hi. any man who tells you differently is a bloody liar.

coogar:


nigerian women don't carry their purse with them on a dinner date. their mentality is that - if you are suggesting the date, you must foot the bill.

what about the guys who cannot afford to take their chics to a posh restaurant? should they go & steal? naija men cannot win. damned if he suggests the girl should come to his house. damned if he cannot afford to foot the bill.

Timbuktou:


1. Erm, sorry, but we'll take our chances. Why spend money to build this chemistry when we can take a more economically sound route of inviting the interest to the house?

2. What happened to coming to our house and talking?

3. Oh, please, what do you mean by the terms 'street girl', 'worth', etc? If 'street girl' doesn't mean prostitute, then I have say you have grossly overrated yourself.

coogar:


it's that same economy that is forcing the men to change the venue of the romantic dinner from oceanview restaurant to their living room.

April07:

You didn't just meet them and they 'started wanting' to come over and 'chill'
You guys had some kind of relationship.. Except....

This we know
But then... They gats to be some kinda wooing..

coogar:


nigerian women don't carry their purse with them on a dinner date. their mentality is that - if you are suggesting the date, you must foot the bill.

what about the guys who cannot afford to take their chics to a posh restaurant? should they go & steal? naija men cannot win. damned if he suggests the girl should come to his house. damned if he cannot afford to foot the bill.

Stillfire:

Lol, so what should we do now? Going to a man's house is just asking for trouble. And you yourself know it.

Stillfire:

Any girl that goes to a naija man's house is just playing with fire.
If you don't have money go to the buka, abeg and buy amala and coke.
She should go to hell if she doesn't like it.

coogar:


you cannot blame them - i have that effect with naija ladies.

thank you!
i like your brutal honesty.....now that we have gotten that point out of the way, we can talk about how soon is too soon...

some ladies would wait 3-6 months, some like to wait till the wedding night & some want it instantly. wooing can be tiresome. wooing can be damned too expensive.

Stillfire:


Lol, so what should we do now? Going to a man's house is just asking for trouble. And you yourself know it.

April07:

Yeah right

Loooool... Ofcos. Of you're moving at snail's pace with your wooing and you just don't have sweet mouth, you won't last the first 3 phone calls with yours truly
Depends on the people involved o..

April07:


Who said you had to spend money to build chemistry?
What's to say I'd be comfortable 'coming to your house' to talk?
Overrated myself! Yes sir! Becos it is what it is.

damiso:
Ok I won't lie sha I never had to go Dutch (BUT I also never used to buy boxers and socks as gifts ) but I always always carried what i called 'vex money' with me on a date.

And my vex money was always enough to pay for my meal plus my cab back to my fathers house and yes coogar even if the meal was at Ocean view

Coogar and Timbuktuo girls tended to go on 'mass dates' with guys they considered magas and did not like. I always hated the idea sha. I remember one of my bros liked one girl who moved in a 6 girl clique you invite one out better go and look for money for 5 more people.

Timbuktou:


Would a date not typically involve the expenditure of money?

Who's to say I'd be comfortable sitting under a tree and talking?

Stop jumping the gun, that's a conditional statement.

April07:

Can you not be creative enough to come up with something that is fun and not expensive?

Is it about your comfort or the girl's?
If you're so determined to get her laid then you'll put up with her 'talking under tree' method


I'm responsible for what I say..what you understand on the other hand is totally your business

Timbuktou:


I dare any nairaland babe to go on a corn-and-ube date followed by a stroll. For where? If it's not grilled fish, catfish peppersoup, shawarma and tins, you can just not bother to holler at her. First date o, not when you know he has three houses and can buy a live cow every day of the week. .

Nigerian men dey light steady, dis one wey come dey yarn okpata for here no sabi wetin dey do am. E be like white mosquito done bite am.

TooNoisy:
If guys generally invite you to come to their house after just meeting you for the first time, then you must look like a runs girls.

If it just happened once or twice, then I can blame the guys but it happens very often, then you must appear cheap or an easy lay.

OP, change how you dressing, how you talk and get some class, seems you and your friends have no class.

coogar:


so the vex money has never been used to bail you out & yet you have consumed more than 30 plates of fried rice & chicken? damiso, diarisgod o.



i believe you....
so let's assume you went on one of those dates and the guy insists you go dutch....and you did......if he asks you for another date, would you go?




i never liked girls who move in gangs. it's a turn-off! take a 6-girl clique to a restaurant? i be santa claus?

coogar:


what is fun & not expensive in nigeria?

April07:


Can you not be creative enough to come up with something that is fun and not expensive?

Is it about your comfort or the girl's?
If you're so determined to get her laid then you'll put up with her 'talking under tree' method


I'm responsible for what I say..what you understand on the other hand is totally your business

damiso:

Coogar make I no lie I don't know o :Dyou sef know naija guys don't ' insist' on going Dutch. I have volunteered to pay for the popcorn at a movie and the guy was very offended (like his manhood was dependent on his ability to pay for popcorn ).

And who told you I consumed fried rice and chicken? I hated that 'hungry girl' generalisation so I almost always had only a drink esp on a first date. I know some guys who said I was 'forming ' na them know. the ability to buy me food was not a dating criteria.

I was the 'suffering One' back then I.God did not just give me the head of 'spending' boyfriends and toasters(or maybe I was always just too proud to ask).

Make I no lie my shakara was a lot.My dad used to take me and my sister Out to eat (name it from shitta amala to Terris burger to Eko Le meridien ) and so taking me to eat 'fried rice and chicken ' was not something that used to trip me.

damiso:
Ok I won't lie sha I never had to go Dutch (BUT I also never used to buy boxers and socks as gifts ) but I always always carried what i called 'vex money' with me on a date.

And my vex money was always enough to pay for my meal plus my cab back to my fathers house and yes coogar even if the meal was at Ocean view

Coogar and Timbuktuo girls tended to go on 'mass dates' with guys they considered magas and did not like. I always hated the idea sha. I remember one of my bros liked one girl who moved in a 6 girl clique you invite one out better go and look for money for 5 more people.

angieberry:
"They weren’t raised with the mentality that the home is a private place. So even if they just met a lady they are interested in, they can hang out at their house as a first date – with no ulterior motive involved on their part."
Ebelebe! These men know what they are looking for! Any man that tells you to come to his house, especially if he is not a close relative, is simply suggesting activities that goes beyond eating , talking and watching movies and hanging out. And if the girl agrees, in the man's mind, she has agreed to take part in those activities.
How many men will not try to get fresh with a lady when they are alone in his house? Biko, let me hear word. They should just accept the fact, and no decent or sensible young lady will want to visit a man alone. Too risky!