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|Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 2:42am On Mar 17, 2009|
Marriage is honourable and enjoyable only if the right things are done at the right time. To some people, marriage is been endured instead of been enjoyed while so many marriageable man and woman are seen not married. Now here comes this question why is it so common that we have so many people not married?
Many had made the choice not to marry. their decision could be traceable to their former experiences with the opposite sex which led them to cross their mind to anything called marriage.
To some they never want to be burden by any man or woman. they felt they own their lives and should maintained a status quo.
And to some, they are cursed, maybe by man or spirit that is why they find it so difficult to have their right man or woman
And again many believed in their youthfulness. The test and trial of the present time had blindfolded them and even close their mind to marriage
Joining the list are those who had made fun of their youthful time due to lust and bride. they never believe that time wait for no man.
While it's good to lay claim on our past because it was a channel in which we get lot of experiences but we should remember that we can't correct what has gone wrong in our past; we can only learn from them. therefore your past shouldn't be the yard stick of your judgment on why you shouldn't have married.
We must see our self as a need of some one whether you are a male or female you are a need of someone. if you can reason or you should think like this: if you're the only one in the world, what could have become of the world.
the answer is no single tree can make a forest. therefore no one is a burden to you but a need to you
I don't know may be you think you're cursed that's why you're not enticed to the opposite sex. listen carefully you're what you are because of what you believed. so be positive in your mental attitude.in all thing Get PMA (Positive Mental Attitude)
You should remember that some one has author you to this world so you should do to someone.
The effect of the present so called enjoyment to your future is so harsh. so think about it. We must not live a care free life and forget our future.
Above all, you should understand that men are attracted by what they see and ladies by what they hear so make yourself attractive and speak right. I can see you smiling to the altar.
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|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by OBVIOUS(m): 3:41am On Mar 17, 2009|
Everyone is after money and career, so people marry much later.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by pc guru(m): 6:33am On Mar 17, 2009|
Am one of those who are highly obsessed with career and money.maybe it's high time i change my orientation.don't wanna have all the money and no one to spend it with.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by sparta(f): 10:06am On Mar 17, 2009|
Pc guru you are right, most people have all the money but you know what? They are oh so lonely!
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by oluwafemi113(m): 6:20am On Mar 18, 2009|
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 12:55am On Mar 31, 2009|
I want to thanks all the readers of my last article- causes, cures for late marriage. you all do well by making your point of view known.
Anyway, let me add to my words. career is good, money is awesome, fame and honor are better but if you have no home you are just like snake crawling on mountain top. guest what: no one will see the trace of a snake on the mountain.
Do you know that many have died of loneliness; due to lack of love. look at it this way- you are put in a house full of all goodies that you can ever imagine but there is no one with you. how will you feel? absolutely suppressed
loneliness had cause many to take on drugs that made them to be addicted.
the fear of many is how to finance a wedding. remember you don't need to have much before you can organize a befitting wedding! GET IT! Wedding is for a day but marriage is for life.
are you afraid to marry because of money? ask me i will tell you how to organize your wedding without breaking your bank.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by Nobody: 1:07am On Mar 31, 2009|
To some they never want to be burden by any man or woman. they felt they own their lives and should maintained a status quo.Lol, duh
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 1:15am On Mar 31, 2009|
THANKS. get it right
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by puskin: 1:27am On Mar 31, 2009|
Marriage is NECESSARY and not a NECESSITY.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 1:34am On Mar 31, 2009|
hey get that out. just imagine it. if there is no legal marriage there will be a lot of bastard. so don't produce one. get married
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by iice(f): 3:42am On Mar 31, 2009|
Late marriage is a disease?
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 3:49am On Mar 31, 2009|
yes! it is . but can be cure. are you married lice? don't be caught unaware.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by iice(f): 4:00am On Mar 31, 2009|
iice as you can clearly see.
The things you learn each day
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 4:05am On Mar 31, 2009|
i can see as you see.
a disease can be cured.
what are the ante-dote you will prescribe
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by iice(f): 4:12am On Mar 31, 2009|
Well why am i not surprised that flew over?
I don't prescribe anything, because it's not a disease.
Contrary to what you think, people have choices to marry early or not.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 4:23am On Mar 31, 2009|
good! choice, hym,
it's good to make choice but not to make the wrong one.
many choice had ruined life.
many had build life
and many had stiff life
we better make choice that will not make us to regret in life.
consider many factors that affect a woman that marries late if it was her choice.
little or no strength in child bearing,
infact what would have been enjoy while younger now become stressful at old age.
think about it.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by mccloud224(m): 4:24am On Mar 31, 2009|
Thank God for manhood, lol
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by iice(f): 4:32am On Mar 31, 2009|
What is a wrong choice? What you deem wrong?
Just because you don't agree with something or you think something is wrong, doesn't necessarily mean it's a wrong choice for the person. People who don't know who they are and what they want end up with regrets and forever lamenting things done and gone. Some people you know like to let destiny take it's course without forcing it - like say those who trap men with babies, those who are so concerned with what society says they should do and jump into any marriage that is on the table just so long as they are married, those who fear standing on their own.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 4:39am On Mar 31, 2009|
oh! keep it cool. that's my own opinion.
remember i respect your view.
please may i know your status?
