KanwuliaJara:


Which wan consine you na?

Is that your afro
Welcome to the club menh. Mine is a little longer than yours

My Dad is 1,2 and sometimes 3.

He has refused to accept my Sister and I are now married. He still bombards us with calls every other day.



Kanwulia your Mum is an inspiration. She didnt wait for God or Allah to come down before taking control of her own life.

This was your first post on this thread.

KanwuliaJara:


#1 & #2 ONLY!

Meaning your dad was loving and a disciplinarian.

Then here you again:

KanwuliaJara:


I loved mine too!
ONLY BECAUSE HE DID NOT KNOW ANY BETTER, being raised in the HELL HOLE OF A LOVELESS, AFRICAN JUNGLE, repeating the mistakes of his BULLISH ancestors!

My mama try to stay with am for ONLY 8 years!
Getting her pregnant EVERY GADDEM year with his ANIMALISTIC, PSYCHO-RELIGIOUS sexual urges that produced almost 5 children in LESS THAN 4 years, WAS THE HEIGHT OF WICKEDNESS AND DOMESTIC ABUSE!!!!'
My mom had to RRRRRRRRUN for her dear life ke!

He never beat her with his hands!

But DAMMMMMN!
She suffered BY HIS BLOKOS!!!!
By 24, she had produced 4 children. . . 2 IN ONE YEAR!!!

Toto nefa dry. . . . E don jump h-enter o!
See life?

And again:

KanwuliaJara:


So?
Where do you think I got my "EXORSIST AGGRESSIVE" behavior from?
My dad of course! The DUDE shouted from DAWN TO DUSK! Even in his SLEEP UNPROVOKED!
Angry DADS who are ALWAYS BROKE breed HUNGRY AND ANGRY CHILDREN!!!!

My super-darling MOM ALWAYS RESCUED US O!!!!

Amen!!!!

And this:

KanwuliaJara:



LOL!!!!
Thank you jare!!!!

We all had NAIJA dads abi?
Broke-azzzze frustrated DEMONS!

The truth be always BITTER!
The lists of NEGATIVITIES are ENDLESS!

*dis thread go disappear soon. Saving snap-shots in my NL archives offline*

And this:

KanwuliaJara:


Please, speak or write for yourself o!

Naija dads? Hmmmmm!
Communication? ZERO!
Afectioneering? ZERO!
We all hated our dads growing up!
Why? Every NIGERIAN child HAS THE VISCERAL knowledge of what DYSFUNCTION tastes and feels like!

The most BRUTAL, SELFISH and YEAH SCHIZOID creatures that should be castrated at BIRTH!

Are you really OKAY kanwu?

KanwuliaJara:


Which wan consine you na?
Irrelevant!

Am just very concerned as Sambarry is too

Chillisauce:


Is not a Naija thing. Stvpidity is inbreed.
I used to have a senior roomate who graduated with very high 2:1 in Chemical Engineering. Immediately after school she got married and started breeding galore, only for husband to open second hand okrika clothes for her to sell

My little sis saw her in the market and the look on her face .
I mean why study with such a good grade only to throw it all away. You could as well start your second hand business and give chance to those looking for admission.

But that's exactly the point I'm making.

She probably rushed to get married and to one way beneath her (in terms of academic achievement) because of the society's mentality towards young girls of marriageable ages. A society where most people believe that the next big thing in a girl's life immediately after graduation is to get married and have kids. More emphasis is placed on breeding than on further improving one's self / career.

I can't even begin to tell you how so many of the girls I knew back in Uni used to panic about not getting themselves husbands or at least fiancees by their final year. Each time we returned from holidays, the talk would be something like, "Oh, did you know that Mary / Theresa / Helen go married? When is my own happening na?"

kaboninc:


Am just very concerned as Sambarry is too

Concerned about what?
Apparently, you both have other 'tinz' bothering you!
Sorry, I can't help you!

kaboninc:
This was your first post on this thread.



Meaning your dad was loving and a disciplinarian.

