Leaving or staying is entirely up to you. Make sure you weigh your options objectively. It's your life,most people that will tell you to leave him will not be there for you .The ones that will likely be there for you have asked you to stay but again you are an adult capable of making your decisions and carrying your cross. This is entirely up to you.

heartbrokenwife:
Just to give an update. MY HPV was positive. It would now be sent for more tests to be sure it hasn't gone to cancerous stage. He has also impregnated about 2 women, one sells shoes in market and the other is a hair dresser. This is a man who makes almost 2million naira monthly.

I have decided i have to leave, He has told me he has been doing this since he was a teenager, so thinking he will change now is futile. He is not sexually attracted to me, but rather to extremely fat women. His women were prostitutes, fat pregnant women, even importing fat girls from the village for sex....and many other things. My family is still not in support but i have to look out for myself and my only child.

Oyi na-atu mu ooooooo. This matter is strong oo. May Almighty God see you through.

I feel sad about your story. Pls make sure u see a good specialist (Gastro)for the HPV. There are some drugs that have high positive outcome on them even though they are very expensive. Good luck

heartbrokenwife:
Just to give an update. MY HPV was positive. It would now be sent for more tests to be sure it hasn't gone to cancerous stage. He has also impregnated about 2 women, one sells shoes in market and the other is a hair dresser. This is a man who makes almost 2million naira monthly.
I have decided i have to leave, He has told me he has been doing this since he was a teenager, so thinking he will change now is futile. He is not sexually attracted to me, but rather to extremely fat women. His women were prostitutes, fat pregnant women, even importing fat girls from the village for sex....and many other things. My family is still not in support but i have to look out for myself and my only child.

This is really sad. I am sorry about your heartbreak and your health challenges however I am happy that unlike most Nigerian women who are gluttons for punishment you have some value for yourself and a direction for your future.

The kids will benefit more from two parents who love them and even if they can't stand each other than two parents staying for them living in resentment. Just both ensure you don't drag the kids into your fights and make their welfare a priority.

HPV unlike HIV is treatable even cervical cancer is treatable if detected early, please don't wait till you get HIV This should be seen as a warning from God that you need to value your own life before he gives you something worse.

Ignore his money and his supposed class. If he chooses to live a reckless life allow him just don't subject yourself to that sort of extreme misery.

I pray for strength for you. So sorry once more

Can wives also be séx addicts ? Now that will be interesting story/situation.

Will we clamor for the husband to forgive, forget, & take her back? Heaven will probably fall that day. Mstcheeeewwww.

Do a separation first to clear your head. Then make a decision that you can live with. Weigh the pros & cons of staying.

If you decide to leave, there are responsible men out there. Not all men are cheats. That's what cheats say to 'enslave' their women.

If you stay, be prepared to forgive & forget. Be prepared to accept all his flaws. And also be prepared for that 50/50 chance of him repeating it. Use a poster here as case study: the husband sent a text to one of his mistresses saying the wife is not going anywhere.

I can't say enough about women having their own source(s) of income. When or if situations like this arise, you are in a better frame of mind to make better decisions. You are not stuck staying if you don't want too.

I wish you good luck!

...I just read your update about the HPV. Biko, run far far far far away. If you die or become really sick, he will leave you and remarry. No man is worth your life/happiness. Adultery is grounds for divorce in the Bible. I wonder why peeps keep forgetting that when they give advice.

heartbrokenwife:
Just to give an update. MY HPV was positive. It would now be sent for more tests to be sure it hasn't gone to cancerous stage. He has also impregnated about 2 women, one sells shoes in market and the other is a hair dresser. This is a man who makes almost 2million naira monthly.

I have decided i have to leave, He has told me he has been doing this since he was a teenager, so thinking he will change now is futile. He is not sexually attracted to me, but rather to extremely fat women. His women were prostitutes, fat pregnant women, even importing fat girls from the village for sex....and many other things. My family is still not in support but i have to look out for myself and my only child.

It isn't easy but you will be fine. Do you have somewhere to stay? Do you have friends to support you, especially now that you need to go for treatment? I know HPV can't be treated but whatever cell changes it causes can be. So it's pap smears and monitoring for you. Just be strong. Please focus on yourself and your child for now. Your health is very important. Let me call some medical people here, I'm hoping they knows the best places for treatment/management. I'll also ask offline. Pele.

Thorpido
5minsmadness

heartbrokenwife:
Just to give an update. MY HPV was positive. It would now be sent for more tests to be sure it hasn't gone to cancerous stage. He has also impregnated about 2 women, one sells shoes in market and the other is a hair dresser. This is a man who makes almost 2million naira monthly.

I have decided i have to leave, He has told me he has been doing this since he was a teenager, so thinking he will change now is futile. He is not sexually attracted to me, but rather to extremely fat women. His women were prostitutes, fat pregnant women, even importing fat girls from the village for sex....and many other things. My family is still not in support but i have to look out for myself and my only child.

I'm pro-marriage but this one doesn't look like it's worth it most especially because i don't think your husband will change(at least not anytime soon).
You could say you want to stay because of your child and the effect of divorce on him but staying in an unhappy marriage and with a reckless husband will also have an effect on him.
I knew he didn't just start this lifestyle after marriage,you said he confessed he has been that way since a teenager.There are guys who just want to 'chop life' to the full and your hubby is one of them.
You must have seen this lifestyle while dating him and you actually said you did but still went ahead to marry him.I know it's late but for the sake of single ladies who are reading this,marriage should not be do or die.(You have options.There are men not to be married to especially if you want your sanity).

A positive HPV test does not mean you will end up with cancer but you need to be monitored.You should have a pap smear every year or twice a year depending on your age.Get to see a gynaecologist where you are who will monitor you and if you develop any symptoms like warts,get treated.

How To Avoid Vagina Injuries At Childbirth.
Why do tears happen?
Factors that increase the likelihood of tearing are:
Big baby
Posterior position of baby
First vaginal birth
click this link to grab a copy https:///2p87tva8