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Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by Neplusultra(f): 11:38am On Sep 24, 2015 |
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Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by plendil: 1:09pm On Sep 24, 2015 |
softandmoist: SOLID!!! |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by simdam500(m): 1:30pm On Sep 24, 2015 |
I refuse to want to talk but if I may say a word. The conflicts between the two women can be settled amicably by the man involved. #RealMenAct |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by sunnyt1(m): 8:52pm On Sep 24, 2015 |
coolviv: You are very right, of a truth, it has affected some relationships, but it can be managed you know. As long as a girl is not one of THOSE girls honestly there is no problem. |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by sunnyt1(m): 9:04pm On Sep 24, 2015 |
bukatyne: I dont really get your point but i was talking about those girls who believe a guy should practically abandon his parent once he gets married to them. Everyone still has a family to take care of but a man as well as a woman should know how to balance the equation |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by sunnyt1(m): 9:15pm On Sep 24, 2015 |
Joy1706: Madam, we have different family setup. As God will have it, the pendulum went the other way. Its one of those prayer points young people should strongly consider. |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by sunnyt1(m): 9:20pm On Sep 24, 2015 |
softandmoist: Will you stil share this same view if your son marries a woman who has that mindset that her husband is hers 100% Do you think its a joke that some single ladies openly wish to have a late MIL? The discussion is about the unusually extreme cases, i dont think there is any matured person who doesnt know there should be defined boundaries |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by gnchetts: 7:51am On Sep 25, 2015 |
How to be the best daughter in law to African mother: 1) the first day u visit ur mother in law she authomatically becomes ur mom. Never call her anything but mummy. 2) try to dress descently whenever u are visiting ur mother in law, as no mother would like to think that her son's property is being exposed to the public. 3) keep those ur expensive things back home when u are going to see ur mother Inlaw, else she thinks u are mis-spending her son's money 4) always call ur mother in law on phone and send her recharge cards sometimes, even if she has the money, she would value ur gifts more than her son's. Note that xmas gifts is very important no matter how little. 5) learn to ask of her opinion in most of ur decisions. It makes her feel valued, even when u don't end up using it. 6) don't let ur mom visit u more often than ur mother in law. (Ur mom will always understand u but ur mother in law may not) 7) do not involve in much argument with Ur mother in law. If African mother in law says that the sky is red, smile and node your head but don't tell her it's not true. It means u are showing that u know better than her and they don't tolerate that at all. Try these and see the miracle in them. ( good luck ) |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by NL1960: 12:19pm On Sep 25, 2015 |
softandmoist: Easier said than done. You can say this because he has not yet brought home a lady. Wait until he brings home a girl that you know too well to be a public dog and we will see if your plan not to cross that boundary will be kept. |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by softandmoist(f): 5:23pm On Sep 25, 2015 |
NL1960:I'm the one saying it, abi? Ehen. If he likes let him marry a professional witch, its my place as a mother to counsel. after that, its his cup of tea. You lot gave to really grow up, you know. What has setting boundaries got to do with the moral clout of my DIL? I won't go to their house to tell them what positions are holy and why they must not fake their kids out on weekends. It's not my place to go and cook for my son when the wife is there. I am raising ab intelligent, godly boy and praying for his future to be peaceful, so carry your nollywood scenario and enact it in the life of your relatives. My own son will not marry a public dog and I won't be a mean mother in-law. I have a business empire to build for their kids and grandkids, no time for nose poking. Are you satisfied? |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by softandmoist(f): 5:34pm On Sep 25, 2015 |
sunnyt1: Isn't her husband 100% hers? My own husband is mine, 100%. My own mother had a terrible mother in-law, my grandma. It didn't form a basis for my relationship with my MIL. Single ladies that want a late MIL are allowed to wish. It's free to wish. And whatever it was you typed up there, well. I wonder why there's such aa huge stat on poor MIL/DIL relationships then. If its all about maturity then a lot of mothers are petty. It's what you've implied. Sorry, have you eaten sallah meat at all? |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by NL1960: 5:56pm On Sep 25, 2015 |
softandmoist: Why are you building a business empire for your son's kids and grand kids?. Why can't your well brought up and raised son build something for his own kids as you have built for him?. This is how the control starts. |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by softandmoist(f): 6:13pm On Sep 25, 2015 |
NL1960:Control? If I bequeath my properties to my generations unborn I'm controlling them? Where are you from? He can, and will build for them. What's your business if my grandchildren and great grandchildren inherit my billions willed to them? How in your very enlightened dictionary is that control? See how you even flew off in another direction. I'm talking about raising children with good judgment, you're saying akira vcd remote control doesn't use dry cell battery. *stirs ileya stew some more* 1 Like |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by softandmoist(f): 6:17pm On Sep 25, 2015 |
gnchetts:You're the only one who has said what I'm saying in a different way. Understand that this is Africa, and you can't win these MILs. Understand that, and your life will be easy. God bless you, and if anyone has ears, let her hear. Or eyes, let her read. Hehehehe. 1 Like |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by NL1960: 11:31am On Sep 26, 2015 |
softandmoist: softandmoist: Nothing wrong with bequeathing your properties to your generations unborn. Don't you think it is better to bequeath it to your son and DIL who will in turn bequeath it to them?. Your DIL and grand DIL could have their own plans for their kids you know. They could also have businesses that they want to bequeath to their kids. Your gestures is noble but because of the nature of women, your DIL and grand DIL could see it as going beyond your boundaries and this is where the friction start. What if your grand kids and great grand kids are not interested in your business?. So, just focus on bequeathing to your kids and allow them to continue the bequeathing instead of jumping two generations ahead in the bequeathing. Btw, i need some ileya ram meat. I hope you did not use everything for that stew you are stirring. |
Re: What Is The Problem Between Mothers And Their Daughter-In-Laws? by sunnyt1(m): 8:56pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
softandmoist: Sallah meat ke? Iv spent all the holidays in the office. Then if i have my way, i will educate christians not to eat the sallah meat I like your mindset anyway, i know regardless of how wayward and retartded the society is, some ladies are still morally very sound |
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