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lilspiceyy:

The woman won't change even if he draws her closer. It seems she is just addicted to cheating dats all I can say . Op thank God u aren't married yet cos it would be a lifetime of misery wen u finally accept her after her pple has finished convincing you by using your daughter as an excuse. You have to be happy for that marriage to flourish and I know for sure that since you've found out about your wife's escapades, the marriage will be filled with distrust and quarrels which you don't want your daughter to see while growing up. Its difficult I know but u just have have to file for custody of your daughter cos if she stays with her mum, she might end up living her lifestyle cos children are quick learners and they learn from environmental experiences.

I see you don't understand the effect of a broken home a child's life. There is more danger in letting her go than marrying her. Would have loved to share a story, buh I can't here.,,

bqlekan:
I see you don't understand the effect of a broken home a child's life. There is more danger in letting her go than marrying her. Would have loved to share a story, buh I can't here.,,

It's beta than seeing a marriage full of distrust and fighting don't you think? I wouldn't want children seeing their parents fighting or seeing the dad accusing the mum of cheating and calling her a liar no no no it is more dangerous. I know what am talking about cos dat child/children will emulate what wat the dad or mum does. If they eventually get married and have a son, he wld grow up being like his dad (always doubting or fighting girls) and the daughter might end up lying too cos she has seen the dad accusing the mum of not telling the truth and the mum doing wat she does best (cheating) she might eventually team up with her mum against her dad because she supports everytin she does. I have a story too to back it up my brother.

Evrybody says "d lady is promiscuous, send her away" but has anyone tot of d reasons behind her action? Cud be dat she's feeling insecure n wants to spread her eggs other dan put in one basket to avoid stories that touch.
Op claims to love her but wudn't do d needful. So lng as u'r nt true to yoursef dis is d results u'd continually get.

Pamelayoung:
Evrybody says "d lady is promiscuous, send her away" but has anyone tot of d reasons behind her action? Cud be dat she's feeling insecure n wants to spread her eggs other dan put in one basket to avoid stories that touch.
Op claims to love her but wudn't do d needful. So lng as u'r nt true to yoursef dis is d results u'd continually get.

I am a lady too I don't think there is an excuse to doing what she does (cheating). In naija out of 100 marriages only 60 went tru due process ( traditional and white wedding) dat am sure of. Op fit no get money na. At least he accepted the baby and didn't deny he is the father of the child wen she told him she was preggy unlike some guys dat wld deny they've not even seen your panties Dat action shows he wants a future with her.

Run for your life....

You need to leave this woman. Sowwie. For your own good and peace of mind.

bqlekan:
I see you don't understand the effect of a broken home a child's life. There is more danger in letting her go than marrying her. Would have loved to share a story, buh I can't here.,,

can you explain further the danger in letting her go than marrying her. please

Godhand1:




can you explain further the danger in letting her go than marrying her. please

Mr, letting her go may cause you and your daughter a lot of trouble
You end up marrying someone else who won't treat your daughter as her own, especially after having a child or two for you. Your daughter might become depressed wishing she was with her mum. She might have to endure a lot of abuse both physically and spiritually. This may end up shaping her innocent life into a life of social crisis. Giving in to peer pressure, doing drugs, prostitution, etc.

M sure you don't want a marriage of distrust and fighting. your daughter's treatment by her step mum will bring not just distrust, it will bring violence between you and your wife.
M sure you won't want another broken home.
My advice.. find your fault, mend your ways, stick to you wife, .. she will change..

lilspiceyy:

It's beta than seeing a marriage full of distrust and fighting don't you think? I wouldn't want children seeing their parents fighting or seeing the dad accusing the mum of cheating and calling her a liar no no no it is more dangerous. I know what am talking about cos dat child/children will emulate what wat the dad or mum does. If they eventually get married and have a son, he wld grow up being like his dad (always doubting or fighting girls) and the daughter might end up lying too cos she has seen the dad accusing the mum of not telling the truth and the mum doing wat she does best (cheating) she might eventually team up with her mum against her dad because she supports everytin she does. I have a story too to back it up my brother.

m sorry, don't know how well to type this, but I believe you should understand

bqlekan:
Mr, letting her go may cause you and your daughter a lot of trouble
You end up marrying someone else who won't treat your daughter as her own, especially after having a child or two for you. Your daughter might become depressed wishing she was with her mum. She might have to endure a lot of abuse both physically and spiritually. This may end up shaping her innocent life into a life of social crisis. Giving in to peer pressure, doing drugs, prostitution, etc.

M sure you don't want a marriage of distrust and fighting. your daughter's treatment by her step mum will bring not just distrust, it will bring violence between you and your wife.
M sure you won't want another broken home.
My advice.. find your fault, mend your ways, stick to you wife, .. she will change..
m sorry, don't know how well to type this, but I believe you should understand

Dats not convincing enough am sorry. Did u read what the OP wrote? Dat wasn't her first time! Wenever she gets caught, she begs him and he kept on forgiving her.

lilspiceyy:

Dats not convincing enough am sorry. Did u read what the OP wrote? Dat wasn't her first time! Wenever she gets caught, she begs him and he kept on forgiving her.

I read it all.. and you said that wasn't convincing enough? you are really funny.. Only God knows what can convince you.

Its so sad to love someone and the person not given you back.

My only advice to you is this: sit yourself down, re-establish how you want your life and future to look like not minding whether you love her and/or your family. Focus on what is best for you and start putting them in action.

If you want her back, you need to do alot of classwork and assignment not minding the time, influence and affluence

I would have advice you to sit and talk with her the reason for her behaviour if only it was just one person she is doing the act with but from your story it seems is just random cheat.

She is cheating with more than one person and am very sure it started why you people were dating and you knew

My advice;if possible you can do a DNA on your daughter then it will be a starting point but if you can't then mayb a genotype/blood goup should be able to give you 50% assurance on the paternity of the child( remember 60% of 1st child outside wedlock are not always for the men)

2ndly;I think you should ask her to remain in her mother house until you come terms on you direction of the relationship

In all....am nore disappointed in your mother (sorry to say) for her to ask you continue with a ransom cheating wife is unheard of

If you end the relationship with your baby Mama and you plan to marry in future then I will advise to leave your daughter with the mother and always show care by visiting and sending money for her upkeep


My 10 cent