You’re older and wiser. You know what you want from
life. You want a relationship, but there’s none in sight.
Why is dating so hard in your 20’s?
Dating through high school and college is one of the
most challenging experiences. These periods mark the
beginnings of love, trust, sex and heartbreak that
shape the way your future-self deals with
relationships for years to come.
You’re finally out of
school with your new adult job, and things are going great, but
there are no romantic prospects in sight.
What happened? There are many emotional and situational
difficulties
in finding a mate as you get older. Not only has the
world changed since you took a break from the dating
world, but your priorities have changed, and now it
seems like you’re destined to be single forever.
Reasons why dating gets harder as you get older
We’re looking at 10 reasons dating gets harder from
20 onward, and what you can do about it!

#1 You’ve become set in your ways.
It’s true. The older we get, the more stubborn we become about
what we do and do not like. Working through college-
age relationships, while frustrating and sometimes
emotionally crippling, also taught you exactly what
you’re looking for in a mate, as well as all those little
flaws you’re simply too old and too wise to put up with now.
However, it also causes you to become slightly jaded
and less open to new types of people. Like it or not,
you’ve become “old” and set in your ways, and not
even Mr. Right can seem to break your stance.

#2 You have more emotional baggage.
When you’re a teenager, you feel like your whole life is ahead of
you. Love is blissful, life is free, people are genuine,
and you have all the naivety in the world. It’s that
same naivety that gives you the balls to trust in love
and continue putting yourself through relationship
torture for years and years. It is also during this time in our lives
that we begin to develop emotional
baggage.
Suddenly the way our first love hurt us sets the
pattern for how we handle future relationships. By the
time we’ve hit our mid-20s, 30s and 40s, our
emotional and physical baggage only grows, and if
you’re dating within your age range, then that would
mean your potential partner has some baggage of their own,
creating a sticky situation for your future
relationship.

#3 It’s way harder to meet people.
Ironically, once you’ve matured and feel like you’re finally ready
for a
serious relationship, there seems to be no avenue to
find one! Once you’re outside of high school and
college, your dating pool seems to shrink drastically.
The simplicity of taking a chance with that cute girl in
class has now turned into you trolling the gym or your
workplace for someone to date. This only gets harder
as you get older, as you’re not exactly keen to go
clubbing for potential partners when you have a 7AM
meeting.

#4 You’ve gotten too used to casual dating.On the flip side,
perhaps you’ve spent a little *too* much
time in the dating world, and not enough time in the
world of relationships to remember how to do it. As
silly as it sounds, sometimes jumping into a
relationship isn’t as easy as riding a bike, if you
haven’t done it for a while.
After 3 years with my serious long term boyfriend, I
suddenly felt like I had no clue how “kids” these days
were pursuing each other. This can be incredibly
discouraging to those trying to jump back into the
dating pool, but don’t give up! It may be hard, but it
sure isn’t impossible.

#5 It’s harder to meet someone with your goals.The fabulous
thing about getting older is that you only
become surer of what you want out of life. The only
bad side? It becomes harder to meet someone who
shares your life goals after college, especially when
life becomes tangled with demanding jobs, children
from a previous relationship, ex-wives and husbands, and other
familial obligations.

#6 It’s awkward approaching someone new.
While you realize you’re not in elementary school any longer,
the thought of approaching someone new with the
thoughts of dating can sometimes be overwhelming. This may
be easier when you are still in your 20s.
However when you hit your 30s, 40s, and 50s, the
thought of approaching a stranger for a date becomes as
uncomfortable a thought as approaching a child on
your first day of school and asking: “Want to be
friends?”

#7 Someone else has had a chance to shape your
potential mate.
Your potential new mate has already had a handful of
relationships, and may even be
divorced or separated, meaning they’ve had dozens of
opportunities for someone else to shape their likes,
dislikes, intuition, trust, and everything else in
between.
This doesn’t mean your potential mate has entered a
“no-go” zone. It is simply a fact of life. Still, you can’t
deny how awesome it would be to have someone at
least a little impressionable to roll in the hay with.

#8 Social media and cell phones have ruined our
social capabilities.
This is especially true of those in their 20s.
The hard fact is that while technology has
created a fun, diverse, and explorative spin on the
current world we live in, it has also drowned our
abilities to properly socialize. Phone call, anyone? Instead,
youths today would
rather communicate impersonally via text message
than actually get to hear their new crush’s voice. Ever
seen a couple on a date at a restaurant, yet both of
them are glued to their cell phones? Point taken.

#9 Looks have faded. You’re not getting any younger.
A ridiculous thought for those in their 20s, but true for
the rest. Don’t deny checking yourself out in the mirror
studying your face at the sleep line that takes just
*that* much longer to go away than it used to, or that
one gray hair that seemed to have five friends attend
its funeral. When you’re young, shallow as it is, you feel like you
can skate by on your looks to at least hook in your
man and eventually make him see how awesome your
personality is, too. The same goes for younger guys
who subsist on beer and ramen noodles, and still look
like they jumped out of a Chippendale’s ad. Now you may be
finding you’re working your magic the other
way around.

#10 The good ones are taken.This applies to most generations
after 20. It seems all the good, cute guys
who still have hair, or the smart, attractive women
without children are already committed to someone
else. Don’t sweat the small stuff when it comes to finding
relationships in your later years. You may be set in
your ways, but you know what you want, and when
you do find that special someone, they’re going to be
of the highest quality, because you won’t accept any
less. Try not to dwell too much on the negatives when it
comes to aging and meeting people.

The process may
be a little more difficult than when you were in your
teens, but the result of a mature, loving relationship is
totally worth the struggle.

nah lie jhoor, dating has never been this easier ever...

Hmmmm tell them

forever young
i wanna live,forever young
do u really want to leave for.........

the only thing the lass decodes is sex sex sex so apparently,start forming hard to get.... is a way too easier to fall in love below 10(young love )

Fact

You think dating is difficult in your 20s?
You haven't seen anything yet.
Wait till u are past 30.

You will be able to write a new definition for the word "difficult".

Some people still duno d difference between dating and bein in a relationship

Me I no know oo.

are u serious

dating is difficult wen u in ur 20's

nicca please

as a guy, thats actually wen the girls starts coming around u
cuz they sees as as a guy thats ready to settle down

talking from experience

I smell fp.
Anyhow sha.... Just in case...



Ah waz here(in Beyonce's voice)