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Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by zeezahbee(f): 1:39pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Goldenboy007:Like seriously, I was thinking he was gonna say he's in healthcare or IT. A factory worker or prolly a research assistant With phd his story get K-leg @kobe79 |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by iamnemo(m): 1:40pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
You be mumu Sunofgod: |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Jarus(m): 1:48pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Kazrem: I respond to whatsapp messages, even if belated. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Goldenboy007(m): 2:08pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: Stop lying to people youngman, you are a student somewhere ..probably a graduate assistant ...this is the first time I would see a PhD holder in chemical science with 6 figure salary who should probably be a specialist consultant in reknowned multinational Company in Utah, doing times on Facebook and having a nice time cursing people on Nairaland. He pays 25% of his annual 6 figures as mortgage, he has 2 cars, wife and kids ...then sends almost 3k to Nigeria every month, which excludes 700 dollars he just doled out. The American dream !!! 2 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by astrodome: 2:28pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Goldenboy007: Your belief. Whatever suits you is fine by you. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by elohorayodele: 3:03pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: I dont have a fb account, close yours if you feel its a nuisance Saying 'i dont have to send will reduce the demands' dont keep idle funds, find something to invest in. Try your best according to what you can afford for your immediate family, only give to extended family and friends when there's surplus 2 Likes |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Kazrem(m): 3:04pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Jarus:OK sir. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by akwunomy(m): 3:04pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
I faced similar situation though I am a student, who is working two jobs. However, the demand is too much...I just stopped using Facebook and just open a Facebook account account with Allias and no picture just to keep in touch with my immediate family and my girl friend. So helping people is godly but you should also help yourself by knowing when to say no...or you will end up in the street and the same people will start talking how you are nobody in America. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by dupcydo(f): 3:12pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: guy u 're really proud and honestly I don't know ow to qualify u at all. common!!!! must u announce ur fake self. oh plz get a life. rubbish 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by AnthonyAk(m): 3:43pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Lol the way you say it I doubt your even in "America'. What county do you live in? |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by ooshinibos: 4:32pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: inactivate your facebook account , if you are really serious of the issue you highlighted |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by TXRunner(m): 4:35pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
kobe79:Lmao. Okay. So nobody in those industries I mentioned earn 6 digits right? Lmaoo. No problem. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Daniel058(m): 5:31pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome:hehehe. . Bros, $20 pass monthly sub here OOOOO for Internet surfing.. . Ew!! E fit buy half bag of fish feed ooooooooooooooo......hmmmm OK, make r no be like say I folo dey worry your life.... . My advice , u don't need to tell lie after all you have the right to agree to help.. Though some people think it's an opportunity to to milk you. .. . U knw when you become rich, everybody laugh with you , both friends and enemies. Now you may not know the volume of blessings u recives by giving.. So I suggest if giving out such huge amounts, affects your financial status negatively, I think you should always consider helping ones with much pressing need. . And not those who only want to lavish money and boast of receiving in dollars.. Pls forgive me if I'm wrong bro. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Gemc3(f): 5:42pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
ECOTERRORS: Oh I agree! |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Gemc3(f): 5:42pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: You have to learn to be firm. No one's gonna kill you for not giving. I learnt the hard way to learn to say NO. Once people hear "Overseas" their eye go de chook. It's just for you to put urself first. As for your family in Nigeria, do u have a particular amount u send to them? if u have, u stick to it. The economy is hard everywhere. . .u give n give n give and at the end of the day, u suffer it. STOP giving to old friends please. They have family members and other friends. Some of them lie to collect from u and cos they know u will give them, they will keep coming. U owe nothing to nobody. As for Social media, that is so easy ( for me sha) i go suddenly develop the "Ignoramus Disease" I cant shout. For phone calls, I tell them as it is. Things are HARD!. Text?. Ignoramus disease comes in to play again Astrodome infact, there are many ways to kill a rat..........and this rat in my opinion na small one. Broom go fit kill am. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by aktunde(m): 5:44pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
