Originalsly:
Hmmm....my friend has been married for 7 years.....with 2 kids....has moved to Delta State.... Asaba.... and there were rumours that his neighbour was a bit too close to his wife. I would direct him to this thread....the test results maybe very familiar to him. @OP....you have given more than enough information for the person to be identified. You can now try to cover yourself by saying this is all made up. I guess your mouth has made the local rounds and now decide to take this confidential information worldwide. Did you for a second think about the repercussions your loose lips can cause?...the lives it can severely affect? I wish you get kicked out of the medical field ...but can direct you to another field of employment where your loose lips can be gainfully employed. And we wonder why men are afraid to go do medical check up.

AreaFada2:

But there could be reasons. Maybe he could not bear to break up the engagement. He said he found out "just" before the marriage. OP should have found out "just how close to wedding" it was. Anyhow paying bad with bad does not cut it.

This is coming from a guy who was once duped by an infertile girl. Wasted two years with her only to find out about 6 months to marriage. From a clinical source. No single doubt. She had destroyed her womb through abortion. One was ready to forgive but for the continued lies and denial by her and her mother. One wanted her to get any possible treatment like IVF and bills no problem. If they just admit and come clean. But they continued the lies. Their dad didn't know of her abortion. As usual mothers and daughters keep these secrets. All they both wanted was just for her to get abroad. So everything had to end.

One funny thing is many people, even educated folks, still regard male infertility to be same as impotence. Very funny hearing it in a clinical setting.

In another news: 50% of first born kids belong to another man & 30% of all kids belong to another man. Men's infertility is NOT responsible for all that.

Kachisbarbie:


A standard sperm count is 20million> (per ml), but based on the Nigerian climate/stress level_ 15million(per ml) can pass.

Motility is the speed of the sperm (40%> is viable), how fast does it move( that answers your sluggish question). Here his sperm's motility is 0%_ that means it ain't going nowhere baby. Pregnancy is not achievable.

In a situation where the count is high but motility is a bit low, then the numbers (count) can cover up. His case is a case of 'severe oligospermia'. They sometimes don't get better, except if they try ARTs (IUI, IVF/ICSI...)

Taking zinc and folic acid helps. Then lifestyle is an important factor.

Royver:
So this guy enters my office with a seminal fluid analysis report.
Time collected - 10am
Time tested - 10.15am
Motile 0%
Sluggish 20%
Dead/Immotile 80%
Sperm count 1 million.

I tell him the result and he says there is improvement. Previously Sluggish was less than 10%.

I ask how long he has been managing low sperm count. He said he discovered it just before his marriage of about 7yrs.

I ask if he has ever Impregnated anyone in the past and he tells me no but that he has two kids by his wife. In fact despite his low sperm count he has never had any problem getting his wife pregnant so much so that the wife has gotten pregnant on many other occasions but miscarried. That there were no issues until they moved from their previous neighbourhood to delta state. He recalls his wife and neighbor were very emotional when they left. Since they came to Asaba she has not so much as taken in...

I look at him and he looks slowly back at me as realisation sets in.

Awkward silence.

Originalsly:
Hmmm....my friend has been married for 7 years.....with 2 kids....has moved to Delta State.... Asaba.... and there were rumours that his neighbour was a bit too close to his wife. I would direct him to this thread....the test results maybe very familiar to him. @OP....you have given more than enough information for the person to be identified. You can now try to cover yourself by saying this is all made up. I guess your mouth has made the local rounds and now decide to take this confidential information worldwide. Did you for a second think about the repercussions your loose lips can cause?...the lives it can severely affect? I wish you get kicked out of the medical field ...but can direct you to another field of employment where your loose lips can be gainfully employed. And we wonder why men are afraid to go do medical check up.

Ishilove:

Can you explain more on the lifestyle factor?

@ spiralwedge: I don't know where they do that o. You done born finish?
Y'welcome @ Wendie94. We learn everyday, I learnt from my OB/GYN too.

Y'all should calmdown kwanu, the OP is a writer and medical practitioner. This could be fictional, what else would he base his fiction on_ if not his field?
A disclaimer is in place @OP

Kachisbarbie:


Lifestyle: That's basically what you do everyday and how you do it.
Work/Alcohol/Cigarettes/Hot baths/tight wears/performance and recreational drugs... etc.

Working conditions that makes a man sit for hours isn't good, same with hot work places. Excessive intake of alcohol and cigarettes is bad. Bathing water that is hot enough to skin 'okuko igbo' just because you like it, it's harmattan or raining season is not ideal. Abusing steroids (etc) leaves a longrun negative effect on the sperm.

