Can a married woman have friends of the opposite sex?
As a married woman, can I have a friend that is a man? There's some debate about this topic, but I think that it's possible if you follow these rules.

Ever since I was little, I was never good at being friends with the girls my age; I've always been friends with the boys. This was the case even when I grew up. In college and even through my career after school, I was friends with men rather

When I married, my husband was aware of my friend situation and wasn't bothered at first. However, his opinion changed, and it became something we talked about quite often. While I don't think that it's wrong to have certain friends of the opposite s*x when you are married as long as these things are being done to protect your marriage. Here are the essential rules I now follow:

Trust is crucial

The four foundations of a relationship are: love, trust, respect and communication. If any of them weaken, everything your marriage stands for starts to crumble. These four foundations are so connected that betraying one causes issues in all the other categories. That being said, your husband deserves to know the exact nature of your friendships. He should be friends with the people you are friends with. Your behavior with your friends is the same when your husband is there and when he isn't. Involving him in your friendships will let him know you trust him and that there isn't anything to hide. If your husband begins to feel insecure or jealous, cut off the friendship. A friendship isn't worth your marriage.

Respect can't be pushed aside

Here, respect means many things. It is respect for yourself, toward your partner, your friend and toward your marriage. When there is respect for all the different relationships in your life, there isn't worry that a friendship will lead to something else. Knowing your friend respects your marriage is just as important as you having respect for your husband. If this level of respect is missing in any category, discontinue the friendship.

Talk with your husband

Good communication needs to be part of any marriage, whether you have friends of the opposite s*x or not. But you must maintain solid conversation with your husband if you hope to keep your marriage and keep your friends. Good communication is based on understanding, listening and having a respectful opinion on both sides of the story. Let your husband know that he is the most important aspect of your life, and if he feels threatened by other friends, he can tell you about it.

Truth will save you

It's not unusual to hear comments about a jealous husband who suspects that these friends have an ulterior motive. How will you make your husband realize this is not true? Being open about your friendships will save you. Friendships change over time, but some things remain the same. A true friend supports you in what is right, but not in matters that are wrong. They will care for you, your husband and would never attempt to ruin that relationship you and your husband share.

Keep these friends close, but only the ones that deserve the title.

http://www.familyparliament.com/598/can-a-married-woman-have-friends-of-the-opposite-sex

keep these close friends but only the ones that deserves the title............rubbish !
wonder what kind of friendship I wud keep with a male friend when I'm married

Hian o!

What is married woman looking for again frm the opposite sex?when her husband can be everything she wants,be it lover,friend,husband,father and so on

May be, may be Not, if men even when in marriage,can keep female friends and colleagues, why not same on the women side?!,:after all, 'IF dogs,....then Rabbits' too '..!.

Getting married is not slavery biko.Yes it's good to keep males as friends when married, but sane ones who the husband should know about.

So because I'm married, no more male friends? ?

Anyway, I'm married. . I have more male friends than females and I don't hide any of them from my husband. Some of the male friends are even from nairaland... he knows what my dealings with them are....

The thought of cheating on him never crossed my mind during our many years of dating, our relationship then was even a distant one, na now wey we don marry I go cheat .

It all depends on your motive of keeping those friends and the kind of friends they're.. Not every guy is out to woo or chat dirty with you, however if that happens you know how to draw the line... I get a lot of information from my male friends sometimes for my husband..

Just know when to draw the line.. But then if your husband is one who would have issues with keeping friends of opposite sex, then you gonna listen and sort it out. ... or you're one whose body dey always 'totori', then keep them far.

What your priorities in life are also matters. ...