Then here you again:


And again:



And this:


And this:



Are you really OKAY kanwu?

Please, make your contributions!
Yes, my dad was loving in THE DYDFUNCTIONAL AFRICAN WAY!

We have no other choices do we?
Poverty in AFRICA is a CARDINAL SIN!

KanwuliaJara:


Concerned about what?
Apparently, you both have other 'tinz' bothering you!
Sorry, I can't help you!

Concerned about your well being.

I do care about you dear

kaboninc:


Concerned about your well being.

I do care about you dear

Since when?
Still on the subject!
Somebody cares about me on NL of all places?

Back to SENDER!!!!
Tufiakwaaaaaaaaaah ooooooooh!

KanwuliaJara:


Please, make your contributions!
Yes, my dad was loving in THE DYDFUNCTIONAL AFRICAN WAY!

We have no other choices do we?
Poverty in AFRICA is a CARDINAL SIN!

No dear. Poverty is not a sin. Poverty my dear is relative.

With the description of your dad, he is in no way loving by any standard or measure.

KanwuliaJara:


Since when?
Still on the subject!
Somebody cares about me on NL of all places?

Back to SENDER!!!!
Tufiakwaaaaaaaaaah ooooooooh!

You are rejecting true love and care on Nairaland?

Is that you own way of showing your own love? By rejecting it?

kaboninc:


No dear. Poverty is not a sin. Poverty my dear is relative.

With the description of your dad, he is in no way loving by any standard or measure.

Then you never had an African DAD YOU KNEW!
Pele o!
Abeg! I don tok my own.
Waka dey go!

kaboninc:


You are rejecting true love and care on Nairaland?

Is that you own way of showing your own love? By rejecting it?

I BIND IT!
I CAST IT!
I REBUKE IT!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10M60dGcDoI

KanwuliaJara:


Then you never had an African DAD YOU KNEW!
Pele o!

I do have an AFRICAN DAD.

You do have your own definition of an African dad.

I am more interested in you.

KanwuliaJara:


I BIND IT!
I CAST IT!
I REBUKE IT!

These are words you type.

I am really concerned about you.

Do we go to a friendly atmosphere were we can chat, like friends?

kaboninc:


I do have an AFRICAN DAD.

You do have your own definition of an African dad.

I am more interested in you.

Interested in who?
Abeg point that radar somewhere else o!
I am not a fan of attention-seeking or giving on of of NL!
Thanks!

kaboninc:


These are words you type.

I am really concerned about you.

Do we go to a friendly atmosphere were we can chat, like friends?

Chat offline with a NL?
Does lightening strike 2ice in one house?
Over my dead POOHSIE!!!!

EfemenaXY:


But that's exactly the point I'm making.

She probably rushed to get married and to one way beneath her (in terms of academic achievement) because of the society's mentality towards young girls of marriageable ages. A society where most people believe that the next big thing in a girl's life immediately after graduation is to get married and have kids. More emphasis is placed on breeding than on further improving one's self / career.

I can't even begin to tell you how so many of the girls I knew back in Uni used to panic about not getting themselves husbands or at least fiancees by their final year. Each time we returned from holidays, the talk would be something like, "Oh, did you know that Mary / Theresa / Helen go married? When is my own happening na?"

Marriage is a very good thing when with the right person. But in a system like Nigeria where if you happen to leave your career to focus 24hrs on home front your husband decides one day to chase you out, where will you start from?

KanwuliaJara:


The woman STROOOOOOONG!!!!
When my papa QUENCH finish, after over 30 years of FINAL divorce decree, NA SHE BUILD HOUSE FOR AM FOR IM VILLAGE, PAY OFF ALL IM DEBT AND HELPED US TO BURY HIM!

My joy?
He went to HER HOUSE to THANK HER BEFORE HE DIED!

Any body he saw, he will be shouting "MAKE UNA HELP ME THANK ANWULI O". . . And be crying IN TOP!

Good! As a NAIJA MAN MAKES HIS BED, so he DIES IN IT!

