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Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Nobody: 10:11pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
otiigba1: Lol a na ma zu afia na Russia |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by interleukin(f): 10:17pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
what was that : Demons for sex **Lmao....... Lord have mercy!!!!! I have died of laughter. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by MarieSucre(f): 10:18pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
BuddhaPalm:1. Has she always been like this? at the inception of the union or during courtship 2.if the answer to No1 is NO, start doing those things that used to thrill her & make her feel loved, this will only work on the grounds that there are no issues between you two 2a. If she is angry at you cos of what you did or did not do, then all ur entreaties will be irritating to her, so find out 2b. Find out is she is having any medical issues eg depression, is she in some kind of trouble, maybe money issues, is all well with her family etc 3.if the answer to No 1, is YES. Why then are you complaining? 4. I will recommend 5 love languages by Dr Gary chapman, go read it It talks about how we give & show love, if you keep showing love to your wife the way u want & not how she wants, then ur efforts will be futile eg some ladies feel loved when u spend quality with them, show them attention. If you substitute this action with gifts, you will find out no matter the gifts you buy, if you don't spend time with them it will mean nothing to them You hear such women say" I want to spend time with my husband" while another says " my husband can travel all he wants, he should leave enough money for me & the kids" there is nothing wrong with them, it's just their love language, so if u spend quality time with the one that loves money/gifts without the gift, all that time will amount to nothing The love languages are 1.words of affirmation 2.gifts 3.acts of service 4.quality time 5.physical touch Can you identify yours? Can you identify that of your spouse? (Quote ) ( Report ) 1 Like (Like) (Share) The abovementioned comment was posted by harveyspec on page8. Now compare your comment to his. In your last lines you mention how she is not delivering her end of the marriage institution then you proceed to advise him to break his own end(cheat). And you even dared to mention God in the same breath as advising him to cheat. What happened to 'for better for worse'.Two wrongs=a right in your dictionary *clap for yourself* Next time you're complaining about all that is wrong in Nigeria, look in the mirror you'll find one staring back at you. One more thing please post your real name here so we women can avoid a life of misery from wolf in Sheep's clothing. We are not into bestiality, we like our life partners to be men not wild animals. Thank you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Nobody: 10:21pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
U have to talk to her. She's an 'extreme introvert'. Such pple kips to themselves and never make any move towards being friendly to others. They lack confidence and are filled with d fear of d unknown such as ' wat will he think of me if I make a move on him?' , ' wat if he turns me down dat he's not in d mood?' etc. Call her and tell her dat she's free to make a move on u, dat in fact, dat u want her to. Then b ready to respond when she tries cos dat will boost her confidence and make her try again and again. Wit time, she will b able to initiate sex wit u. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by TrishaP(f): 10:54pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
naijaboiy:It's only normal especially after having kids. The only solution is communication and understanding. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by naijaboiy: 11:02pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
TrishaP:Hmmm...but I think the Op has already done that. but yet no change. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by TrishaP(f): 11:27pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
naijaboiy:I think there is more to his complains than meet the eyes. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Nobody: 11:35pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
Tomfrench: Merci 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by gsalvatore: 11:41pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
Some women are plain cold/frigid. You didn't see this when you were dating her? Now you want to make it it look as if she changed all of a sudden. I shake my fvcking head |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Nobody: 11:42pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
histemple: Truth...Bt dis is funny...if I don't play dirty with my husband who I want come play dirty with??...my friend?? ...smh...ladies sha |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by bobojoshua(m): 12:07am On Jul 06, 2015 |
harveyspec: |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by naijaboiy: 12:44am On Jul 06, 2015 |
TrishaP:Hmm.. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Ayocharles(m): 12:53am On Jul 06, 2015 |
I don't understand why your complain is coming after two kids! its very very too late... To me the fault is coming from you! 1). Two kids at 36! you need family planning already 2). You need to channel all that love of yours on those two kids, it seems to me you don't show care for the kids and that makes her worry not to want to have another baby. 3). you need to find a spark in your marriage. Take her out, hold hands and stroll together, kiss her in public and don't always expect sex all the time. 4). talk and gist about what she likes most, listen to her and make jokes on every comments until she laugh out loud 5). And lastly, after two kids her vagina must have expanded double, do something about your penis too my brother. It's possible she doesn't feel ur kitten again. use drugs or enlarge your penis too trust me, it might be the problem..... |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by 2CatWoman: 1:24am On Jul 06, 2015 |
