Question: I am 37 years old woman and my husband is 10 years older than me, he is a senior army officer. We got married in 1996, it was love marriage... We love each other a lot. I am somewhat a pretty lady Alhamdullilah. We are quite practical Muslims. We have two kids aged 16.5 & 13.5 years... There is no problem or worry in my life but I spend a sexless life... My husband doesn't take interest in mating. He kisses me only on cheeks, neck or hand... When I insist for intercourse he refuses, saying “in the morning we have to do exercise, should I do exercise at night too. In life there is no such thing as sex, it’s only a human defect”… He never touches under my belly button, he doesn't know when I am menstruating, neither like to kiss my lips nor allow me to kiss him... While he discharged by touching me outside and being relaxed... Sometime I feel that he takes me in a river with care and affection and suddenly leaves me in the middle of the path, he crosses the river but I struggle throughout the night and finally reach back with tears... Whenever I discussed the issue he gives me his cold shoulder... There are lot of things I want to discuss with you but I do it when I get some response from you... I never told this to anyone except my Allah.

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Its a pity you are emeshed in such trouble in your marriage,but i am constrained on religous divide,cos had you been a christian i would have been able to advice on that line,neverthless husband and wife are supose to complementary in all ways