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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by raayah(f): 3:25pm On Sep 20, 2015
adonbilivit:
come back and make sense

what??
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by tdammy(m): 3:25pm On Sep 20, 2015
See all the ladies for here they run their mouth, "sack her or give her more chores" mtcheeew
na unaa type go dey complain say Ur boss/madam/oga wahala too much eem won use work kill you, U no dey work again. grin grin



well my advise for the op is to seat her down and tell her Ur do's and dont,


and U all should remenber thats someone's mother oh.

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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by HireKiller(m): 3:25pm On Sep 20, 2015
You are acting as though your Nanny is doing the chores you listed, for your neighbor instead of for you.
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by adonbilivit: 3:26pm On Sep 20, 2015
raayah:


what??
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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by Nobody: 3:26pm On Sep 20, 2015
So OP lazyness nor still let you got buy TV for ur hux too.?
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by raayah(f): 3:26pm On Sep 20, 2015
luba9876:
if the nanny/househelp does all of these, then what do you do for children as a parent? do you think it's easy being lonely, having no one around to atleast say hi? I feel you only need to warn her on discussing your family issues with outsiders.

The parents are working hard to take care of their kids.. not everyone has the luxury of staying at home!

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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by josite: 3:26pm On Sep 20, 2015
is he or she not human.being an househelp doesnt derogates from her fundamental human right.if u dont like it,sack her,dont complain about the things u allow.
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by favourlove1: 3:26pm On Sep 20, 2015
babythug:

See if you can add more chores maybe that will curb the idle time.

Have a word with her too and firmly express that you don't want that.

Begin to explore back up nanny options.

Don't let her know your daughter gave you the information
u are very wicked! Add more chores to d above? Don't worry ur children are next! Its your type that would return one day n discover their help have disappeared with their belongings. A lady works from 7 to 7 n just steps out to socialize n ur talking of adding more work load? What does OP do aside waking u n going to work? Rubbish!

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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by Nobody: 3:27pm On Sep 20, 2015
If you are not comfortable about it, just tell her not to take your children to your neighbors house.
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by jacoik(m): 3:27pm On Sep 20, 2015
maybe ur tv in d house isn't good enough for her, my advice? pls look for another nanny or beta still carry ur kids to boarding school to avoid d story that touch tomorrow
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by manee2(m): 3:27pm On Sep 20, 2015
Tx lady f again
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by davdandam(m): 3:28pm On Sep 20, 2015
Zehner:
Don't you have TV in your house? Time to look for another Nanny abeg or try extended care in schools.
Gbam grin
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by officialgeorge(m): 3:28pm On Sep 20, 2015
sack her jawe did u employ her to mingle?9ja peepz neva professional in anytin
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by absoluteSuccess: 3:29pm On Sep 20, 2015
chicobaddest:
Human beings are social in nature,you can't expect her to be on her own through out the day

If you Aint comfortable with it,you can talk to her, and if she refuses to stop you are free to do all the work on your own

Period! grin

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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by favourlove1: 3:29pm On Sep 20, 2015
yomi007k:
Those people aint Robots.

They need 2 mingle wt other ppl or else depression gona creep in.

So long as she does her job well n does no harm, I don't think dts a big deal.
God bless you for this comment. If op thinks house keeping cum nanny easy y she no leave work to look after her kids. Here is someone who does all n still socialises n she is not happy.

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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by ifeomaekol(f): 3:31pm On Sep 20, 2015
Wat kind of job do u do ma dt u dnt hv time wt ur kids or do house chores? Be careful sha, am nt comfortable wt her attitude either, so u beta talk to her nw n if it contiues pls find another nanny------its nt wickedness it taking pre caution, for those dt ll say its wickedness to sack her. Besides its wrk she's dia for nt to take d children to d nxt house, this is hw pple plot evil n kidnap right under ones nose wtout anyone kwing. Madam beta still start managing ur home ursef ooooo, times are bad biko.
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by Nobody: 3:31pm On Sep 20, 2015
cry grin grin

To park and shop abi?

mznuez:
Send her parking
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by favourlove1: 3:32pm On Sep 20, 2015
ambient:
all you women up there advicng her to sack her or give her extra load are wicked what happened to simple telling her not to go there.wicked housewives
I tire o! See their wicked mind set! No wonder they have helps who ends up molesting their children cux of their wickedness. Are nannies not humans? What makes them think cux she is a nanny she should stop living cux she is working for them.
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by Nobody: 3:32pm On Sep 20, 2015
A woman that does all these things and you are calling her Nanny or distance wife

What is your wife role then? is it only to give you f*ck?


You should be worried about your wife failing duties not your "Nanny"

Ok?
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by AfroKnight: 3:34pm On Sep 20, 2015
ambient:
all you women up there advicng her to sack her or give her extra load are wicked what happened to simple telling her not to go there.wicked housewives

I just can't believe the level of wickedness of those women. Someone dedicates her 7am to 7pm and they still want to add more chores.

Those children are raised by the nanny already. The mother has reduced her influence in the lives of those kids. Nanny takes them to and from school. Nanny cooks for them and "HELPS WITH THEIR HOMEWORK". Why Na? Children often bond with the individual who helps them through homework or other tasks that they may need assistance with.

