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Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by mrssho: 10:43pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Lol your story is funny because it reminds me of my marriage. I have been married for 3 years and my husband spent the first 2 years doing exactly what your husband is doing. I fought him, I nagged him, I begged him, I reasoned with him, I got elderly people to talk to him but nothing happened. I even started hating his so called friends. Until I started to pray about my marriage and I prayed that God distance him from unfriendly friends and all of a sudden like magic in the man stopped going out. If he is not at work he is at home. I was very surprised in fact a friend of mine that I used to complain to was also shocked because every time he asked me about my husband I will say he is at home. Even when we are fighting he won't go anywhere except if one of his friends has an event. So madam Pls pray, trust me I know how it feels. It feels as if his friends are more important than you and he has misplaced priorities. These men can be very foolish that's why you need to pray for them. It is well 4 Likes |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by Chubhie: 10:45pm On Jul 12, 2015 |
Your husband isn't yet ready to be a family guy. Maybe he was pressured into it as a result of social conditioning. You either adopt to being a wife and husband at same time till maybe by dent of accident he changes or you threaten him to walk away to neverland with his kid where he won't be able to find you and you should mean this with every fibre in you. Look for a moment when he's calm and shock him but not before letting him know how his actions have affected you negatively and you've hoped and prayed he would turn a new leaf and consider the child you both are bringing into this world while robbing your tummy. Then look up to him with that mischievous face and tell him what last tough decision he has boxed you into. Let him know there are limits. His response will give you an in-depth feel of the nature of man you married. 1 Like |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by obowunmi(m): 1:19am On Jul 13, 2015 |
You're probably a boring woman. 3 Likes |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by MarryMeee: 1:34am On Jul 13, 2015 |
obowunmi:if a donkey and a rat come together and have a baby this will be the end result. 4 Likes |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by armyofone(m): 1:44am On Jul 13, 2015 |
First year should be the time to play, going out and doing things together, travels and enjoying each other. Both of you didn't play enough so he must go out to find that play without you. In my first year, I will make sure we stock on condoms to avoid the avoidable . |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by thorpido(m): 8:10am On Jul 13, 2015 |
Sorry Op,you married a boy who isn't ready for marriage.I believe you dated him but chose to marry him even though you must have seen this. I wouldn't want you to start thinking of divorce just yet.However,his situation will require a lot of patience from you.Some men like him change over time but some don't and only get worse. Keep talking with him about this and also involve his parents.Let them know the kind of lifestyle he is living. Pray about this also(I know the world is turning from God),but prayer works.Ask God to distance him from friends who are not helping him keep his home. 2 Likes |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by Molebs(m): 10:34am On Jul 13, 2015 |
SisterCaro:None of the two parties is obliged to manage the home over the other, if the man aint keeping his home someone has to.. (the more committed or wiser one), the priority is that the home shouldn't be broken.. There can be no joy in a home that doesn't exist in the first place... Bring your man home whichever way u can, then u take it from there...God help you. |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by Nobody: 11:50am On Jul 13, 2015 |
5minsmadness:So when you get your wife pregnant, you leave her at home everyday cos of some behaviours she has no power over? Na you give am belle so you should be ready for the consequences However, we ain't sure what causes Op husband's behaviour. . May not be pregnancy... |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by thorpido(m): 2:19pm On Jul 13, 2015 |
MarvellousGod:I don't think it's pregnancy.The Op's husband is just not ready for responsibilities. |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by KanwuliaJara: 11:59pm On Jul 13, 2015 |
efemenaslectura: Nothing more to h-add o! You don nail am ka! |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by GboyegaD(m): 5:17am On Jul 14, 2015 |
francizy: Don't you think you are overreacting? Are you married? I asked because sometimes it is easier for us to interfere in things wr might have no practical knowledge of. 1 Like |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by davidif: 5:26pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
thorpido: Dude, there is always two sides to every story. |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by davidif: 5:27pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
mrssho: Woah! You just called your husband very foolish? Wow! |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by davidif: 5:29pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
strenghtofawoman: Well madam, there is two sides to every story. I am sure if heard his own side of the story then it will be a little different. |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by davidif: 5:33pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
chineloSA: G bam! You will be amazed how many women don't understand that men also need their own personal space? |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by davidif: 5:33pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
edwife: As in? |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by thorpido(m): 5:59pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
davidif:That's true.My comment was based on the Op's words. |
Re: If This Continues, Divorce Is Inevitable by beautifulrosa: 8:32pm On Feb 06, 2018 |
chineloSA: Correct! You are on point ma. Few days ago i told hubs to stay with d baby, i wanted to go out that i needed to be free. And no! He shdnt bother to drop me off. I jokingly said this in the morn. Late afternoon, i told him i was going to the market. Wore some nice dress and wore some very nice make up. Truthfully, i wasnt going to see anyone. I jus wanted to look good and u know get some fresh air. But he didnt take it lightly. Pretended not to be bothered at first and den later on, He sed to take d baby along, we'll all go to d market together. He ll stay with d baby in d car. Na wa o! Somebody cannot be married and want to recieve fresh air again. |
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