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The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by wenson(m): 10:30am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Growing up, a woman’s virginity was such a big issue and a high value was placed on it. From time immemorial, a woman’s virginity has been seen as one of her most prized possessions and a certain respect was accorded to any woman who remained a virgin till marriage. But with modernization came a new school which places less value on a woman’s virginity. These days, virginity is even seen as a curse. Girls have no qualms losing it to the first man that comes their way. In the days of old, a maiden was expected to go into marriage as a virgin. If on the first night after the marriage her husband discovered she was not a virgin, her family gets instant condemnation. But civilization has substantially changed the way people perceive virginity. Today, there’s so much pressure on girls to gain s*xual experience before getting married as some men do not want to marry a woman with no s*xual experience. Most girls who have friends that are already sexually active feel left out when they are discussing their experiences, hence the urge to also experiment for themselves. Virgins are really very scarce these days as majority loose it even before the age of 20. Some girls even compete among themselves who would be the first to lose her virginity. But what is the big deal about virginity? Could it be the secret to a happy marriage? Let’s take a look at some of the answers given by some Naij.com readers. According to Ella Ada Obani, being a virgin does not guarantee a happy marriage but it earns trust. “You might be a virgin, but ur attitude and character is zero,” she adds. Owomoyela Abimbola Hanna said: “Yes it does, because the bible doesn’t support s*x before marriage. And whenever we do things according to the will of God, we live a happy and fulfilled life.” “It pays to be a virgin. If you are a virgin when you pray, God answers you speedily because you have kept yourself pure. Secondly, it is only a foolish man or a ‘man dog’ that does not have value for a virgin. Do you know what it cost a lady to preserve her indecency for just one man? Any husband that happens to be the first to drink from the cistern of his wife should count himself blessed. 2yrs ago, Imo state government was giving out cars to serving female corpers that got married as virgin. Let us teach our children to uphold their virginity. Your virginity is your pride ,”Ebony Celestine said. Anekwe Nkechi believes that some girls are still virgin in 20’s but it has nothing to do with happiness in marriage. She explains that some virgins find it difficult to conceive, saying: “ so virgin or no virgin doesn’t guarantee anything .” Justynoble Ben is of the opinion that being a virgin can guarantee a happy marriage to some extent because your husband will always respect and cherish you and with that he will hardly hurt you. “I f I am given such privilege to be a virgin again, I would love to be ,” he adds. Eno Jonah said: “It doesn’t guarantee a successful marriage but you’ll be happy about not having a dark past. Your husband will always respect you for that, if given another chance I’ll still be a virgin for him again.” “The answer to this question is Yes & No. Being a virgin guarantees a happy home as your hubby will cherish you like gold not only that, he won’t have the mind to cheat on you and you also earn respect trust from him. On the other hand, why I say it doesn’t guarantee a happy marriage is when you are married to the wrong person. I am a virgin and am very proud of myself, still love to be a virgin again in my next life,” Muslihat Obomeghie said. Another reader named Jane Odukwe said: “My question is the man coming to marry a virgin, is he a virgin? Typical no, so why is he looking for a virgin? Sounds as if making marriage work is made for women alone. What about the men, can’t they put effort to see that their marriage works too .” It is quite understandable that the pressure to remain a virgin till marriage has become more and more difficult in today’s world which celebrates waywardness, immorality, indecency and stupidity more than uprightness and decency. But there are still a number of virgins out there and you can be one of them. If you desire to, all you need to do is make up your mind and determine to keep your virginity till marriage. Though it is not very easy, it is possible. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 10:35am On Jul 04, 2015 |
I'm a virgin any question |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 10:35am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Maxcollins042(m): 10:42am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Hmmm, if you are a virgin hit the LIKE button (Operation survey the rate of virgins in Nigeria) 18 Likes |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by sinaj(f): 10:43am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Hmm nice one op only if they reward Vs. in Nigeria, premarital sex will b controlled |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 10:49am On Jul 04, 2015 |
sinaj:space booker |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 10:49am On Jul 04, 2015 |
mrsefan:nope non atall |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by sinaj(f): 10:50am On Jul 04, 2015 |
PervyByNature:lol gud a.m pervy |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by mjames: 10:52am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Immoral, fornicators and adulterers will speak against it with all their strenght to silence their conscience |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 10:52am On Jul 04, 2015 |
sinaj:Morning babe. Howz ya weekend? |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by zealot4me(f): 10:54am On Jul 04, 2015 |
OK! |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 10:55am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Aside from the bibles view-point, there is absolutely nothing wrong in having sex once you're legal. So OP...... Leave story 1 Like |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by wenson(m): 11:10am On Jul 04, 2015 |
PervyByNature: Aside 4rm d Bible view-point? y will u overlook d Bible's view-point in d 1st place boss? 2 Likes |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by wenson(m): 11:11am On Jul 04, 2015 |
mjames:You are very correct bro 1 Like |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by wenson(m): 11:12am On Jul 04, 2015 |
mrsefan:How old are u? |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Genea(f): 11:13am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Team V all d way |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by wenson(m): 11:15am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Genea:Virgin kwanu? |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Genea(f): 11:20am On Jul 04, 2015 |
wenson:yes?? Virgin na |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by piicity(m): 11:22am On Jul 04, 2015 |
Virgin+ Hmm but hardly can you find 80 virgin on Nairaland. DON'T MENTION ME OO |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 11:23am On Jul 04, 2015 |
wenson:I didnt overlook it bro... Its just that staying away from sx is hard in this generation. The people that wrote these rules only lived in a time when bogus gowns where the most fashionable items. Today we have to fight with the sight of thick chics on mini-skirts,leggings,spandex,crop-tops,bum shorts,LBD's. etc.. Its even worse when you're a handsome-successful bachelor. Its too hard mehn.. |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 11:25am On Jul 04, 2015 |
[center][/center]NKECHI is wrong,virgin do not affect ur fertility |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by sinaj(f): 12:09pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
PervyByNature: goin fyn |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by wenson(m): 1:21pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Andrew114:Can u prove it? |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by wenson(m): 1:22pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
PervyByNature:I agree wid u bro |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by wenson(m): 1:23pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Genea:Are u talking abt ursef or ur 1st daughter? |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 1:40pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
wenson:so any body dat is a virgin would find it hard to give birth abi?smh |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 2:43pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
mrsefan:Probably you are 14yrs or 12yrs old, Next |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Plakahshhs: 4:28pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
ok |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Goodyshoes(m): 4:41pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Lolz.... |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by pablus: 5:05pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
how about a woman who is still a virgin at 38 years old? 1 Like |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by Nobody: 5:30pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Stnry! |
Re: The Sad Truth About Virginity And How It Affects Marriage by UncleLondon: 5:32pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Guys be wishing they had one as a partner and ladies be wishing they were one, but when this is not possible they say it is outdated, no one cares, it is a measure of lack of opportunity. |
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