There is this friend of mine who has being spending money on one guy buying him cloths and shoes,but this guy never one day buy my friend or give her anything since they start their relationship.my friend is like afraid of the guy jilting her and she is asking for our candid advice if she is doing the right or wrong thing buy spending money on this guy

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There is this friend of mine [b]who has being spending money on one guy buying him cloths and shoes,but this guy never one day buy my friend or give her anything since they start their relationship.[/b]my friend is like afraid of the guy jilting her and she is asking for our candid advice if she is doing the right or wrong thing buy spending money on this guy

hmmm. . . . . .She should just be observant and be prepared for uncertainty . . .

There is nothing exactly wrong with buying the guy gifts.It should be a two way street. I have a problem when the gifts comes from one end.

Give and take in a relationship is applied 2 both parties involved. No matter how little d guy has, he should contribute in his own small way. Ur friend should mind how 2 spend on him 2 avoid being tagged desperate. she should also observe d guy very well cos selfishness and stinginess are no attributes of love.

I think she's doing the wrong thing because it'll seem as if she's trying to buy the guy.

Her feelings obviously arent reciprocated and he wont respect her.

I tire oo, if she wants to be a mother christmas, it's good, she is learning to be just like mother theresa,


maybe she is ugly but rich and only wants to keep the guy by "bribing him with gifts"

She should beware. She is acting too needy and desperate. With this guy's attitude, it will most likely backfire. I've seen a girl buy her way into a guy's heart and subsequently they got married but I need to point out that this guy was also giving her lots of gifts, though hers were more. Now they're married with a beautiful daughter.

Can A Girl Spend Money And Buy Gifts For A Guy She Is Not Yet Married To?
there is noting bad in that

while she should be careful & study him properly it cud jus be d guys nature. e.g i like buy small gift and feel more challenged 2 do more wen my lady responds but my elder bro is not he doesnt buy anything cheap, so he takes his time.

Thank you all so much for your advice? for those of you that give an advice and those of you that are insulting poster thank you too.i just want you to know that this topic is real and the issue is affecting the girl seriously so i decide to gather people opinion so that she will not regret "BE YOUR BROTHER'S KEEPER"

can parasites give anything to the host? mbanunu

why not? if a guy can do the same thing and not expect anything in return!
But come to think of it, she has got to re-examine her motive for spending on the guy, if it is to "encourage" the guy to stick to her and eventually marry her then she may as well sign up at a "heart broken people clinic" as a potential patient. but if not then carry on being good for givers never lack.
Above all don't try to buy love or induce it or even force it. let it flow naturally, if He can't appreciate and love you for who you are, then playing/acting Miss Santa claus will not get you his true love.