Creamish:
U cannot allow urself wallow up in depression. Sit her down and have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Spare no detail. Let her know exactly whatz going on in ur mind/heart. Shez not a mind reader so until u guys have this talk, she may never know shez hurting u badly.

Im glad U take care of her but i want to ask U honestly.. I know some people rily don't verbally appreciate ppl but they make some gestures of appreciation...something U might overlook or shrug off.. Have U ever noticed her doing anything for u which might be out of the ordinary?

tellwisdom:


Una no dey get tired of this "Talk to her" lines?? Gosh

Dyt:
I am something like that too
Not that there's no appreciation but some of us just feel we are one
Whatever I do or you do is for the benefit of us
Sometimes I eben forget to say thank you when I meant to
And if I do something and I get a thank you
It makes me really angry lol

Its simple
I had a man that always wanted thank you
He eventually gave up when he found out its not me being proud or not appreciating
Its a feeling that comes like WE ARE ONE

But If you want the thank you
I am saying it on her behalf in a million times
As a nice man
Oya do something for me make I thank you
Waiting

RiloKiley:

Thanks for this insight. I'd really like to interact more with ladies that feel this way and know what makes them tick. Its a relief for me to hear your not saying thank you is not from being proud or not appreciating because honestly I thought pride was playing a major factor on her part. Thanks again.

Prec1ous:
That woman loves you.

It look like a problem but it is not, your wife has forgotten that you guys are two. She sees herself in you and naturally expects you to know that she appreciates.

She is not doing it intentionally, but since it hurts you, let her know about it. I know your type of man, the quiet man who wants validation and a sense of belonging.

Talk to her. No cause for alarm.

PS: did you ever suffer from inferiority complex or were you bullied in school. Your childhood may not have hold much fun and thus, you need to know others are concerned and see your effort.

Take care.

cococandy:
Why not tell her how her attitude makes you feel?
At least tell her first.

And in future challenges, let her work it out herself no matter how tough. Just sit around and fight the urge to help her out.
Maybe she will be forced to ask and then you can say you won't do it bluntly because she won't appreciate it if you do.
That could open the floodgate for more outpouring. Don't shy away from it because you want to avoid a fight with her. No.

That 'fight' is long over due and you have to have it before you can amend things and move on.
No matter how 'one' you've become, spouses should always be appreciative of each other. Even for the smallest things. Taking one's partner for granted can lead to many other bigger issues.

Creamish:


Ofcourse that counts!!!!!!


Like I said..not everyone knows how to say "Sorry" or "Thank you"...but in their actions, U'll see it. Never overlook anything done out of the ordinary. She'z aight. Still have that talk with her but atleast now U have a faint idea of the kinda person she just might be.

Yomieluv:
no matter what she ought to be appreciative...


call her attention to it,when she doesnt subscribe to it,then don't use your position next time.


even we human thank GOd everyday, much less human to human.

debetmx:
Some have head but they don't have cap, some have cap but they don't have head. So this is your own problem?

OP, is she not your wife? I need a good wife not thank you.

People like you will expect one to thank them for the rest of one's life for any little assistance.

cococandy:
Why not tell her how her attitude makes you feel?
At least tell her first.

And in future challenges, let her work it out herself no matter how tough. Just sit around and fight the urge to help her out.
Maybe she will be forced to ask and then you can say you won't do it bluntly because she won't appreciate it if you do.
That could open the floodgate for more outpouring. Don't shy away from it because you want to avoid a fight with her. No.

That 'fight' is long over due and you have to have it before you can amend things and move on.
No matter how 'one' you've become, spouses should always be appreciative of each other. Even for the smallest things. Taking one's partner for granted can lead to many other bigger issues.

FrancisTony:
Why are you getting tensed over a little thing that's not suppose to be?.
At least you are happily married, and your wife is kind and loving according to your OP...
She is simply abiding to the bible verse that says, "husband and wife are one in the same flesh".

I don't see a need for "thank you" since two has come together to become one and whatever you offer & vice-versa represents both, even though it doesn't hurt to say it sha.

debetmx:
Some have head but they don't have cap, some have cap but they don't have head. So this is your own problem?

OP, is she not your wife? I need a good wife not thank you.

People like you will expect one to thank them for the rest of one's life for any little assistance.

RiloKiley:

I have been tempted to leave her to sort herself out several times. But the way I see it her success is my success, so also her failure. So even when I hold back it gets to the point i cant stand it anymore and i do something to help. Maybe i'm being too soft on her.

flyca:
OP, I feel you joor. I'm someone that likes people to use these three magic words on me, "Thank you, Please and Sorry". In fact, I will always ask for it in case the person has forgotten
I'm always like, "See as I have wasted my legs to go and buy you this recharge card Oya teeeee me Thank you" And when I hear it, it makes me grin with joy.
It makes me feel appreciated and I'm being human. I guess humans like to be appreciated.
My point is: I feel you bro.

thelish:

You always save me d stress of typing. Thank u

RiloKiley:

I have been tempted to leave her to sort herself out several times. But the way I see it her success is my success, so also her failure. So even when I hold back it gets to the point i cant stand it anymore and i do something to help. Maybe i'm being too soft on her.

Daresh:


Why don't you talk to her about it? Let her see that she is taking your help for granted and that you don't like it.

bellong:


You have to adopt the skill of an Eagle in training her eaglet to fly.

Look away from helping till she gets to a point of confusion then step in. When it is done, let her know she needs to lear n the art of appreciation. She may put up a fight for allowing her get to that point before helping, don't bother she will ease off.

No matter what, everybody must learn to say thank you, please and sorry. It doesn't matter whether he/she is your spouse, efforts must be appreciated. It encourages the other person to do more.

Same way some husbands never at any time thank their wives for the good food they eat daily.

Op, your wife is either doing it deliberately or she lacks that moral aptitude of appreciation.

For those who opined that they are one and appreciation is not needed, why do you people thank God for things?

tellwisdom:


He must have discussed this with her, countless of times before coming here to share it with you guys...Don't you think?

Ewuro4:


Appreciation makes one goes an extra mile.

cococandy:
Why not tell her how her attitude makes you feel?
At least tell her first.

And in future challenges, let her work it out herself no matter how tough. Just sit around and fight the urge to help her out.
Maybe she will be forced to ask and then you can say you won't do it bluntly because she won't appreciate it if you do.
That could open the floodgate for more outpouring. Don't shy away from it because you want to avoid a fight with her. No.

That 'fight' is long over due and you have to have it before you can amend things and move on.
No matter how 'one' you've become, spouses should always be appreciative of each other. Even for the smallest things. Taking one's partner for granted can lead to many other bigger issues.