In a nutshell, everything should be done in moderation or totally cut off. The testicles should be pampered and left at optimum (best) temperature. It may not always apply to every man (some are lucky...some are simply blessed) _ but prevention is better than cure...

eyinjuege:
I really don't feel any pity for the man. It's obvious he's not the father of those kids. But then again, his marriage was built on lies right before it even took off. He knew he had low sperm count and still went ahead to get married without letting his spouse know.
They both deserve each other.

Ishilove:

Cheeeeiiii!!!

Some women sef

The man on his part was living in self deception. He knew in his sub-conscious that you can't father a baby with low sperm count but he opted to live in a fool's paradise. Shior.

After the devil, fear women

neoapocalypse:


Is it too much for your God to do or don't you believe in miracles anymore ?

Ishilove:

Hold on...

Royver:

If you like have 50 friends that had similar experience. No names or ages were mentioned hence confidentiality has not been broken.

Direct him immediately. Let's see if his results tally with these or if I indeed saw him and took down this particular history from him. Patiently waiting.

If you have low sperm count be kind to yourself and go for checkup so you can be helped. It's not as bad as you think, solutions abound for infertility. Thank you.

donKonji:
I have a story albeit not too similar to the op's version. A friend of mine during the courtship period was told by his fiancee that she had a brief affair with a married senior colleague at her office before they started dating. She however broke up the relatiinship months before meeting my friend - her fiance. The main issues for him after 3 years of marriage are;
1. He remembered her (at the time of the wedding) asking if she could invite the "man" i.e colleague to their wedding which he vehemently disapproved of at the time
2. 3 years after the wedding, they now have a 2year boy whose complexion is extremely fair - a contrast to the dark skin of both parents. A host of the boy's other features are also in contrast to those of his parents.
3. Having concerns, my friend did some research into his wife's past and discovered that her erstwhile colleague is fair complected and has some other disturbing physical characteristics similar to the boy's.
4. Being perturbed, he has secretly conducted multiple dna tests at several well reputed labs and all results indicate my friend is the father with 99.999% accuracy.

He is however still worried considering the boy looks nothing like him.

JeffreyJamez:
...and I just laughed for the first time today
Buhahahahahahahahahahahaha
*dies *

sayoberry:


*pours cold palmwine on Jeff to wake him up*

Originalsly:
Hmmm....my friend has been married for 7 years.....with 2 kids....has moved to Delta State.... Asaba.... and there were rumours that his neighbour was a bit too close to his wife. I would direct him to this thread....the test results maybe very familiar to him. @OP....you have given more than enough information for the person to be identified. You can now try to cover yourself by saying this is all made up. I guess your mouth has made the local rounds and now decide to take this confidential information worldwide. Did you for a second think about the repercussions your loose lips can cause?...the lives it can severely affect? I wish you get kicked out of the medical field ...but can direct you to another field of employment where your loose lips can be gainfully employed. And we wonder why men are afraid to go do medical check up.

ivyT:


#Wicked

donKonji:
I have a story albeit not too similar to the op's version. A friend of mine during the courtship period was told by his fiancee that she had a brief affair with a married senior colleague at her office before they started dating. She however broke up the relatiinship months before meeting my friend - her fiance. The main issues for him after 3 years of marriage are;
1. He remembered her (at the time of the wedding) asking if she could invite the "man" i.e colleague to their wedding which he vehemently disapproved of at the time
2. 3 years after the wedding, they now have a 2year boy whose complexion is extremely fair - a contrast to the dark skin of both parents. A host of the boy's other features are also in contrast to those of his parents.
3. Having concerns, my friend did some research into his wife's past and discovered that her erstwhile colleague is fair complected and has some other disturbing physical characteristics similar to the boy's.
4. Being perturbed, he has secretly conducted multiple dna tests at several well reputed labs and all results indicate my friend is the father with 99.999% accuracy.

He is however still worried considering the boy looks nothing like him.

AreaFada2:

But there could be reasons. Maybe he could not bear to break up the engagement. He said he found out "just" before the marriage. OP should have found out "just how close to wedding" it was. Anyhow paying bad with bad does not cut it.

This is coming from a guy who was once duped by an infertile girl. Wasted two years with her only to find out about 6 months to marriage. From a clinical source. No single doubt. She had destroyed her womb through abortion. One was ready to forgive but for the continued lies and denial by her and her mother. One wanted her to get any possible treatment like IVF and bills no problem. If they just admit and come clean. But they continued the lies. Their dad didn't know of her abortion. As usual mothers and daughters keep these secrets. All they both wanted was just for her to get abroad. So everything had to end.

One funny thing is many people, even educated folks, still regard male infertility to be same as impotence. Very funny hearing it in a clinical setting.

In another news: 50% of first born kids belong to another man & 30% of all kids belong to another man. Men's infertility is NOT responsible for all that.

neoapocalypse:


You want to consult your "lesser" god , go ahead and let's see where it gets you.