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Let me start with an illustration which accounts for 50percent of my dating experience and mistake, here it is;
‘I bring her home, initiate a conversation or put up a move (probably attempt a kiss her) she responds (kisses back) and just as I think I have conquered, she gets turned off and withdraws, leaving me puzzled and with an erection’

This illustration applies to a lot of guys and this is because of certain mistakes we make at the initial stage of pre-intimacy.To all those who don’t know what pre-intimacy is, ‘it is the activity that precedes sexual intercourse‘ So here are some common mistakes guys make when initiating pre-intimacy.

MISTAKE ONE: NOT SETTING THE TONE

This mistakes is made even before the guy initiates the pre-intimacy, what must guys fail to understand is that the tone determines everything in the game of sex, even the simple things can turn a girl off, things like not keeping the house clean, getting food available just in case you have to serve her something, having the environment quiet and peaceful, don’t bring her home when the kids are back and making a hell of a noise.

MISTAKE TWO: NOT GETTING HER COMFORTABLE

This doesn’t apply to one night stand and booty call (paid services) but when you want to please a real woman, the first thing to understand is that her comfort determines everything , once a lady feels insecure, she won’t trust your intention and you are most likely to get an outstanding NO on every attempt.
So guys when initiating pre-intimacy, try as much as possible to ensure she is comfortable, don’t be eager to make a move, take your time, start a conversation, watch a movie and bid your time.


MISTAKE THREE: FORGETTING THAT THE LITTLE THINGS MATTERS

When initiating pre-intimacy, we tend to forget the little but very important things like getting her comfortable, the sweet talks, the little peeks on the cheeks, we don’t give enough attention to the little things and this is partly due to the silly conception given us by porn movies.
The truth is that the little things go along way in relaxing the ladies body, the sweet talks allows her to get comfortable and let her trust her.

MISTAKE FOUR: OVER SPEEDING THE pre-intimacy PROCESS


The goal of every pre-intimacy is to get to the cookies (you get my drift) but most times we are so much in a hurry to the destination that we forget to enjoy the journey. A lot of guys make the mistake of over speeding the pre-intimacy process and thereby not giving the lady enough time to build her sexual tension.
Here’s the scenario ‘As the guy you initiate the first kiss, she responds and within minute your hands moves from her cheek to her boobs or panties, that’s a complete turn off’
To avoid this mistake, we need to understand that unlike the male body which can simply be turned on by a mere thought, the females need time to build up their moods and prepare themselves for the tensions ahead.

MISTAKE FIVE: THINKING YOUR SATISFACTION IS MOST IMPORTANT

Okay, I would agree that no guy wants to get a full hard-on and not enjoy the satisfaction of a release but we tend to forget that sex is a two way thing and as much as our satisfaction is important to us, we should not neglect that our partners needs must also be met.
Don’t turn her on, have your way and then leave her in the middle, she isn’t your sex slave and her sole purpose is not to satisfy your every needs.