Mothers, be more involved in the lives of your children. Don't give your place(in your child's life) to the nanny especially bathing and helping with homework.

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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by Nobody: 3:35pm On Sep 20, 2015
ambient:
all you women up there advicng her to sack her or give her extra load are wicked what happened to simple telling her not to go there.wicked housewives
...thank you... We don't have to look far, these heartless madams we hear of, are on NL.
Op, ask her why she had to go over to a neighbour's. Does she have a day-off at all?

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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by florakims(f): 3:36pm On Sep 20, 2015
I won't advise you to sack her, because changing nannies every time affects child's development negatively. What you can do is sit her down and tell her what you want and what you don't want. Talk to her in a subtle way, nd make her see reasons. I'm sure she will listen since she's of age(above 40). Being of age have nothing to do with maturity though. It also depends on your relationship with her right from time. Trust me, some nannies/house helps do some bad stuffs to deliberately hurt their madam due to how they re being treated by the madam. Now if the act still continues after the plenty talks, then its time to look for a new nanny, just that this time, you will be more careful
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by Oceemo(m): 3:36pm On Sep 20, 2015
ambient:
all you women up there advicng her to sack her or give her extra load are wicked what happened to simple telling her not to go there.wicked housewives
don't mind those wretched imps by they words u shall know them.
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by arabianights: 3:36pm On Sep 20, 2015
Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.


Your fears are well founded.Any one that tells you other wise isnt a woman with kids or reasonable at all.Has her attitude changed?
Diplomatically llook for a way to ground your daughter or children leaving to go any where except weekends that is when you are at home and then go ahead to enforce your nanny not leaving your kids alone at home,That way your nanny cant go any where as your kids cant be left alone.

I hope you have never said anything boit your neighbours to her?Dont you have tv at home? your kids obviously might like going to your neighbours house due to programmes that arent shown on your own tv channels,find out and if you can afford it ,please do.

You have to 100% avoid conflicts,gossip etc from neighbours much as they will talk but dont fuel it.Dont let your nanny know what you are up to or the fact that you dont like her moves as she might go and tell her new friends and even add salt and pepper.

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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by annawhite(f): 3:37pm On Sep 20, 2015
Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.
look a for a new nanny! She is selling you out to the neighbours...she should be like a sister to you. but in this case she is the frenemy *kicK her to the curb #safety first
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by favourlove1: 3:37pm On Sep 20, 2015
Op u should take a cue from ur nanny for peaceful co existence. So cux u don't associate with your neighbours ur nanny should also turn them to enemies? She is a matured adult n have rights too. If you don't want her visiting d neighbours with ur kids let her knw. Its dat simple. If you do anything silly oyo would be your case. Being a nanny doesn't mean imprisonment
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by bugativeron: 3:38pm On Sep 20, 2015
Mystical888:

Hello House,

I'm in a dilemma concerning my househelp and Nanny.

I've noticed she has developed a relationship with the neighbours which I'm not comfortable about.

She isn't a live in hand but has been with us for 2 years now.
She is a woman in her early 40s, a Yoruba Christian who stays not too far from my place.

She helps with housechores when we are away at work.
Her job role is to:-

(1) prepare the kids and take them to school every morning.

(2) Return to the house and do housekeep.

(3)Take the kids home after school hours.

(4)Prepare lunch for them and help them with their home work.

Her hours of work is between 7am and 7pm when she resigns to go to her house.

My daughter has told me how they've gone twice to watch TV next door in the home of both neighbours. (Nanny took them there).

Should I be worried about this development or is it part of the growing up phase for the kids?

Seems she isn't challenged enough with the workload and what does she do when she's at the neighbours.


Madam, for me I will never leave my entire family open to all sorts the way you have done. Considering the fact that your children are being raised by another woman who spend more quality time with them than you do. they will definitely imbibe her values. But be as it may, because of economic situation you need to work.
My observation in all this is that, you have not even discussed your observation with the nanny. See it is easy to fire employee but getting good replacement is always a challenge. So take it easy.

rather than assuming the woman is not challenge enough as per tasking, i will advise you have one on one with her
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by menix(m): 3:39pm On Sep 20, 2015
This is what happens when u expect people to watch NTA..

Madam go buy beta DSTV, com nack am with premium subscription..
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Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by ipain: 3:40pm On Sep 20, 2015
ambient:
all you women up there advicng her to sack her or give her extra load are wicked what happened to simple telling her not to go there.wicked housewives
dont mind them. Check the thread ; "this girl is about to be kicked out" where many said a wife shouldnt be kicked out wherein she wasnt doing her duty as a mother in law.

But look at them here.
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by Neplusultra(f): 3:40pm On Sep 20, 2015
Yes! its a cause for concern!
Confront her with it esp taking your kids to watch movie next door! it's a No-No! Thank God for your daughter,tell her to be vigilant and give you feedback always!
Re: When Your Nanny/househelp Suddenly Becomes An Ally To The Neighbours! by AODT(m): 3:40pm On Sep 20, 2015
Am yet to understand how it is an issue for you. You don't need to talk to her like someone suggested, this is you home for crying out loud.

If you are not comfortable with her, simply send her packing or better still sack her and get someone else to do the job.

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