My gal friend of 3yrs now has All of a sudden locked her phones from me assessing them.. Guys wat exactly does this mean? Privacy or something else

she is definitely cheating

micolo5000:
My gal friend of 3yrs now has All of a sudden locked her phones from me assessing them.. Guys wat exactly does this mean? Privacy or something else

your affair lack transparency.




She might be cheating.,

misspicy:
she is definitely cheating

Na wa o...you fit kill person chai!

misspicy:
she is definitely cheating

dnt just conclude,it might not be what you think

Op give her the benefit of the doubt and ask her why, she just might have a gud reason

misspicy:
she is definitely cheating

When i said nl is ruining relationships they think m lying

u my fav person but dis is dissappointing i have seen realtionships get ruined in reality cos of nl
I dnt take nl crios before till it ruined a frnds relationship
Now i'm really takin nl crios

wetin you dy find for her phone??


Leave her jor.. It's not your business.. Her phone, her choice.

see some inloyal fuckerz above me defending their counterparts :\

Jolllyjoy:
dnt just conclude,it might not be what you think

Please help my wondering thoughts, what else do you think could be the reason

Op, exact time to say goodbye to the dam.n r/ship. Be the man and do it immediately. It may not be easy but never let love or s+x becloud your reasoning. Just do it.

Something doesn't seem right here, there's definitely a reason for that.

sickstars:

When i said nl is ruining relationships they think m lying
u my fav person but dis is dissappointing i have seen realtionships get ruined in reality cos of nl
I dnt take nl crios before till it ruined a frnds relationship
Now i'm really takin nl crios

Jolllyjoy:
dnt just conclude,it might not be what you think

Suigeneris93:

Na wa o...you fit kill person chai!

OP said they have been dating for 3good years,all of a sudden she put a lock on her phone,meaning trust has been broken,because she must have trusted him during the period of 3 years,why the sudden change?


now answer this question,what will be your first thought if your boyfriend of 3 years suddenly starts locking his phone?
oh,don't give me the he just land a new business deal crap baes,he is definitely seeing someone else

keywords : trust,transparency,free with each other

misspicy:
she is definitely cheating

lol. The way you jumped to this conclusion would make a kangaroo jealous.

misspicy:

OP said they have been dating for 3good years,all of a sudden she put a lock on her phone,meaning trust has been broken,because she must have trusted him during the period of 3 years,why the sudden change?


now answer this question,what will be your first thought if your boyfriend of 3 years suddenly starts locking his phone?
oh,don't give me the he just land a new business deal crap baes,he is definitely seeing someone else

keywords : trust,transparency,free with each other

xpac01:
Op, exact time to say goodbye to the dam.n r/ship. Be the man and do it immediately. It may not be easy but never let love or s+x becloud your reasoning. Just do it.

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he should quit the r/ship just like that ? wow really.

misspicy:

OP said they have been dating for 3good years,all of a sudden she put a lock on her phone,meaning trust has been broken,because she must have trusted him during the period of 3 years,why the sudden change?


now answer this question,what will be your first thought if your boyfriend of 3 years suddenly starts locking his phone?
oh,don't give me the he just land a new business deal crap baes,he is definitely seeing someone else

keywords : trust,transparency,free with each other

The truth is for a relationshp to survive, u hv to give ur partner the benefit of d doubt...Nl really isn't a place to solicit relationship advice cos most of the responses u get could make u even more confused. Op shud talk to his gf she just might nt be cheating

lock ur pocket

Oahray:
lol. The way you jumped to this conclusion would make a kangaroo jealous.

its the only tangible explanation
unless maybe she is testing if the locks on her phones works

a 3 years old relationship must have gone far,not street relationship.

note: I only said she is cheating,I didn't say he should leave her

misspicy:

OP said they have been dating for 3good years,all of a sudden she put a lock on her phone,meaning trust has been broken,because she must have trusted him during the period of 3 years,why the sudden change?


now answer this question,what will be your first thought if your boyfriend of 3 years suddenly starts locking his phone?
oh,don't give me the he just land a new business deal crap baes,he is definitely seeing someone else

keywords : trust,transparency,free with each other

True words... I I just laugh when they talk what are you looking for or insecurity..
op check if u want to check and save yourself o..
Wetin de Fone to hide? pix, videos, music, chats or Wat exactly

Suigeneris93:


The truth is for a relationshp to survive, u hv to give ur partner the benefit of d doubt...Nl really isn't a place to solicit relationship advice cos most of the responses u get could make u even more confused. Op shud talk to his gf she just might nt be cheating

well I guess y'all doesn't want to accept the truth....

okay waste time on benefit of doubt and still find out she was cheating after all?

am not saying he should breakup with her but when a partner starts wanting privacy then there a breach somewhere,unless she is just testing if the locks on her phones are working


yes he will have to talk to her,which she will definitely deny,then he should investigate,which she might be good at covering up traces


my dear zero tolerance for cheats,they kill faster than AIDs

misspicy:

OP said they have been dating for 3good years,all of a sudden she put a lock on her phone,meaning trust has been broken,because she must have trusted him during the period of 3 years,why the sudden change?


now answer this question,what will be your first thought if your boyfriend of 3 years suddenly starts locking his phone?
oh,don't give me the he just land a new business deal crap baes,he is definitely seeing someone else

keywords : trust,transparency,free with each other

so you think the only reason for her action is cheating bah?sorry but you are wrong


a girl can decide to lock her phone due to various reason,of which cheating might be one but for now jumping into hasty conclusion should be out of it.



