In my state Anambra, some men married their wives through being connected to the girl and some also got married after being good friends/lovers. Some say that families that fall in the above first scenery have better married life and the love lasts longer why some disagree to agree with the other pattern with their own best personal reasons. One of these days I'll be joining the big boys, I want to know which part I should follow when am ready cos am still single.

both z good....but finding should be most preferred

Make she find me

To be introduced is less stressful n less mistakes. relax n let 'em homies select a well groomed n well mannered maiden for you.
All you gotta do is make that request.

Lahotte:
both z good....but finding should be most preferred

Please brother, why do you prefer finding the girl yourself. please I need to be convinced on which is better.

Be introduced is easier but better I don't know

Find!.....observe. .access.. approach

The most important thing is to appreciate the lady in question, if she is a good lady.
Being introduced to her doesn't mean she doesn't have other admirers or that she is simply too available and can be taken for granted. Also, meeting her and going through all the processes of getting to know her, doesn't make her more complex, less available and all.
One truth is, if a good man is sincerely ready to meet a good lady, being introduced or meeting her is just fine, either ways.