God didn’t create us with the ability to love simply to torture us with it. He also made us with the ability to heal. It takes time to fall in love with a person, and it takes time to recover when your relationship with that person ends. But it can be done. The heart does heal.

Obviously no one but you REALLY knows all the details and nuances of your relationship and whether it should end. And, as with any relationship problem, an important step in deciding how to move forward is talking to your partner first. But if you feel like you’ve tried everything and you’re still questioning things.

see if any of these bad signs ring a bell.


1. The quirks and habits that were NOTHING before are now driving you crazy.
Initially the things that now pisses you so much where things that made you laugh or just over look. Let’s say they’ve always been messy, but now you can barely stand what a slob they are.
“Ask yourself why this is getting on your nerves now,” relationship expert Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of Snap Strategies for Couples: said “It’s hard to leave something you’ve put a lot of time and emotion into, so you might be fixating on smaller things instead of the bigger problem.”


2. You choose to spend time with your friends, your job, or your social network account more often than with your partner.
You might not feel like you’re actively avoiding spending time with them, but if you keep making plans that just happen to mean you don’t get to hang out with them, it’s probably not a coincidence. Even if it’s not intentional, you’re making a choice and you’re not picking your partner.


3. THINGS AREN'T MOVING FORWARD AND THERE'S NO GOOD EXPLANATION FOR IT“A relationship won’t have a future or a good one, at least if one member of the couple constantly puts the brakes on developing more intimacy,”. So if they are making excuses about things like introducing you to their friends or family, talking about the future, or opening up about themselves, they’re probably avoiding it for a reason.


4. YOU'VE BROKEN UP AND GOTTEN BACK TOGETHER MORE THAN ONCE
Getting back together once is fine, but anything more than that and you’re probably not dealing with the real reason you keep breaking up. Skip the dysfunctional cycle of getting back together whenever you miss each other or are lonely and remember that you broke up for a legit reason.


5. CALLS AND TEXT MESSAGES NO LONGER COMES REGULARLY
All of a sudden you feel so reluctant sending messages or texting, sometimes you forget to. Before now you wont stay a day or two without calling or texting or both. now you only remember to text after a week or more

6. IF THERE WAS A PHYSICAL COMPONENT TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP BEFORE, IT'S PRETTY MUCH DEAD NOW
If you are just NOT attracted to your partner like you used to be, Schwartz suggests imagining feeling that way for years. It doesn’t matter if you’re not sure yet how long you’ll be with them. If this person turns out to be the one that goes the distance, are you okay going without that strong physical attraction?


7. SEX IS PRETTY MUCH THE ONLY THING GOING RIGHT WITH YOU TWO.
prioritizing sex in any relationship is a problem. totally fine if the purpose of this relationship is to meet your physical needs only. But if this isn’t a casual situation, it can be a bad sign if you’re all sex, no talk. “Some individuals prioritize needs like sex and physical attractiveness. And while those relationships can last for years, they typically don’t last for many years,”

8. YOU SPEND A DECENT AMOUNT OF TIME THINKING ABOUT WHAT ELSE IS OUT THERE, AND IF THOSE PEOPLE MIGHT BE BETTER FOR YOU.
It’s normal to be a little curious what it’d be like to be with someone else. But if you find yourself wondering if there is someone who is more reliable, sensitive, communicative, or whatever else than your partner, those fantasies might be highlighting the holes in your relationship.

“Most people won’t get all their major needs met by a relationship, but they should get most of their needs met,”

“The important point is to ask yourself two questions: What are my primary needs from a relationship? Am I getting most of those needs met?”

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