Erukumakanaki:
Epistle Madam Mizmycoli

MizMyColi:

that face makes u less beautiful, smile jare

Mynd44:
Eyin omo wobe!!!!!

Aspireahead:
that article actually speaks about me...but the solutions ain't that easy to practise.
I have unwavering feeling of insecurity and low self esteem that scares me and those around me...I am unnecessarily demanding and always need this useless urge to be listened to. I feel dejected when people i trust and respect do something as little as missing my call or dropping my call.
i don't like all these, but it deems they have been ingrained into me from Years of having to take the blame for whatever bad that happened around me during my childhood which led to me being withdrawn and keeping with my self.... I don't blame my parents as they couldn't possibly know what psychological impact those continuous 'you are too lazy', 'you can't do anything good' will have on me.
I am in my early twenties now but this is something I. wish can go away, as it basically is affecting my relationship.
I think I have said enough already...

Brandnew2:
@Aspireahead, you seriously need to see a therapist. Too bad we don't have many around here in Nigeria, so maybe I'd suggest you meet a trusted friend who possibly can't hurt you from time to time and discuss your insecurities.

Having a listening ear around sometimes often helps.

#SpeakingFromExperience.

Mynd44:


Not good. Not good at all.

Like you need to do some serious reprogramming immediately

Mynd44:

It is even worse that finding friends that are willing to listen to you whine, rant and cry without judging you is implausible

Aspireahead:

oga do not worry...I see it as normal now...I don pass level of suicide...as I don do the maths and e no favor me..am just waiting to graduate and bury my head in something...charity, photography, teaching anything... I have read so many books and e-materials and non helped. thanks for the concern though.

Aspireahead:

oga do not worry...I see it as normal now...I don pass level of suicide...as I don do the maths and e no favor me..am just waiting to graduate and bury my head in something...charity, photography, teaching anything... I have read so many books and e-materials and non helped. thanks for the concern though.

Brandnew2:


I see you Slimyem.

Brandnew2:

Some people are amazingly good at listening.
I had a friend like that who would listen through my talk and give me reasonable suggestions and even support any decision I make.
Dunno how we wound up as friends but I remember taking him out on a hangout at his favorite pepper soup joint.

I guess that was his way of paying back.

No doubt people tend to judge so quickly but in this case it works for me.

slimyem:
I see you too.

Mynd44:
Buy peppers soup for me too na!!!

Brandnew2:

I hardly eat out these days.
I could grill BBQ chicken for you tho'.

Brandnew2:
@Aspireahead, you seriously need to see a therapist. Too bad we don't have many around here in Nigeria, so maybe I'd suggest you meet a trusted friend who possibly can't hurt you from time to time and discuss your insecurities.

Having a listening ear around sometimes often helps.

#SpeakingFromExperience.

Aspireahead:

oga do not worry...I see it as normal now...I don pass level of suicide...as I don do the maths and e no favor me..am just waiting to graduate and bury my head in something...charity, photography, teaching anything... I have read so many books and e-materials and non helped. thanks for the concern though.

MizMyColi:
Lmao.
So my friend just mailed me, after creating the first thread and be like....


^^Lmao, Like for real?

Well, believe that about me and you can believe anything!
Dammit!
I have my challenges too!
My downside!
Gosshhh

Okay, on this thread....
I will entertain three different personal questions on My relationships and allied matters.
This is me practising what I learned today.
Let's do this!

Aspireahead:

how did you overcome yours? that is assuming there was a time you were like me.
I have a few friends who think i am sick..I just shun them and move along.

Brandnew2:

Been ages....
This is what maturity does I can imagine.

slimyem:
It has. maturity? How do you mean? I wasn't mature when I hung around?
we are derailing. Let's not ruin this thread.

Brandnew2:

Bro! Life is a constant battle.
I also went through a phase during my early adulthood plummeting through a cycle of depression I never though I'd get out of.

What helped me overcome this was traveling. It enabled me see life in a different light. It also helped me discover myself.

For the friend/listener factor, it really works especially when the person shows some level of apathy towards your concerns. I am sure yours is deeply rooted in the verbal abuse you went through during your childhood and It's not something you can get over in a day but you will surely pull through if you make a conscious effort.

@Myndd44 I'm short of chicken now but i discovered a BBQ spot in Ikeja sometime last week.

MizMyColi:
Lmao.
So my friend just mailed me, after creating the first thread and be like....


^^Lmao, Like for real?

Well, believe that about me and you can believe anything!
Dammit!
I have my challenges too!
My downside!
Gosshhh

Okay, on this thread....
I will entertain three different personal questions on My relationships and allied matters.
This is me practising what I learned today.
Let's do this!