charlezok: You haven't posted any replies to your own thread. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by skyfullofstars(f): 4:41am On Jul 06, 2015 |
I have the same problem with my husband... I'm very affectionate, he's not at all. He doesn't do it on purpose, that's just the way he is. It still drives me insane... |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by skyfullofstars(f): 4:44am On Jul 06, 2015 |
gsalvatore: Same for men, not just for women... It's simply a personality trait. Sometimes you still love the person, however you feel empty, as if there was something missing, that doesn't take the love away but it makes you unhappy anyway, not to receive the desired attention... I knowfrom my very own experience |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by charlezok(m): 6:13am On Jul 06, 2015 |
harveyspec: Thanks for this piece. It goes a long way in helping me out on this issue. I really appreciate. I am overwhelmed by the response and advice from everyone on this thread, you will not understand the impact you have made in my life with your comments. I want to say am already putting into play most of the advice I have seen on the thread and it yielding positive results. Currently we are discussing about our challenges and am seeing reasons why she has not been affectionate lately. We have both agreed on ways we can work things out. Thanks to everyone that commented on this issue, I really appreciate it. And may God bless you all in time of need. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by extoonline(m): 7:11am On Jul 06, 2015 |
These people weh go just see ONE fine looking terrorist and jump into marriage, had it been you took your time to study her OR had a relationship with her for at least two years, you for know all these things before getting yourself traped in marrage, well as it stand now, your going now way, you have not just your non romantic wife but two kids who will surfer the pains of seprated parents, so dont even think of leaving before God go purnish you, Stay there and drink your pap weh you preper. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by segcymoor(m): 7:34am On Jul 06, 2015 |
Ayocharles:Correct! |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by 1miccza: 8:02am On Jul 06, 2015 |
charlezok: Bro don't be surprised that your wife might just be showing that affection to someone else. It simply means she got married to you out of pity not really that she actually loves you... |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by gsalvatore: 10:31am On Jul 06, 2015 |
skyfullofstars: "Sometimes you still love the person, however you feel empty, as if there was something missing, that doesn't take the love away but it makes you unhappy anyway, not to receive the desired attention." Sounds like Confusion. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by gsalvatore: 10:32am On Jul 06, 2015 |
skyfullofstars: "Sometimes you still love the person, however you feel empty, as if there was something missing, that doesn't take the love away but it makes you unhappy anyway, not to receive the desired attention." Sounds like Confusion. Just curious, how long gone did this very experience lasted? |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by gsalvatore: 10:35am On Jul 06, 2015 |
It might be refreshing to you all to know that most folks give advice on here are actually Single. Talk about asking a frog to give you a seat... The reptile is squatting for fvcking sake. |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by trapQ: 11:21am On Jul 06, 2015 |
awww!!! you sound like a sweet husband. I was like that once. the guy always initiated everything but I loved him to death. try talking to her charlezok: |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by trapQ: 11:28am On Jul 06, 2015 |
aswear I was like that, and I loved him so damn much. was too shy to initiate nothing . histemple: |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by otiigba1(m): 12:37pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
datalossvictim1:afia azu fridge *jokes* na your own better o! jisie ike! |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Ruby2015: 7:42pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
I didn't take time to read all the posts (my ? might have been asked) and as you can see, I am VERY new to nairaland. My one question is: was she like this before you married her? Sometimes I have no pity for what most men / women experience during their marriage, there are certain things you should have taken note of and would have decided to tolerate before marry anyone (except they are good pretenders). Apart from that some men would leave the dotting women (because they think they are acting desperate), and marry the care free women. you cant order for iPhone 3 and get iPhone 6 na... I hope you find some peace and resolve in your wahala though... Single and searching, affectionate, loving, sex initiating, kissing hugging, loves no wahala Ruby... |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Nobody: 9:23am On Jul 07, 2015 |
harrysterol:...howya |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Nobody: 9:38am On Jul 07, 2015 |
harrysterol:...pelee dear Who broke ya heart make we bulldoze the person? You are my ''G'' yano |
Re: My Wife Shows No Affection by Nobody: 11:57am On Jul 07, 2015 |
harrysterol:Abasi mi mbok, nso kpo idio What I do na? How and when I do the do |
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