Family is important yes I know, but parents in nigeria believe they are doing enough but they actually aren't doing anything, you'll see a mother beat up her child like an animal in the name of dicipline, beating your child furiously keeps him away from you, isn't it better you sit him or her down and talk sensibly? I remember a freind that told me he hates his father, I ask him the reason, he said his father doesn't smile and that his father always look for a reason to blame him, so anytime his father is around he doesn't go near him, for crying out loud you are his parent not God.
Why shld you make your children see you like a monster. my dad never given me $100, which is less than 10,000 naira, my dad has never given me a birthday gift since I was born...the funniest thing is that he is so confortable and doesn't see all dis as a problem....when a child doesn't get support from his parents how do u expect him or her to feel......well we the young ones should learn from our terrible parents and make sure our kids are happy and won't regret having us as there parent

Op, since u have expressed ur thoughts, there is one thing I would like u to do for me wen u get married...


Be the parent u wish for to ur kids... And d world will be a better place

Cutehector:
Op, since u have expressed ur thoughts, there is one thing I would like u to do for me wen u get married...


Be the parent u wish for to ur kids... And d world will be a better place

I sure will bruh

My own two cent is don't treat your kids harshly else make them your friends.. let the friendship be strong compare to harshness

You are still a lad i think. Anyway, is normal to feel the way you are feeling now. You will get to understand better when u perceive things in a mature way. As for buying birthday gifts. Hmmmm. Is he stable financially? My dad doesn't buy me gift or give me any pocket money but that doesn't mean he's not concern about me. You have known him for years, avoid what he dislikes and you will enjoy him.. Your parents can never hate you no matter what you do. Be more closer, be their friend, do what they like and you will grow to love them the more.

Kennedyiheme:
Family is important yes I know, but parents in nigeria believe they are doing enough but they actually aren't doing anything, you'll see a mother beat up her child like an animal in the name of dicipline, beating your child furiously keeps him away from you, isn't it better you sit him or her down and talk sensibly? I remember a freind that told me he hates his father, I ask him the reason, he said his father doesn't smile and that his father always look for a reason to blame him, so anytime his father is around he doesn't go near him, for crying out loud you are his parent not God.
Why shld you make your children see you like a monster. my dad never given me $100, which is less than 10,000 naira, my dad has never given me a birthday gift since I was born...the funniest thing is that he is so confortable and doesn't see all dis as a problem....when a child doesn't get support from his parents how do u expect him or her to feel......well we the young ones should learn from our terrible parents and make sure our kids are happy and won't regret having us as there parent

If any of your parents reads this post, am sure they will agree that "100 dollars is not less than N10,000" you see why you need guidance? What you can't see standing up, your parents can see sitting

Hmmmmm!
Generational CURSE tins!

Pidggin:


If any of your parents reads this post, am sure they will agree that "100 dollars is not less than N10,000" you see why you need guidance? What you can't see standing up, your parents can see sitting

Bullcrap

Pidggin:


If any of your parents reads this post, am sure they will agree that "100 dollars is not less than N10,000" you see why you need guidance? What you can't see standing up, your parents can see sitting

I'm not a child any more, I just thought about what happened when I was younger, if u arnet financially stable doesn't mean u won't give ur child a birthday gift, no matter hw little let him understand that its tht little u have, he'll love u, nigerian parents blive they are gods to there children, no freindly interraction with there kids, always shouting, my dad always nags about everything u do, he always finds sometin to mke u look bad, I'm not sure if u understand wht u said about parents standing up or wateva, it doesn't tally with wht we are discussing

Kennedyiheme:
I'm not a child any more, I just thought about what happened when I was younger, if u arnet financially stable doesn't mean u won't give ur child a birthday gift, no matter hw little let him understand that its tht little u have, he'll love u, nigerian parents blive they are gods to there children, no freindly interraction with there kids, always shouting, my dad always nags about everything u do, he always finds sometin to mke u look bad, I'm not sure if u understand wht u said about parents standing up or wateva, it doesn't tally with wht we are discussing

If you are an adult, you need to move on. You can't change the past, but you can influence your future.

Pidggin:


If you are an adult, you need to move on. You can't change the past, but you can influence your future.

I've moved on, I'm more concerned about the younger ones

My prayer is for God to give u stubborn kids so that u will know its not easy to raise kids

darlenese:
My prayer is for God to give u stubborn kids so that u will know its not easy to raise kids

what are you saying? Did you read my write up? Or havnt you heard of bad parents? You want God to mke the stubborn kid that got stabbed by her mother wisdom? U heard tht news right? Please be critical about analysis, most parents don't show love to there children, I expected you to. Talk about that.....and I'm not a kid

Kennedyiheme:
what are you saying? Did you read my write up? Or havnt you heard of bad parents? You want God to mke the stubborn kid that got stabbed by her mother wisdom? U heard tht news right? Please be critical about analysis, most parents don't show love to there children, I expected you to. Talk about that.....and I'm not a kid

I have not heard of bad parents, except those that have psychological problem.

It takes a happy parent to raise happy children , this unhappyness could hv been caused by so many factors, which u don't even bother to find out,
Do you sound think its easy to raise a home ?
You sound like a rebelous son. When u have ur kids, raise them the way u like.

KanwuliaJara:
Hmmmmm! Generational CURSE tins!

Well every parent has their own peculiar way of raising their kids. No parents are the same. However have you tried sitting down with him ti have a father and son conversation and air your grievances to him in a respectful and humble way

2.are you sure you haven't offended him in the past

3.sometimes parents take out the beef they have with their mother on the child
4.he might be experiencing something bad that you don't know about. Try finding out all this andIif it doesn't work involve an elder or someone he respects in the family. Maybe like his elder brother, mother or aunty

5.if all still fails to work then move out of the house with your siblings and get a place of your own to stay. When loneliness kills him he will find you and tell you what's eating him up

darlenese:



I have not heard of bad parents, except those that have psychological problem.

It takes a happy parent to raise happy children , this unhappyness could hv been caused by so many factors, which u don't even bother to find out,
Do you sound think its easy to raise a home ?
You sound like a rebelous son. When u have ur kids, raise them the way u like.

I'm not rebellous, I always know ignorant people whenever there's a conversation, if a parent has psycological problem isn't that father still not okay? Why should parents scare there children away? Some people arnt happy wenever they are around there parents, all I'm saying is parents should make there children confide in them in anything, I never spoke one on one with my dad about issues that bothered me because he wasn't pleased with anything I did and always insult me.....madam how do u judge that as a "loving" parent? Are u saying u are not aware some parents arnt playing there roles well? How do u people on nairaland think? She even called me rebellous, u havnt heard of bad parents, were where you when a topic was posted on front page about how a fathered battered his child and his wife?na wa for u

darlenese:
My prayer is for God to give u stubborn kids so that u will know its not easy to raise kids

You're a witch. Thank God He doesn't answer your kind of prayer else na strictly back to sender things.

Vivly:

You're a witch. Thank God He doesn't answer your kind of prayer else na strictly back to sender things.

tht witch is high on cheap drugs, she's just yarning rubbish

MicroBox:
My own two cent is don't treat your kids harshly else make them your friends.. let the friendship be strong compare to harshness

What baffles me is that such parents will bow expect a sudden strong child-parent connection in the future when they are now aged?, how does this work when they never built that up over the years?

The serious hatreds displayed on nairaland by Nigerians towards other genders for example, I do wonder who should be blamed for it?