softysparky:

Very soon hun.

angieberry:
From what I can deduce from the comments, most Nigerian men are douche bags, and of course a lot of them are broke ass negroes and are hiding under the excuse that Nigerian girls are too greedy to take out on proper dates. Lame much.

noblegrex:
I've. Never seen pretenders like women in this country Nigeria. I hate all this ish about men this men that, men men men is this writer saying women are holy or what.I believe my guys in the house will agree with me that its difficult to violet a virgin.I guess u understand n we men r no fools. ladies should search their lives n knw their own flows, all they want is money n nowadays 4 u to c a good or d so called decent lady,:hmm u go sweat.

softysparky:

If only you promise to be a good boy

domopps:


Oyo ! but av done that stil don't get Op's point!

Cheeeers

Ephemmm:


But I have tried being a good boy many times, and the outcome was ridiculous.

softysparky:

Tell me about it.

vislabraye:



Come to my place or follow me to hotel, which is better ? Lol.
It's possible his place is homely and cool. You guys could wqtch TV together or look at his album.
There are several things you two can enjoy in his house. It all depends.
I won't tell a girl, come to my house on the first date. In fact, some of them even ask where do you sty ? How can you be friends with a guy and not know where he stays.
What I've also observed is that, if you invite a lady to your house, she might refuse. But if you are mobile and pick her up and drive her to your place, she'll feel special.

HARDDON:


Scrap all these rant April, COME TO MY HOUSE, need to show u something u wud mos def like.

Don't keep big deddy waiting now


@ op, two things r involved when i boy invites u over to em crib, u mentioned one but left out the other:

1) Short circuit d thingy n get down to brass track...this u mentioned.

2) the second reason is that guys know women luv soft enviromns, so he invites her over to show off d posh crib........ Hv u seen where a guy whose crib isnt toushed invites any gurl over? Nah!
He shows off his crib to make her fall easily......
It has been proven that If she can feel at home, soft tones filtering @ da background, temperature well regulated, a lil food n wine, things she never PLANNED FOR CAN ALWAYS HAPPEN! it has been happening...

Aftermath statements: did we just do that? Can't bliv we just did that, What just happened?
While she is saying all this, guy, go to d rest room, those Q's r rhetoric. 5 mins later, he be digging it again!

Ladies, Ladies!


Or shld I mention d ones that says they'd luv a more comfortable place? Signaling ur crib?

Op leave matter

decode55:

You

Nmeri17:
my guy kee your way?? e don tey smor o

decode55:


Yeah. What's up with you? What's new?

bukatyne:
All Nigerian girls are gold diggers?

All Nigerian guys are dogs

@OP:

I believe no guy will force you to his house. If you are not interested, politely decline.

Abi na by force?

Is it everything a guy asks of you that you do

I don't see a reason for complaint here.

Teach sisters instead to be firmer and more assertive

@Dates: some girls do not think it is safe going out alone on a first date.

You can do couples date: get a friend with a BF and go on a date. You both can be on different tables so you have your privacy while safe

You can go with your friends (inform your bf forehand) and put a knife to your throat. Proverbs say eat with wisdom at a rich man's table. It is not the time to taste all the delicacies you have only dreamt of.

@Going to his house: when you finally decide to go to his house, comport yourself if you do not want sex. It is foolish for a girl to remove her top or start reclining and caressing him or rubbing your body against his with style if you do not want some.

He is human too and will take it as green light . When I start doing gummy gummy near my husband or parading, I know what I want and I get it.

I hear about date/friendly rape a lot.

milliondollas:
The community of ladies who are tired of the “come to my
house syndrome” Are u all virgins ? I asked because you are asking for respect due to virgin girls only, 99% of girls are prostitute who date old men for money, nonsense

FROkoroMiss:
But I must also say thank you for sharing this, even though I said so in my comment before.
If the due credit is rectified, fine - it should be duly credited (I hope admin is seeing this?)

Learning a lot from the comments and I hope a real man can change his ways from this article.
The ladies too can learn to place value on ourselves...we can act like the worthy vessels and prize that we are.
He says my house. You say no. End of matter.
Act like you want to be treated, we might have made mistakes in the past(myself inclusive) but we can correct them now.

Thank you again for sharing.

blublahd:
wait wait
You and I both know what the what the endgame is, so why not cut the boring formalities and head straight to business? There would be plenty of time for that if need be.

coogar:
different strokes for different folks....

from my own personal experience, nigerian ladies actually prefer coming to the house than going out to eat somewhere. all those church girls who love doing things behind closed doors would never agree to go out on a date where they can be seen & gossiped about. they would rather chop & clean mouth.

johnnday222:
I have just 1question for you op.
is there anything real about ladies?
I mean you ladies of today.so you expect a decent man to come your way,when with just an update from people around you about a rich guy all you will want is to run and meet his parent that you are the wife to be. or what do you say about the oloshos? and the last time I checked during the days of our ancestors,they don't go to eatries and back then 'bitches' are still loyal.is it a must we meet at the eatry or go for movies?that not what our parents does then and yet they had fun and cherish the time they spent as didn

pearlyn:

**seriously??**

coogar:


sometimes - they even ask for takeaways after devouring their meal in the restaurant

mumbasa:
Nigerian women see sex as a charitable gift to the man.

In Dia brains they will be like “ how dare he invite me to his house he wants to have sex with me”

But if he gives you that iPhone as a gift or spend as much as 10k to 40k with you in a day you never sit down to think“ this is unfair what have I ever contributed to his life to receive this much”

Life is give and take.

If you think it's disgusting that he asked you for sex, don't ever accept any form of gift you didn't work for from him , it's disgusting too not romantic.

Like Iyanya would say " Na me dey put am ( penn1s) in the hood( vag1na) so baby COME OVER MY PLACEE OOH!!"

If you make it all about money he will make it all about sex so

After the reggae ( spending and dancing) play the blues ( Romance and sex)