Dem go take ANGER AND WAHALA KEEEE DEMSEFS KE. . . . Dem family go dey shout winch-winch!

Dem go dey SHOUT ASSSHAWO! ASSSSHAWO! Dey beg you for money to h-enter grave!

If my mamma nor LOVE US ehn? My papa for SUFFER ke!


The reason my sister and I took after MY MOM, having long realized that NAIJA MEN ARE ONLY GOOD FOR BREEEEDING!

Nothing to OFFER BUT TO PULL A WOMAN DOWN!

In their dreams or NIGHTMARES!

I don show my husband PEPPER KE!
Make e come pass SHOUT for my pikins dem head or DARE BEAT DEM, say e wan discipline dem ke!

I go KILLLLLLAM!!!!

Psychos!

Mtcheeeeeeeew!!!!!

Lolllllll.
If your mother in her time had the guts to leave, what on earth is preventing these new-age married ones who are enduring worse in their marriages from saying enough is enough?

KanwuliaJara:


I BIND IT!
I CAST IT!
I REBUKE IT!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10M60dGcDoI

Back to topic please!!!!!
Daughters of PSYCHO-LOVING DADS repppppping!!!!!!

Chillisauce:


Is that your afro
Welcome to the club menh. Mine is a little longer than yours

Haa the afro sisters. I'm natural too, but I do wear wigs o. E no easy abeg.

KanwuliaJara:


Chat offline with a NL?
Does lightening strike 2ice in one house?
Over my dead POOHSIE!!!!

I never said we'd be chatting offline.

I trust you would cherish your anonymous identity.

We can go to a friendly thread.....

KanwuliaJara:
Back to topic please!!!!!
Daughters of PSYCHO-LOVING DADS repppppping!!!!!!

You wanna consider my offer?

Stillfire:


Haa the afro sisters. I'm natural too, but I do wear wigs o. E no easy abeg.

you can make braids.
Its very difficult to maintain but what is easier?

1 and 2. 4 is neither here nor there

Loving - yes, he loved his children to death

Disciplinarian - You can say that again, his house, his rules. He taught me first how to defy societal norms. I didn't even realize I was watching and learning then.

Religious - neither here nor there. He was an ECN christain - goes to church only on Easter Sunday, Christmas and New Year but God help that kid that is late for mass on Sunday.

I miss you Daddy.

kaboninc:


You wanna consider my offer?

No!
NEVER!!!!
Did I ever intimate you that I was looking for "friends" from NL to "chat" with on or offline?
I go go chat with ISIS members f"O"st o!
Twa!!!!!!

Chillisauce:

you can make braids.
Its very difficult to maintain but what is easier?

Yes braids too as well. I just don't like sitting down for that.
My hair grows better natural, it makes up for the difficulty sha.

Chillisauce:


Marriage is a very good thing when with the right person. But in a system like Nigeria where if you happen to leave your career to focus 24hrs on home front your husband decides one day to chase you out, where will you start from?

Why do you guys always ascribe this issue only to Nigeria as if it happens no where other than Nigeria?

Why do you feel that it is only in Nigeria a man can decide to chase a woman out of the home (forgetting that something must have caused it)?

Are the men in other countries saints? Is it only in Nigeria you find such wrong persons? Did you not marry a Nigerian?

KanwuliaJara:


No!
NEVER!!!!
Did I ever intimate you that I was looking for "friends" from NL to "chat" with on or offline?

*Modified*

Never and yet you are kissing me?

I like you oh.

At least I don't hide my thoughts. That's why I am concerned.

LOL!!!!!!

You did not tell me. But you did not also come here to make enemies...did you?

kaboninc:

*Modified*

Never and yet you are kissing me?

I like you oh.

At least I don't hide my thoughts. That's why I am concerned.

LOL!!!!!!

You did not tell me. But you did not also come here to make enemies...did you?

Thanks!
Now, let us see you focus on the thread more!

KanwuliaJara:

Thanks!
Now, let us see you focus on the thread more!

Am focusing on the thread.

Are you?