Jacksparrow0712:
That 'thing' has been put on ignored. He wanted my attention. Not gonna give it to him. Area mama you be rakunmi. Elede

oochi123:
.u wey ur mama don forget u. Born trowey. See hair like shit. Common go comot dat were tin wey u put for head.irresponsible born trowey pikin.no responsible girl wil ever marry a tout dat wears earring. Shashasha! Da iska.just be gud.wnt waste my time again. Enjoy. Immature rat

DrGroove:
Your wife is using defense mechanism on you.
Which is by giving you showing you less affection,being unromantic n cold towards you.
Because naturally,when you show somebody too much affection,they don't appreciate it
Most times,when a woman makes a man feels too loved,is too romantic and attached to the man,the man begins to feel like alpha n omega,gets choked,tired,unappreciative and takes her for granted.
He will even cheat on her n rub it on her face and maltreat her,knowing it will hurt her deeply.
But as she is not sending you,see as e dey make u loyal and nice,even helping with housework.Lol
I don't blame her!

vincent7447:
[color=#006600][/color]Bro we are in the same shoes,my own wife even deny me of sex all in the name of work.
Each time I initiate sex,she tells me word like this, I am tired,I have headache, I am sick, I have backache, an endless excuses which often piece me off and when I push further she tells me that I am selfish that I don't care about her and so on.

donald14:
Bro, i have 1 good logic that will work 4u like a magic. First, u will need 2 women to play this part 4u secretly. One of the women will be are tight friend she trust and the other woman will be just a woman she don't know. Here goes the plan, u call her are tight friend and explain what is going on and that u need her help. Now this is what u will plan with her. Tell her that she should tell your wife that she is secretly seeing another woman with u and u still plan with her how your wife is going to believe the whole story. Again, u plan with other woman where u will be meeting every 9t but should be outside. This is were her tight friend will took her to d joint to see u and the woman. Now, if your wife is shy now u will know. This is when her brain will start to reset and she will change but don't show her affectionate feelings if she is showing u always be a pretender and believe her body will be warm METHOD 2: very simple, create a rumor that u want to take in another wife. Believe me will be worried and if she called u and discuss the issue with u tell her that the person u want to marry show u affectionate feeling she buy u gift, she do this, she do that and she is véry kind now she will regret all what u told her meanwhile not knowing u are playing fool out of her.

yemi1261:
My dear, I understand and share your pain, I suffer similar fate in the hand of my wife.
She is just too cold to me, nothing I do intrest her, we do not engage in any romantic play or discussion at home, everything is strictly formal, am a very passionate person as well. On several occasion, I have called her to talk over it but she just would not change.
Am contemplating cheating now cos am not enjoying her at all.for how long would I live with thisno love marriage?

yemi1261:
My dear, I understand and share your pain, I suffer similar fate in the hand of my wife.
She is just too cold to me, nothing I do intrest her, we do not engage in any romantic play or discussion at home, everything is strictly formal, am a very passionate person as well. On several occasion, I have called her to talk over it but she just would not change.
Am contemplating cheating now cos am not enjoying her at all.for how long would I live with thisno love marriage?

coolsegun2002:
Ur case is a sensitive one..my mum is marriage counsellor nd she's been at it for 20yrs....I read someof her file cases anytime I visit her.to be candid ur case is a bit common..like u said ...u love her..u might need to do more dan u av done...like prayer...
Why?? It couldbe spiritual ..I saw one of the file cases after diliverance...the lady happen to have spiritual husband nd kids..making her share only her body sexuallly with her physical husband but not her heart.she wasn't even allowed to concieve orhave kids in this physical world according to her confessions..
2)Out of desperation some ladies just marry a guy cos time is rolling by nd all their friends are gettin married...without genuine love...its quite clear wateva someone does will be out of reluctancy....I'm not saying ur wife's case is either of the two I stated oooo...its just dat u need to do more than u are doing now I to win her heart..

germainediva:
The best way to get any woman to love you is to ignore her...........women get irritated with too much attenntion

charlezok:
I am a 36 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and good looking. I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not. I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact. I don't understand why she's so cold to me. I love her with all my heart, but she is breaking me down. I have tried doing more of the housework, working out 5 days a week, anything I could think of to get her more interested in me but nothing works. She tells me that she loves me, but she doesn't make me feel loved at all. I want her to want to be with me without me asking her too. We have 2 kids that I am committed to being here for, so I am at a loss as to what I should do. Sorry for rambling, but a brother needs help here.

