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Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by charles316: 12:16am On Jun 22, 2015 |
demelza: Biatch,you are so uncouth. This is the reason that guy dumped you . 3 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SAMBARRY: 12:48am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Tundeiab:ok |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by cococandy(f): 1:12am On Jun 22, 2015 |
firstEVA:who are the non-feminists? The ones that enjoy being cheated on and believe that's their place in life? 5 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Stillfire: 1:51am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Nonso23: Hmm. |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SirAweezy(m): 6:07am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Look at how people are telling you to move out of your husband house, like its a closed case of one condemned criminal which willl never repent. My dear coming to table this first on NL shows how naïve and how young you are. Funny how many who advises you will not even have the liver to leave their man. Many are so jealous and looking for half of what you've got. Well you can move out, end the marriage for all I care.. His real wife will come one day and she will stay. And seriously you'll become a tale. However, the truth is your husband is also confused as to what sex really is, this is the real problem with most men especially the younger ones who get married early and in the mid thirty(s). They tend to love their women but seek adventure outside for sometime. Some survive with lessons, some don't. The real issue here is your husband is still growing.. Well before you go think of the kind of man he is apart from how he has hurt you, and if you can talk to him and make him realize.. He is got everything he needs from other women in you. Be abit erotic with your dressing at home.. Always keep your bosom in suspense etc..(Part of the so call adventure that makes a man wants a lady). Don't let me bore you.. Well if your mind is made up to move out... Peace be with you. Leave him and let him find a another half. Goodluck. 5 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by rman: 6:44am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Nonso23: 1,000,000 likes Spot on! 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Tay16(f): 7:10am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Some marriage virgins for good reasons and some dont. Your man is clearly the latter, he keeps an inexperienced wife at home who he is convinced will not cheat on him while he brings other women into his house and disrespects his wife when she is not around. Well you clearly are getting played. Its up to you to decide. Be the trophy wife that you are and keep him and endure the heartache cause im sure this wont be the last time he does it. Or leave the marriage and wait for someone mature enough to stay committed to you. he may not come by easily but surely you will meet someone who is more concerned with protecting you and not hurting you. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Tay16(f): 7:12am On Jun 22, 2015 |
SirAweezy:you would give the same advice for a man with a cheating wife? 6 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by dBard: 7:22am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Onegai: Well said |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Tay16(f): 7:22am On Jun 22, 2015 |
cococandy:correct babe |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Tay16(f): 7:25am On Jun 22, 2015 |
bukatyne:what can you say, they are simply defending their own kind. |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SirAweezy(m): 7:25am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Tay16: Yes I'll !! (Eventhough in this case they weren't married yet) I remember... My ex of 5years cheated on me with a lecturer in OAU that year.. Caught them pants down, and I was still willing to make it work after a year they were still seeing and I confronted her with proofs and she admitted thinking I'll end it.. The least I did was to withdraw the engagement ring I gave to her and tell her to prove she has change. You wouldn't want to know what happened at the end. But all are stories now and I'm still me. Sometimes you make it work(not forcing to work though). But in this case the OP needs to be patient for real. (My spirit tells me she will be the loser at long last). That guy will grow up for real. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Tay16(f): 7:29am On Jun 22, 2015 |
SirAweezy:you broke off an engagement in your situation but you expect her to endure why? And the reason why i wouldnt want to know what happened in the end is because you didnt end up marrying her right? Why get married with you are mentally mature or emotionally ready for it? How exactly will losing him be her loss when he is the one causing her misery? Unless we are trying to teach women that suffering in a marriage is a good thing? Who said the next man to marry her wont be lucky to have her? Unlike wine cheating doesnt get better with age. 9 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SirAweezy(m): 7:37am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Tay16: I didn't end the relationship... She left out of guilt (she ended it.. Cuz I was to good for her) I caught her with another man. Funny enough she's from a wealthy home. But I couldn't understand it. I've been married for years... And I can tell you.. Temptation everywhere and neither am I a saint. I grow everyday to discover my home is everything and should not be compromised.. The truth: when a man has more money.. Please he'll definitely catch a bug on temptation (note this). Not everyman survives it. But we grow and grow to know what our needs are.. And how well we should live. 2 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Tay16(f): 7:48am On Jun 22, 2015 |
SirAweezy:which is why people should only get married when they are matured enough for the commitment. Just because you intentionally did something all in the name of temptation does not mean you should expect your spouse to endure it because " you are still growing". If what you are telling me is "not every man can have self-control" then it means " not every man is built for marriage". There are mistakes that are forgiveable but cheating on your spouse on your matrimonial bed and recording it, simply isnt one of them. People need to stop making excuses for such bad behaviour. 5 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SirAweezy(m): 7:53am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Tay16: Actually... In the case of the OP hubby.. The guy went far.. To have even recorded it... And also bring a lady home few days to their wedding... But I think he deserve a second chance! 2 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by troy20(m): 8:12am On Jun 22, 2015 |
