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Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Ajayilomo: 12:49am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Sorry about this woman, issue like this have even broke down some relationships. I will say a sincere financial understanding and open communication is lacking here esp when it comes to the kind of project you expend on from time to time. Remain open and loyal to him. He's your husband and the head of the family while you do all you can to support your family also let him give attention to his spending. You could consider drawing up a budget and be strict with it. Your husband is not a bad person may be you are only looking at his financial recklessness- he needs a self control on the matter of spending. Always encourage him to set priority and all of this you must do in the spirit of mildness. Don't also forget that what he borrowed for is for the benefit of the family. Please discuss matter out from time to time because the bible say 'there is a great achievement in the multitude of counselor'- that's only true if there is good communication 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ivyT(f): 12:52am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Certifiedboss: U r ryt_I stick with my opinions nd y should stick to urs |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ivyT(f): 12:53am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by sunkoye: 12:56am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Madam ur actions are very right but the way u apply it could make it worst decision in ur relationship. You need wisdom here. Please dont listen to pple advocating fire brigade approach to the issue. u know ur hubby more than all. the right button u ve always pressed that delivers can still be harnessed with wisdom. Pls dont forget to pray about it too oo. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:00am On Jul 20, 2015 |
The peeps who lent him money to foot the medical bills may have asked "weren't U aware, she was pregnant?" How a MAN would gladly take money from his wife, severally/habitually beats me moreso, a wife that foots bills without holding back. Yet he sees no need to support her educational pursuit Op, I know U are toughie, make me proud 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by sunkoye: 1:01am On Jul 20, 2015 |
PubLlcEnemy:one of the best post here. eemm.. but.this ur moniker ehn; almost made me skipped wisdom here. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ivyT(f): 1:02am On Jul 20, 2015 |
kilokeys: U ain't a man yet I go soon arrange boys wey go fuckkk ur smelly yansh.. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:11am On Jul 20, 2015 |
I'd hv loved to hear d huzby's side of tha story to b able to see the whole picture. Stemming from ya story anyway, I don't think u came out late to tell hm 'bout the credit yo company paid yu. Twas jas a day interval... Facing the main issue anyway, Yu hv to mk sure u nd yur man gets into a fight so yu both might blurt out all thoughts you been stomaching so you both might know your deficiences. Aftr which, yu go back to him swallowing yo ego and ask him what his plans are or what he thinks can be done to balance things up from there can solutions be birthed for this particular issue and Infact issues you haven't paid cognizance to or aint even aware exsts. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:15am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT:Lol. Makes me remember this line from is it lauryn hill now? ; opinions are like a s s h o l e s and most of 'em stink!...that your opinion can land u in jail. #homosexuality is a crime in Naija |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ferhyntorlah(f): 1:18am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Toks2008: This is coming from a man? Wow! I'm impressed. Very well said Sir. If it were a woman, hell would be let loosed! Favorofgod, your husband will put you all in trouble one day. Is he even planning his retirement? It isn't too early to start! Come to think of it, what if one of you were sacked (GOD forbid), what will you guys fall back on? Keep repeating the cycle of borrowing to survive? I can see you are the financially prudent one, so the ball is in your court madam to act wisely. Must he celebrate an elaborate baby dedication? What happened to cutting one's coat according to one's MATERIAL? Someone close to me lectured me some days ago. He said all humans are created to be spenders but only A FEW are savers! He needs to prioritise his spending and you should be involved. He needs TOUGH LOVE and not PITY PITY LOVE. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Lovechyld101(m): 1:19am On Jul 20, 2015 |
My Advice is to Create a New account without an atm specifically for your schooling/Masters then you keep the other one more like a Joint account your husband is a Big spender I won't blame him. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:28am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ferhyntorlah:
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Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by biggz82: 1:28am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Open a new account or change ur pin. He does not want u 2 b higher dan him wen it comes 2 education. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ivyT(f): 1:32am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Sabrwahaqqo: who is dis one? |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by naijaboiy: 1:36am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT:This is what happens when a teenage girl that is still keeping numerous boyfriends jumps on a thread bordering on marriage to comment. Such dumbness! 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by kilokeys(m): 1:37am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT: Chai. I don jam |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:38am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT:Your dad's elder brother. |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:40am On Jul 20, 2015 |
naijaboiy:Nigga, you're a genius! |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ivyT(f): 1:44am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Sabrwahaqqo:tufia! ewu nairaland |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by naijaboiy: 1:44am On Jul 20, 2015 |
enoqueen:I don't really understand. Are you saying you shouldn't let your man know you have money when he needs it badly? Enlighten me please. enoqueen: How did you actually come up with this? Please explain. From what i'm reading up there its like you're saying you can spend your man's money but he shouldn't touch yours when he's in need. Because he will "finish it" |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:44am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Toks2008:Lol. Marriage councillor indeed. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ivyT(f): 1:45am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:46am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT:And she starts speaking in tongues |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by ivyT(f): 1:47am On Jul 20, 2015 |
naijaboiy: u came too late *shiits on ur head* 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by cmobile: 1:48am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Don't cut your husband off entirely. Finance is the bed in marriage. Explain to him and tell him how much you will like to keep for your project monthly and how much you will like him to be using from it. God make men to have a dominating spirit, if your husband sees that he can no longer tell you what to do, he may start withdrawing from you gradually. Wisdom and patience is needed to make marriage successful. In our generation especially Africans, most women are still very attached to their families, especially because of this poverty problem, their families members always look yp to the successful one whether male or female. You need wisdom to know when to help your own family where you are coming from. Whatever you are doing carry your husband along. so as not to 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Nobody: 1:50am On Jul 20, 2015 |
I don't involve in husband and wife matter.But I must say this since you came public.open another savings account. Maybe he doesn't want your progress.My opinion.op,don't see me as a home wrecker o. 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by no1madman(m): 1:50am On Jul 20, 2015 |
But. . |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by TheUmmah: 1:54am On Jul 20, 2015 |
WOMAN? And their own FINANCES? It seems most of the guys wey dey hia na learners? Any advice sent their way as regards cash na voicemail! No need! 1 Like |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by OLUJOSHINS(m): 1:59am On Jul 20, 2015 |
ivyT:in time dearie, U will realise the fact that all men are not the same 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by IYADARA(f): 2:16am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Now I know am not alone in dis situation....op I hope u will do as u ve said.....I did s extra savings too but eventually got all out ....I hate when my acct is red but wat can I do? Hummmm...if u can Stans by ur decision then I must commend u |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by chy22(m): 2:18am On Jul 20, 2015 |
Did I hear pounds? I assume you live in England Lets assume for one moment your have quite a lot of money, then you open a new account or be complete blunt like you are told on this forum and then he gets very angry or decides to complete his evil agenda like people on this forum make your husband out to be. He will get a divorce right?, when he does, that money will be shared equally! is it not? then you would have ruined your marriage and lost 50% of your money right? Clearly you knew his potentials and his capabilities before you married him, so don't come on a public forum to open a discussion that should be for two (wife and husband). you two are one, if you agree to study then you two should sort it out, while you study if there are kids he should be the one to take care of them, hence while it is called marriage. Woman go home to your husband My one kobo. 2 Likes |
Re: I Told My Hubby To Stop Using My Money.am I Wrong? by Brugo(m): 2:39am On Jul 20, 2015 |
. So it's cool for a wife to blow her husband's money cos it's expendable but he can't touch hers cos she has great plans. Interesting. Anyway, there are 2 sides to a coin. . 2 Likes |
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