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 1:49pm On May 31, 2009|
There are many reasons why I consider late marriage as a disease. when you are infected with a form of disease you either cure your self or you will be avoided by people.
Take for example, a man or woman who is being infected with leprosy will have two options
one: to be cure of his leprosy
two: or to be excommunicated from his people.
So, this can be likened to late marriage,
In some settings especially in Africa, you are believed to get married as soon as you are of marriageable age .Therefore, if you are not married as at when due you will be seen as some one who needs some kind of spiritual help.
So, if truly people around someone who is not married see this as ailment or disease is this not the right time to see it as one yourself?
Be true to your self never say that it is a choice; some choices could be dangerous; dangerous that they may not have solution.
You can't eat your cake and have it. You can't be single and enjoy the benefits of marriage.
Change your view about being single today and enjoy the full joy of marriage.
Life is beautiful! isn't it.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by chaircover: 2:10pm On May 31, 2009|
Poster are you married? and if yes how old were you when you signed the dotted line? Just curious that's all
Now for my response to your post - God's time is the best.
If it is 40, then so be it. I am sure that if there ever is a true study carried out on supposedly happily married men & women, you will be suprised at how many will tell you that they rushed into marriage for all the wrong reasons and are just "managing" their marriages.
The people who "expect" you to get married at 20 are not the ones who will live with you throughout the marriage.
Late marriage is Not a disease; well not in my medical dictionary therefore no cure is required.
iice you remind me of my brother
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 2:49pm On May 31, 2009|
Thank you very much. I cherish your view.
To answer your question is not tasking. I need to let you know that I 'm married. To God be the glory,l'm enjoying my marriage too . And as par someone is 20 ,30 or 40 before getting marry is not the issue. What count is not age but maturity.
Looking and seeing are not the same. You may be seeing late marriage as such but critically I want you to look at its cause and consequences then you decide what you can call it.
It's your choice, my choice!
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by Am Alone: 3:36pm On May 31, 2009|
With all due respect
I wanna assure you that you make seem to have got it right but that is not the anwers!
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 4:35pm On Jun 02, 2009|
This topic has generated a very crucial question that I need to give kudos to those who made me to understand that late marriage isn't a disease, so we shouldn't be taking about cure.
Okay! Choice is good because you desire it to be so. what can we say about those who desire to be married but the right person is not coming. what can we say that is doing them?. What are they suffering from?
And again I want to say that whenever we see someone who is not financially okay we can conclude that such person is financially sick. Don't we think that someone can equally be sick morally. So why should that of marriage should be seen different?
Apart from those who had chosen to live their life in such way- staying aloof, those who need some one in their life for companionship should be helped.
I share in their pains and feelings.
They need to be helped.
Though some of them are suffering from their past mistakes. The Ghost of their errors is hunting them. should they continue to live like that?
And to some of them they are suffering form Acquire Ignorance Disease. Information could help cure this.
There fellow posters, Please let offer solution to this problem.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by dae(f): 5:22pm On Jun 02, 2009|
So if i may ask, what are the ages that are y'all are talking about?
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by emilyone(f): 5:49pm On Jun 02, 2009|
marriage is not meant for everybody.
so don't brainwash people into it.
dont u think its better to remain single than divorced
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by biola44(m): 11:23am On Jun 03, 2009|
late marriage isnt a disease but i support early marriage if u r fit!
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by iice(f): 5:57pm On Jun 03, 2009|
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by tope5000: 6:07pm On Jun 03, 2009|
So getting married late is now a disease?
Kai . . .what wont i read on this forum
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 4:43pm On Jun 12, 2009|
Late marriage early marriage um!
To help us further I want you to think about what this great men and women have to say.
"We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a "getaway." We cannot love and be limited".
"Love: a temporary insanity, curable by marriage".
"Most people who meet my wife quickly conclude that she is remarkable. They are right about this. She is smart, funny and thoroughly charming. Often, after hearing her speak at some function or working with her on a project, people will approach me and say something to the effect of, you know, I think the world of you, Barack, but your wife, wow!"
"My wife has been my closest friend, my closest advisor. And , she's not somebody who looks to the limelight, or even is wild about me being in politics. And that's a good reality check on me. When I go home, she wants me to be a good father and a good husband. And everything else is secondary to that".
Georg C. Lichtenberg:
"Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight."
Georg C. Lichtenberg:
Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 1:00pm On Jun 14, 2009|
What do you think is wrong with a man or a woman of 40 years of age who has every thing you may think of- Good Job, cool cash in the Bank, hIghly socialised and educated yet still disturbed by the situation of loneliness.
Hear what Bunmi Says about her frusration.
"I don't really know what is wrong with me. I've had all what I desired in life but only one thing is making me to feel so bad. I desired a man who I can really call my husband. Anytime I got one, I'd just discover that things are going in another way round. Now I'm approaching 40 will I still remain single".
Bunmi situation is a case of one in many. Many people are asking this question- what will I do to be married. Time is not on my side.
What will be your own suggestion to this question.
|Re: Causes, Cure For Late Marriage by owoseyi: 2:21pm On Jun 14, 2009|
pls suggest possible way out
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