seedord247:all feminists are bipolar. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by dBard: 8:22am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Joavid: He speaks the Truth. It's important for couples in a relationship to Bond, and bonding cannot be done in d aforementioned places. What happened to taking long walks or just chilling together so u can talk, read n understand each other. It's such situations that give rise t threads like this. @ o.p..Lemme tell you what a lot of ppl are too considerate t say...You have a part t play/responsibility in Ur own tragedy. You got warned prior to the wedding, u didn't investigate but obviously it left a mark hence Ur snooping ( the recycle bin Is one of the Most unlikely places f ppl t pop into except they looking f something). About Ur Marriage, it most likely won't survive this. Your husband's a wandering dic.k, that has No respect for the marriage. A mistake is having sex with , maybe an ex, prior to d white, premeditated is Recording It. Also, he's clearly bringing prostitutes into Ur home with the connivance of his friends. Introduction is a contract of future marriage, and that should be a basis for future commitment. Add to that, the fact that he u gave Ur PreCious, priceless virginity to. Confront him, preferably outside d house (to avoid stories that touch), and also Talk to an Elderly, Long married, respectable fellow/ preferable,couple t help u put tins in proper perspective, but eventually the Choice of wat to do next is urs. 2 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by dBard: 8:39am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Nonso23: This is just an 'A' class summary of the situation we find ourselves now. This is. New Thread worth bruv, and if u don't open it, I will. No apologies. Ppl need t see n read what you've written. 2 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 8:55am On Jun 22, 2015 |
cococandy:well, I believe advising the lady in question to walk out of her marriage because her husband cheated before marriage is extreme. There is no issue that cannot be resolved, that is why it's important for emotional maturity before anyone embarks on the journey of marriage. If everyone backs out on marriage for every reason, the institution becomes worthless, it's my view though. I believe a woman or man should only end his/marriage where life is threatened. 3 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by troy20(m): 8:57am On Jun 22, 2015 |
her husband in her discription is perfect, kind, the dream man.she was happy couldnt believe her luck snagging such a man.i mean she had to be.hard to find those kinda men these days.doubt i'll be half that good with my best efforts.she was fulfilld until she found some pre-wedding rump(emphasis on the pre) made as sex tapes deleted after he wedded her.common now this can be resolved.men have all sorts of sexual fantasies just that many dont have the courage to explore them; various societal conventions have supressed these fantasies and more so for our respect for the institution of marriage.its just the way we were wired its not easy fighting your nature you know.its just like fighting God.her man has been very lucky to enjoy those fantasies in his bachelorhood and he seem happy and now focused in his new union so why she go digging up dirt if she didnt have an idea of the man she married? After everything he'had been to her now he is monster like some women are trying to discribe here.this is wicked! And frankly if she quits this union like you women want, then she dont even deserve him. |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Nobody: 9:00am On Jun 22, 2015 |
It's amazing how calm I feel. Its amazing that I havent pulled out my hair. That I havent shouted the house down. That I havent broken every single electronic that I can lay my hands on. Forget it that was before your marriage and now he is committed to you I think you should focus on your marriage and leave his past life. The babe u found on top of him are the once that would have crash your marriage now he has finished them he will not go back to them.infact, be happy |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by Sleekbaby(f): 10:29am On Jun 22, 2015 |
If I understood wot u wrote very well u said 20 days b4 ur wedding n u were a virgin den. Let 4 me I will advice u 4get abt it, lets take it to mean dt bcoz u were a virgin den he couldn't touch till after wedding n dt was wot led him to do such. Pretend as if nothing happened I believe dt if actually he has not turned a new leaf dt he will still repeat it again n dt time u will have concrete evidence to do wot ever u wish to do. Note I did not support wot he did, his actions were very wrong, imagine making love to a gal n dubbing it, is very wrong but u hv to save ur marriage. |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by bukatyne(f): 10:49am On Jun 22, 2015 |
SirAweezy: Your ex? LOL! Why do all the guys who claim they forgive cheating girlfriends always refer to them as exes? Funny! 8 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by bukatyne(f): 10:52am On Jun 22, 2015 |
dBard: @Bold; 100% on point! |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by bukatyne(f): 10:54am On Jun 22, 2015 |
cococandy: It's human nature |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by bukatyne(f): 10:56am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Tay16: |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SirAweezy(m): 11:28am On Jun 22, 2015 |
bukatyne: I was ready to maeke it work but 2 years later she called it quit.. owing to the fact that she too guilty after I caught her with a man. See example of men forgiven is not so far... I know a footballer very popular one at club 10 those days, his wife over cheated on him. Even many warned him to leave the woman, but he did not......... The whole nation knows he bought a car worth over 40m naira for her just to celebrate her birthday last year or so... I know the guy very well. So don't say men leave a cheating partner to the past only. |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by bukatyne(f): 11:31am On Jun 22, 2015 |
SirAweezy: Jay Jay? The general consensus is men do not forgive Thanks |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by kandiikane(m): 11:43am On Jun 22, 2015 |
SirAweezy: Your feeling tells you she will be a loser in the long run? The woman is not relying on the husband, she has her own money, no kids, marriage was only two months ago, she seems young. You must be high on acid. 5 Likes |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by SirAweezy(m): 11:50am On Jun 22, 2015 |
kandiikane: Don't worry son, when you grow up you understand my post. Do you think it's all about self sufficiency? It is well with you. 1 Like |
Re: My God! My God!! Who Have I Married?? by kandiikane(m): 11:54am On Jun 22, 2015 |
SirAweezy: Well, daddy, why don't you make me understand your post. Tell me why she will suffer in the long run. Is he the only one with preek around? It shall be well with you too. |
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