Op never mentioned any change in his g.f apart from phone locking,which can easily be pulled off,to hell with trust miss,there are things one cant spill out and that is were privacy comes in.



Let op confront the g.f,and hear what her reasons are.

I for one have locked my phone before not because i was seeing someone else,i dnt even tolerate that but because there were so many things i couldnt bring myself to tell which were hidden in my phone.



To your question miss,if my b.f locked his phone,i will confront him in a subtle way.

Even if his reasons arent convincing,his body language would be enough to add two and two together.

O boy so U don't want the babe to be free... she may not engaged in any relationship but.. .something personal, free her phone but if U find out she is in any relationship free her OK... 3yrs without ring

PrimeMinisterr:

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he should quit the r/ship just like that ? wow really.

Oya na, proffer him a solution. May be he should break her phone and now start acting like an insecured folk in a world of many options.
I anticipate a logical response. I have been in similar situation and not until things paced out of control I started regreting why I never took this very option of quitting ealier.

Odunharry:

True words... I I just laugh when they talk what are you looking for or insecurity..
op check if u want to check and save yourself o..
Wetin de Fone to hide? pix, videos, music, chats or Wat exactly

kwakwakwakwakwakwa abeg jolllyjoy say she dey hide secrets for phone...
that's a new one biko


about insecurity that is BS
so I told a story about how a boyfriend of my friend dropped the none phone checking rule,in short she can't borrow his phone to make a call and he will never near her phone,bro she discovered she was the second girl all along

misspicy:

kwakwakwakwakwakwa abeg jolllyjoy say she dey hide secrets for phone...
that's a new one biko


about insecurity that is BS
so I told a story about how a boyfriend of my friend dropped the none phone checking rule,in short she can't borrow his phone to make a call and he will never near her phone,bro she discovered she was the second girl all along

you dnt know?phone can hide a dead un-buried body.

misspicy:

kwakwakwakwakwakwa abeg jolllyjoy say she dey hide secrets for phone...
that's a new one biko


about insecurity that is BS
so I told a story about how a boyfriend of my friend dropped the none phone checking rule,in short she can't borrow his phone to make a call and he will never near her phone,bro she discovered she was the second girl all along

Buhahaha... ordinary call he can't drop his Fone for her.. end time people

Jolllyjoy:
so you think the only reason for her action is cheating bah?sorry but you are wrong


a girl can decide to lock her phone due to various reason,of which cheating might be one but for now jumping into hasty conclusion should be out of it.



Op never mentioned any change in his g.f apart from phone locking,which can easily be pulled off,to hell with trust miss,there are things one cant spill out and that is were privacy comes in.



Let op confront the g.f,and hear what her reasons are.

I for one have locked my phone before not because i was seeing someone else,i dnt even tolerate that but because there were so many things i couldnt bring myself to tell which were hidden in my phone.



To your question miss,if my b.f locked his phone,i will confront him in a subtle way.

Even if his reasons arent convincing,his body language would be enough to add two and two together.

I said and repeat she is definitely cheating ma'am
so she might have had things she doesn't want him to know and its after 3 years she suddenly realise the best place to hide them is her phone and lock it?

my dear stop beating about the bush,yes he should confront her,yes if it was you you would definitely deny because who will accept been a cheater?

If he eventually asked and investigated and finds out she is cheating after all,what's the difference,benefit of doubt right?


its high time we realise that relationships especially long term ones like the OPs (3years no be joke) should be about transparency,trust and been free with one another

Have you asked for the password or you just rushed to come and whine

misspicy:

its the only tangible explanation
unless maybe she is testing if the locks on her phones works

a 3 years old relationship must have gone far,not street relationship.

note: I only said she is cheating,I didn't say he should leave her

there are other possibilities. There are ALWAYS other possibilities.

She may have started locking it cos of other persons. If this is the case, she would give him the code if he wants it. He didn't say why he's so sure it's cos of him.

He may have misused info from her phone in the past, and so lost her trust.

She may be imitating him (if he locks his phone too).

She may be flirting with other guys (note that I didn't use cheating)

Don't judge an incomplete tale.

Suigeneris93:


The truth is for a relationshp to survive, u hv to give ur partner the benefit of d doubt...Nl really isn't a place to solicit relationship advice cos most of the responses u get could make u even more confused. Op shud talk to his gf she just might nt be cheating

My thought exactly.

Oahray:
there are other possibilities. There are ALWAYS other possibilities.

She may have started locking it cos of other persons. If this is the case, she would give him the code if he wants it. He didn't say why he's so sure it's cos of him.

He may have misused info from her phone in the past, and so lost her trust.

She may be imitating him (if he locks his phone too).

She may be flirting with other guys (note that I didn't use cheating)

Don't judge an incomplete tale.

only the bolded can convince me she is not cheating but going by the OP's post without asking the questions above since he didn't give us the complete tale of how it really happened, its normal to deduce that she is cheating