BlaqCoffee109:
from the men right?

Truckpusher:
From both parties - No gender is innocent these days.

BlaqCoffee109:
the men usually are the guilty party..treat a woman right,you'd have her for life..if the woman's guilty? the guy ain't doing something right..I say so

Help me tell my Truckpusher o o o

BlaqCoffee109:
the men usually are the guilty party..treat a woman right,you'd have her for life..if the woman's guilty? the guy ain't doing something right..I say so

Jollyjoy:
why wouldnt they be materialistic when men these days tend to forget the lady that stood by them through thick and thin.

MizMyColi:


Help me tell my Truckpusher o o o

Truckpusher:
So, at the end of the day it's usually the guy's fault just like some guys say that it's usually a woman's fault if the union is not working.


The truth is people get married not because they truly love and adore the person they are getting married to, but simply for a lot reasons ranging from Name,sex,beauty,security,protection ,family and societal pressure et al .So how do you expect these people to withstand the pressures that comes with staying at home for years with someone that had a different orientation and understanding about life?

You have siblings and relations from the opposite sex you hardly get along with and just imagine that they are ordinary people from another culture,region and family and you end up with them in a marriage - What do you think would happen after the initial shyness,pretense and holding back that usually come with every new relationship ? You'll see a whole new different personality and that is war for that marriage or relationship.

Shine your eyes o

MizMyColi:


Help me tell my Truckpusher o o o

BlaqCoffee109:
yeah,that's so on point...I even wear spiritual Google join..if nah to shine eye eh? opolo eye join

Truckpusher:
It's not just about shinning eyes - I have always told people I date to bare it all.....Show me who you beooooo.
Do not pretend ,show your worst character to your intended life mate or in any relationship and if he or she isn't ok with that ,fine - At least you'll save the world some pains in the future.

People pretend too much these days acting like saints when they are pure demons in human clothing.

BlaqCoffee109:
..abegi, bare it all for 9j man..do Nigerian men really love? abeg to all the Nigerian men loving their women truely,you are one in a million.. make una no vex..overlook the generalisation but society made me ask this question...look around you..checkout most married Nigerian men

Sijo01:
Hmmmmmm
Even in poverty, they sticked together! Awesome is the word.

Omotayor123:

Still on bed, feeling lazy this morning *

Truckpusher:
I have seen women that gets all the best from their partners that are sleeping around with small small boys around town disrespecting their partner ....So?

And I have also seen women that are not just happy no matter what they do for them for their own comfort they keep creating drama everywhere.

People would just be people at the end of the day - Human nature is so dynamic that in issues like this one can not heap every blame on one particular gender.It is an issue of incompatibility and none of them is ready to look the other way,compromise and hope for better days.

For any relationship to work and see it to this beautiful ending - Someone has been rolling the peace, Trust me.

Somebody made a sacrifice, big time.

But these days everybody wants it their own way.

Arrrrggggghhhh
I don't like that I agree with you on this one.

Okay, let's go back to the drawing board, shall we?
You have presented an angle that I totally agree with.
But that's not all that there is to it, right?

You'll agree with me, that BlaqCoffe (which causes me headache btw) does have a point.
There are women out there like that.
I don't like that we are quick to throw t baby out with the bathwater.

A choice lies before us daily....to either focus on the negatives or the positive, no matter how diminutive.

Let me ask you, myself and everyone reading this....
What Do You Want From Life?
How Do You Want Your Love Story Written?

If it's anything in the lines of positivity, would it kill me, you and everyone reading this to start being exactly what we desire for ourselves to others?

Yes, people are selfish, and mean, and always want to have their way.....and that perhaps causes us to be that way too. I mean, let's face it...this is a clear case of do me, I do you, God no vex.

However, shey na like this we go dey dey?

It's high time we started being to others that which we desire for ourselves.
If we want a truly selfless relationship, we will learn to be that way to all and sundry.

Will there be people who will undermine and take us for granted?
Well, that's pretty much inevitable.
Though with wisdom and following our intuition, the chances/effects of being hurt will be cushioned.

The onus is on us, the ball is in our court....which is it gon be?

BlaqCoffee109:
hello..I have always wondered at your moniker..you like cauliflowers?

