Hi everyone, I was just wandering if it’s advisable for married women to maintain or keep spinsters as friends. A friend of mine got married and she suddenly started acting kind of funny towards us her friends, I managed to ask a more matured married woman the problem and she told me that most married women are usually advised that if they want to maintain their home, they must keep married friends who would be of positive interest to their marriage and not unmarried friends.

Nairalanders is this true?

I guess they are paranoid that the single friend(s) will want to take their husband or something just as daft.

If the friendship is genuine, then there's no need for such nonsense.

Give your friend space. If she's acting funny, stay away.

depends. the most important thing is the friend in question should have a positive outlook towards her friends marriage. some married friends a worse than a pack of rabid wolves.

i dont think there is anything wrong with that in as much as you know the limit of your friendship
you should know where to call it quit when it is going beyound friendship level

Well I can’t say married women shouldn’t keep unmarried friends; it won’t be fair to detach yourself from your friends simply because you’re married.

If you feel you can benefit something reasonable from them, then it’s ok to part was; but if other wise, then avoiding them isn’t a wise thing to do.

no

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Dere isnt anytin wrong in married women being frends wit spinters. ll sum1 turn away 4rm her unmarried frends just bcuz shez married aftal she waz single b4 she got married too.

@ Topic

No!

example
a girl tells her single friend who doesn't know the
first thing about "committed relationship or marriage"
he told me to shut up!
friend goes" oh hell no! he should never talk to you like that"
" i will walk out if I were you"

ROFL Why not?

Treetop20:

example
a girl tells her single friend who doesn't know the
first thing about "committed relationship or marriage"
he told me to shut up!
friend goes" oh hell no! he should never talk to you like that"
" i will walk out if I were you"

as opposed to a married woman that would tell her married friend to get a boytoy on the side?

Why should I stop being friends with my friends because I am married?

Of course I can have unmarried friends. A friend is a friend regardless of thier status. A friend would never encourage another friend to do something that would cause them harm.

So a true friend of mine would never encourage me to leave my husband, unless he was hurting me, a true friend would never encourage me to cheat on my husband. A true friend would not want me hurting and would never be the cause or encouragement behind my hurt.

In addtion, I am a human with a brain and can decide for myself if something is good or bad and because my friend does it, it does not mean I have to do it too.

Should Married Women Keep Unmarried Friends?
for what
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oluwafemi113:

Should Married Women Keep Unmarried Friends?
for what
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Because they were my friends before I was married.

It is relative and depends on what kind of friendship is being sustained.

Brandie:

Dere isnt anytin wrong in married women being frends wit spinters. ll sum1 turn away 4rm her unmarried frends just bcuz shez married aftal she waz single b4 she got married too.

I supprt u,afterall the married woman was once single b4 married, is she expected to 4get her single old friends.

it boils down to the married woman herself

the question is wat kind of brain has she got in her hed?

is it one dat will diffuse and mix frendship wit marriage or not?

i think the rules about frendship still remain- ---- find the frends dat will move you forward in a positive manner

all boils down to sistawoman's last words-

do you the married woman have a gud hed on yur shoulders?

i agree with @y me.

There is nothing wrong with married women keeping unmarried friends but the limit of any friendship should be defined and known. either with married women or the unmarried women.

some friends are devils either the married or the unmarried ones and will not stop at destroying their friends homes.
my take is know the character of your friend, when it comes to seeking advise, know who to turn to and keep your private life with your hubby to yourself.

@Topic.
Yes! Buut it shld be reasonable and matured friends that shld be kept but shld also be limited.
Chiurs.

of course yes. being married doesn't mean i have to discard my single friends and join the christian mother club

@ post
It depends on what kind of unmarried friends they are.

You are right

i dont think a married woman should stop talking to or hanging out with the friends she knew before she got married whether single or not.
however, i think new single friends should be kept at arms lenght. i dont want them round the house for whatever reason

Some unmarried friends are good but don't discuss marital issue with them b/c they have no experience and advice to give. Keep them strictly on friendship level for old time sake

kattie:

Hi everyone, I was just wandering if it’s advisable for married women to maintain or keep spinsters as friends. A friend of mine got married and she suddenly started acting kind of funny towards us her friends, I managed to ask a more matured married woman the problem and she told me that most married women are usually advised that if they want to maintain their home, they must keep married friends who would be of positive interest to their marriage and not unmarried friends.

Nairalanders is this true?

false.

If they will continue with their old time gossip, then capital NO