One of the sweetest things in life that really brings pleasure, comfort and courage is friendship. When you're lucky to have a friend who stands by you through thick and thin, it really can be comforting.
As people, our lives are daily buffeted by the realities of living. This life has got moments of highs and lows, surplus and scarcity, hurt and pleasure, happiness and sadness, loss and gain. It's never consistent or predictable. Life is a challenging yet compulsory project. Living is what your life is about; Life is what you're about.
But with a good friend to lean on its much easier, with caring people around you burdens can be shared, challenges borne together and a helping hand leant as at when required. It's such a good thing to have people you can call your friends.

In my experience, friends have really been useful at various times and in various ways. People to share good news and bad news with, those who could help, connect, support and supply whatever i needed. I've had people who were really there for me, to a high degree my friends and associates contributed in their various ways to whom I've become today.

Lately however, I began to think more about friendship and its purpose after a friend shared with me her experience on getting a promotion in her office. She's waited for years to secure this promotion. She's worked very hard and secured the necessary qualifications to earn her this new position.

According to her, her promotion had suffered delay because of her competence and efficiency in her previous position and top management had no reliable replacement for her hitherto – they figured her promotion may upset the flow of things, so they made her remain there to stabilize processes and work flow.

Thank goodness her prayers were answered late last year and in January she got her letter of promotion to the position of a manager.
Meanwhile her best friend and closest associate in that establishment was on leave when this promotion took place. This friend worked with the human resources team and was the HR partner to my friend's team. She's been a manager herself for about 3 years now – way before my friend.
Upon her resumption and hearing my friend is now a manager she became upset to everyone's surprise. She was so angry and began to protest. She hated the fact that the decision to promote my friend was taken behind her back and as the HR partner to the team; she ought to have been carried along before effecting the promotion.

This my friend got to know later that this so called best friend in HR had apparently been the one delaying her promotion. Every time it was discussed she would make a case against her friend and ensure the promotion was deferred. This promotion was only made possible because her so called best friend was on vacation this time around.

When this my friend heard this story she didn't believe it because this so called best friend has supposedly stood by her during the delay, encouraging her and praying along that God will do it. This so called friend visited her regularly at home and as it were, they've become family friends.
But of course my friend eventually realized her best friend had truly been behind her delayed promotion all along, when suddenly this so called best friend stopped talking to her and relating with her, all because now, she has the promotion and they are both managers.

My friend, in relaying this story was crying not because of the betrayal from her friend but more because she was missing this so called best friend.
My friend couldn't handle the break up and an end to their friendship. Even though she was wronged, she couldn't handle the loneliness and friendship failure.

Now she goes for lunch alone, no one to share with or confide in. The entire gist about her husband, her family, her kids, new clothes, shopping spots, new eating joints, BB chats, Facebook chats, making fun of other colleagues, bosses and general gossip are over.

Though my friend ought to be the offended one; upset at the treachery of this so called best friend, yet she's the one hurting simply because she can't let go of the friend and the friendship as mean as this friend had been to her.

In my submission and based on my personal experience, I do not think there's anything like best friends forever. I've had friends and I still have many friends. Truth is the intimacy that friendship brings and the disappointment that follows when it's over, has caused me more pain than most things in life. Friends have messed me up, believe me I can't begin to tell. Friends that I gave my all in love, attention, care and material things suddenly turned around to orchestrate my pain, downfall and embarrassment. So I've learnt to watch my friends closely and understand my enemies. Why? It's simple.

You see many friends are your friends because in your current state, you don't intimidate them and they don't see you as a threat to their self-esteem and personal pride, so they can handle you; they can show-off to you and at times oppress you with their own successes and accomplishments. In fact most times when they help you it's not because they love or feel sorry for you but because it gives them an air of superiority and a sense of I'm better than him or her.

Immediately things get better for you and you match them, or even exceed them in status, you'll see their real colours. That friendship is likely going to end.

Another set of friends are those who stick with you because of what they can get or benefit from you. They are your praise singers and would pretend to love you or be willing to give anything for you because of what they're getting. It can be protection, favours, contracts, cash or connection. Once you're no longer in a position to benefit them or they realize they don't need you anymore, it's over, they move on.

My dear friend, I personally don't believe in best friends forever. I'm convinced in this journey of life you indeed need friends, but their place in your life is for a role, a purpose and for a season, once their season is over, they move on and your next helper and friend shows up.

Please don't get too emotional about friendships and relationships, most, if not all will end or become distant with time. Be your own best friend and learn to let go of other friendships once the season is over. You'll see the new friend you need for your new level will show up, please don't get it twisted. Let it go.


Source: http://muyiwaafolabi.com/blog/Frankly-Speaking-With-Muyiwa-Afolabi/TODAY-ON-FRANKLY-SPEAKING---LETTING-GO.php

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It's one & only DKN Boss

Things change

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