Hehehe
Hello
I don't know what a cauliflower is

Omotayor123:
Still on bed, feeling lazy this morning *

MizMyColi:


Arrrrggggghhhh
I don't like that I agree with you on this one.

Okay, let's go back to the drawing board, shall we?
You have presented an angle that I totally agree with.
But that's not all that there is to it, right?

You'll agree with me, that BlaqCoffe (which causes me headache btw) does have a point.
There are women out there like that.
I don't like that we are quick to throw t baby out with the bathwater.

A choice lies before us daily....to either focus on the negatives or the positive, no matter how diminutive.

Let me ask you, myself and everyone reading this....
What Do You Want From Life?
How Do You Want Your Love Story Written?

If it's anything in the lines of positivity, would it kill me, you and everyone reading this to start being exactly what we desire for ourselves to others?

Yes, people are selfish, and mean, and always want to have their way.....and that perhaps causes us to be that way too. I mean, let's face it...this is a clear case of do me, I do you, God no vex.

However, shey na like this we go dey dey?

It's high time we started being to others that which we desire for ourselves.
If we want a truly selfless relationship, we will learn to be that way to all and sundry.

Will there be people who will undermine and take us for granted?
Well, that's pretty much inevitable.
Though with wisdom and following our intuition, the chances/effects of being hurt will be cushioned.

The onus is on us, the ball is in our court....which is it gon be?

Truckpusher:
Smh

Women these days would always find a way to pin it on us even as time is changing and we've made a lot of changes for peace to reign at homes ,yet these daughters of eve wants more like Oliver Twist.

Well you do have a point. Though, I understand that some men if not almost all us unconciously run with this chauvinistic nature in this part of the world though not only in Africa which was culturally induced over time anyway, it also important to note that times have changed and there are men out there that have accepted these changes - It is unfortunate that some people still play the gender card and use the systemic application of it to have the upper hand when issues arises between a man and a woman in a union ,but the overall result is that men are becoming better husbands but one thing is threatening all that now and you all know it.

MizMyColi:


Perhaps you have a mindest already with which you view these things.

I'm being a realist here and made those assertions based on what I know to be true.

Besides, if you read my post again, you will find that I did not pin blames on any gender.

Though from what you wrote initially, I sense that you're succinctly implying that the woman should be the on who makes th sacrifice.
And bears all the brunt, just to prove that she's not like everyone else.
Now where's the fairness in that?

Same goes for ladies who expect the guy to prove he's not like the rest.

How about meeting eachother halfway?
How about a total overhaul of mindset?

MizMyColi:


Perhaps you have a mindest already with which you view these things.

I'm being a realist here and made those assertions based on what I know to be true.

Besides, if you read my post again, you will find that I did not pin blames on any gender.

Though from what you wrote initially, I sense that you're succinctly implying that the woman should be the on who makes th sacrifice.
And bears all the brunt, just to prove that she's not like everyone else.
Now where's the fairness in that?

Same goes for ladies who expect the guy to prove he's not like the rest.

How about meeting eachother halfway?
How about a total overhaul of mindset?

Kazrem:
why

Omotayor123:

Jollyjoy:
make i follow you suffer

falconey:
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Teeboy22:


Very very beautiful


I love it

Truckpusher:
I never had any mindset and under no circumstances did I ever subtly implied that women should be the one who makes the sacrifice when it comes to union between a man and a woman - You're simply speaking the mindset of an average Nigerian girl and this is the crux of the matter.

If , I as a man have decided to step down on some of my cultural and societal given rights which is inherent in me ,and I'm being again hounded by a woman to drop it all and assume an equal status then there would be problems and I would rather subscribe to that body language of meeting each other half way

,even as I am aware that it's just a matter of time that other demands for equality would arise.

How do you know this for sure?
Assuming you've ever been in such pisition, Is there a chance that your belief is what keeps playing itself out as your reality?

In this game someone need to make it work and that someone has no clear definition on who it's going to be but the laws of natural order must be respected and there can never be two captain in one ship. That was how it worked anything apart from that order is nothing but chaos.

Mark my words.

zicoraads:
See plenty talk
Ina no de tire