I simply believe this OP is seeking attention, and ironically he got it even though some of us knew that. Otherwise, I never imagined that a post like this could hit up to 14 pages. That being said, I have these conclusion about the OP. 1. He may be truly getting a high demand because once you step out of Nigeria, it's bound to happen. 2. He may be better off than an average hustler in US (which I really doubt), but he added spices to his story so we can visualize his achievements hence the reasons for the demands. 3. I'm even suspecting he may not have lived in the US long enough because things like these get worse when you recently come into the country. If he has been in the US long enough, he would have devised is strategy long ago, and known how to handle it by now. About social network. I don't think social network is the problem but how it's being used. What do you expect when you pose in front of a Range Rover spot that doesn't belong to you and type "thank God" and then upload it on Facebook? And when people think it's yours, you do not disclaim it. You just live it up? What do you expect when you flaunt your house or cars (which are mostly acquired on credit) which is even a big liability on your neck and people back home think it's an asset? Leaving social will not solve the problem but the impression you leave online is what matters. I used to be addicted to social network until I changed the habit. I didn't leave because of friends back home. Matter of fact I kept that because I want to remain connected with them. I simply can't give what I don't have period. When an old friend comes up and says hi, my first reply is "Bros this one wey you hola me so, anything for me. It looks like you are God sent o" that thing weakens what ever intention he has. Most people in Nigeria know I came to us as a student and even when my status has changed, as far as they are concenrned I am still studying, and will continue to study. No need updating what you have achieved on social network. Chikena. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by EbolaParasite: 6:58pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
zeezahbee: Actually, I don't see nothing wrong with the story. By the way aunty, I don't know Bissonnett ooo. No be my mouth dem go take hear say akata dey sell market infront of fingerlicking... Anyway, back to d mata. If you hold a PHD and you don't earn 6 figures in this yankee, please pack your bags and go home. The east coast is an exception because una poor for that end. In the south/west side, as a PHD holder, you will easily make 100k. Hope you guys realize "6" figures is 100k and above which is not unreasonable. B.Sc holders make that easily after a couple of years in industrial engineering and most engineering fields so I don't see why not |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by astrodome: 7:19pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
[quote][quote author=EbolaParasite post=35677161] You know the drill. That sums it up. Thanks BTW, the East coast is not universally cheap. Try DC area, New York City, or parts of New Jersey. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by EbolaParasite: 7:47pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
Goldenboy007: Guy leave him alone. Why do you find it so hard to believe. 100k is very easy to make nowadays. Come to Texas, in some industries, you'll see average starting pay of 85k for B.Sc holders so why would 100k be a big deal for a PHD holder? 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by mystiqueem(f): 7:54pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
@op. Never ask random strangers advice on how to treat your loved ones. If you can help. Do it. Stop whining. If you can help them learn how to fish. Great! (Start a small business) If you help one member of your family then both of you can help a third and so on. Reduces the burden. You know what is best in your heart. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Moana(f): 8:02pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
astrodome: Uncle please send me $200 for my Jamb preparation and exams im joking. You just need to to honest with them. When you cant afford sending everyone money tell them as it is," i dont have the money" a sensible person would understand. They will eventually stop asking |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by adepiero: 8:52pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
histemple:Thanks for the correction |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by deife(m): 5:27am On Jul 10, 2015 |
Dollyak: Dollyak, you strike me as someone with beauty and brains. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Dollyak(f): 6:09am On Jul 10, 2015 |
deife:Why, thank you . |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by deife(m): 11:01am On Jul 10, 2015 |
Dollyak: You're welcome. Your picture with the quoted post bewrays you. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by EbolaParasite: 2:17pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
mystiqueem: Some families won't stop until you file bankruptcy. Even when you start a business, they'll still ask for more money to buy "goods" for the business. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by rhames(m): 4:48pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
astrodome: ignore these people and concentrate on your purpose there. How many of them supported you financaially morally and otherwise when you were struggling to get there? Well i wish you good luck with your father Xmas attitude. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Mystiqme: 5:46pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
OP, this your story na wa o. You earn 6 figures, which is believable, and you send $3000 home every month, which is almost a 3rd of your salary, then you pay mortgage, etc. You are too generous o. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Mystiqme: 6:30pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
StOla:Listen to jasmines 1 Like |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by StOla: 6:52pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Mystiqme: Indeed I have a huge problem. I care too much, otherwise, I'm actually very prudent with money. I'm determined to even drop from circulation, so I can live my own dreams. Imagine after all the expenditures this month already, then someone who has been of a non financial help in the past suddenly resurfaces and he's asking you to help out with his life which is now a mess of debts. I was really sad knowing I had overdone myself already, and was about to promise money not yet earned. I have determined to live as modest as I do already, while also cutting out all the benevolences. Lastly, do you know if there's an app or app setting that alerts the user on the online status of contacts? I ask because as much as I try to remain elusive, the moment I sign in, the messages just keep coming in like an ambush. It's rather irritating, especially when I've waited till midnight to sign in, so as to avoid being noticed. I wonder if these contacts of mine are so idle to keep monitoring all their contacts status, or they've got me on some kind of alert. |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by zeezahbee(f): 7:23pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Mystiqme:I knew it was just one of those nairaland story. He dash out 36k a year, he pay 25% of mortgage. Got 4 kids. This is a fiction story |
Re: Help! Friends, Family & Former School Mates From Nig Are Killing Me With Demands by Mystiqme: 7:25pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
zeezahbee: Actually he has 2 kids, family of 4. |
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