charlezok:
I am a 36 year old man in pretty good shape, 6'2" and good looking. I am a very affectionate and loving person, but my wife is not. I am always the one to initiate sex, hugs, kisses, or any type of physical contact. I don't understand why she's so cold to me. I love her with all my heart, but she is breaking me down. I have tried doing more of the housework, working out 5 days a week, anything I could think of to get her more interested in me but nothing works. She tells me that she loves me, but she doesn't make me feel loved at all. I want her to want to be with me without me asking her too. We have 2 kids that I am committed to being here for, so I am at a loss as to what I should do. Sorry for rambling, but a brother needs help here.

harveyspec:


1. Has she always been like this? at the inception of the union or during courtship

2.if the answer to No1 is NO, start doing those things that used to thrill her & make her feel loved, this will only work on the grounds that there are no issues between you two

2a. If she is angry at you cos of what you did or did not do, then all ur entreaties will be irritating to her, so find out

2b. Find out is she is having any medical issues eg depression, is she in some kind of trouble, maybe money issues, is all well with her family etc

3.if the answer to No 1, is YES. Why then are you complaining?


4. I will recommend 5 love languages by Dr Gary chapman, go read it

It talks about how we give & show love, if you keep showing love to your wife the way u want & not how she wants, then ur efforts will be futile

eg some ladies feel loved when u spend quality with them, show them attention. If you substitute this action with gifts, you will find out no matter the gifts you buy, if you don't spend time with them it will mean nothing to them

You hear such women say" I want to spend time with my husband" while another says " my husband can travel all he wants, he should leave enough money for me & the kids"

there is nothing wrong with them, it's just their love language, so if u spend quality time with the one that loves money/gifts without the gift, all that time will amount to nothing

The love languages are

1.words of affirmation
2.gifts
3.acts of service
4.quality time
5.physical touch

Can you identify yours?
Can you identify that of your spouse?

otiigba1:
bia! nwayi oma! Kedu nke bukwa nkaa? Another woman's husband? odikwa risky! O! Anyway how you dey?

Jacksparrow0712:
Grandpa, you can even satisfy your woman sexually at home that she's sleeping around with other men. You are here forming grandpa. Your matter need TB Joshua

germainediva:
The best way to get any woman to love you is to ignore her...........women get irritated with too much attenntion

datalossvictim1:


You disappeared

Lol I said I'll show him not that I'll touch him or do anything to him

ElFenomeno1:


[s]The reason why your father is not your biological father
Your mother had to get spunked out by the village goat.... why you look like a troglodyte!
Brainless product of a reckless and unfortunate mating between a nymphomaniac mother and a randy goat
ashiere jatijati![/s]

germainediva:
The best way to get any woman to love you is to ignore her...........women get irritated with too much attenntion

Jacksparrow0712:
I am a pained impotent dweeb whose wife has been sleeping around with potent neighbours

ElFenomeno1:


Fixed

Adeyeancah:
Too much attention u say. This is a married man for crying out loud...Do you think say na bf gf thingy ni?

pointzero30:
d same is applicable to me. mine was that my husband scared me away at d begging of our union dat he does not v time for me. he gives me everytin but did nt show me luv. I was pregnant he did nt show me luv during dat period. he send me away frm his room dat d bed (6 by 6)was nt enough 4 us at 7 months pregn. am a student in different state so we r always separate but whenever I visit he will always remind me to go bak. we v two children now, I luv him but .... there r many more to it. he is now asking me to com to his bed with two children n asking me when am finishing. but when a rope is cut to tie it is hard. he asks me why I dnt demons for sex and so many others. is a long story. pls ask ur self question if u r quilty for more call me at 08039546578.

ROSSIKE:
There's no point 'discussing the situation' with your wife, op. If you have to ''discuss'' with your partner in order for her to show you basic affection, then there's really no point, as anything that comes out of that will likely be forced (pretence). Best thing is to get someone else to start some sort of relationship with and see how that goes. Don't be afraid to end the 'relationship' with your wife either.