whitelexi:

Guerilla warfare means u use their weakness against them while serving them a dose of their own medicine
So if they're big and u're small, then u're fast and they're slow!

Mix up more with your girlfriends in her presence. Send flirt txts and u will surely recieve some if u play the cards right. Be carefree about your phone - leave it in all the places where she'll find it. Call prospective and current flirt, u can expect to get calls in response as well.

Control is the key here, so u will be careful not to get involved with any of them girls, just have fun talking dirty

No2Atheism:

Na wa o,  Whitelexi u are really to be feared by the ladies. If i were them i go pick race upon sigthing you.

Anyway sha make i just keep my mouth shut  , this one that i have already been villified/insulted/[i]told to mind my own business [/i]by the some particular ladies or ladies because i had earlier supported some other ladies or lady against you the other time.

alfchye:

I will not follow  No2atheism,i did rather follow  whitelexi .If she loves you , you will see the jealous and she will always confront you with accusation.
   This  whitelexi  knows hw to really play a lady.This is the exact stuff I did use for my girlfriend and she has long warn all her male pals not to call her at night and also not to send her romantic text.
  So I did implore you to use that tactics and if she loves you, you will see her giving them space,according to you, you've spoken to her and she doesn't heed.
If theory no work, My friend use Pratical.Chikena

No2Atheism:

@OriginalPoster

At the end of the day the decision is still yours, however please note that:

- Love does not always show up in the form of jealousy, some women and men can love their partners and show their love in the form of tolerance, quietness, saying nothing or perseverance or openness. While at the same time some others might love their partner and show that love in form of emotional reaction to perceived wrong doing. Hence it is obvious that Whitelexi's advice is assuming that all women react with jealousy to perceived wrong doing, yet the reality is that some do and some do not

Hence that she reacts to your staged flirting and assumed cheating does not mean she loves you. Instead it can actually mean 2 things:

- She really does love you and got back to her senses

or

- She really does not love you at all, but she does not want to let you go for one reason or another that is not love e.g. financial reasons or pride(considering that all human beings are pridefully possessive to a certain extent, hence her reaction might just be a primeval reaction of not wanting to lose her catch).


Once again, @originalposter, the decision is still yours to make as you see fit.

shezy:

sometimes i dont understand guys
i have this same problem in my relationship,having male friends does not mean she doesn't love you
in my own case,he told me to stop any friendship or relationship I'm having with guys especially the once i am close to.
i stopped this friendship with guys you wouldn't believe that this guy is still feeling unsecured
this is a serious issue in summary

@poster
for her to stop her friendship with those guys once wouldn't be easy but she can stop if she really meant it, at list for her sake you stopped talking to your ex so she too should try and understand
the most important thing is for you to trust your partner and tolerance is very important in a relationship.

@poster
for her to stop her friendship with those guys once wouldn't be easy but she can stop if she really meant it, at list for her sake you stopped talking to your ex so she too should try and understand
the most important thing is for you to trust your partner and tolerance is very important in a relationship.

oldmatebob:

okay well she had a couple of best friends that are males
i came along
i wasnt comfortable
i approached her
she listened and appreciated what i had to say
said she would try,
i havent seen too much to convince me to lose the jealous-ness-ness-ness etc etc
i was best friends with my ex but it was natural for me to distant myself from her so that the gf would have solid trust in me. i feel as if she should be able to do this with her guy mates considering she used to be crazy about one of them who is only friends with her cause he thinks that he can get her to cheat on me with himself. whenever he is mentioned, its often degrading this fella yet i dont understand why she bothers with him then especially when he says something to her that any decent person knows that you just dont say that to a woman.

i speak to her about it often cause im all about truth and honesty,  yet i get the same story. its a serious relationship.


is my insecurity something i just need to learn to adapt or is she in the'wrong' (feel free to use that term on whatever degree of strength you feel)

should she lessen her relationships with these guys?
would it be wise to break up?
stay together and work on it more?
bust a cap in her ass?
is she doing nothing wrong and i need to adapt?

im aware that there may be a lack of info, so let me know if more info is needed to make a fair judgement/opinion

have a good one.

I am not a fan of people expecting others to reciprocate exactly what they did.  If you distanced yourself, she doesn't have to do the exact same thing to show that she's serious.  Don't get me wrong, i don't mean its totally a bad thing after all what works for one doesnt always work for another.  Some people have a hard time cutting ties just as it's hard for some people to not feel jealous or threatened by some relationships. 

I don't think you have insecurities that are not logical.  People are fickle . If the relationship and you mean anything to her, she should know where to draw the line and how much to give/hold back.   You guys need to thrash it out again, maybe it will be clearer to you, the path to take.