I have been happily married to my husband for 9 years. To be sincere, he has been a very caring husband though emotional. The emotional aspect is what is about to tear our union apart.

I gave birth to our first child through CS. Infact, my husband almost killed himself with worry because he cant stand the pains I went through and every other thing associated with it.

We prayed that it never happen again, then, I became pregnant again. We prayed fervently that I would deliver safely myself without operation but it was not as planned. I had the second CS. It was hectic, my husband's emotional state did not help matters too. He cant even stay at the hospital with me. He sent two of his friends over. It was later I heard that he used overdose of a particular sleeping tablet and urged his friends to wake him up after I delivered. To God be the glory, I delivered a bouncing baby.


After the naming ceremony, he sat me down that he is not interested in having babies again because he is always traumatised any time he hears about CS. So we agreed to do family planning, we did it and all was well. After few years, I discovered I was pregnant again.

My husband begged me to abort it but I insisted I am not going to abort my baby. He lied to me when I was 8 months gone that he was going on a business trip. He was not around all through my third ordeal but God has been so faithful to me. He came back after delivery and celebrated it. It was splendid.

About two months later, my husband sat me down and dropped the bombshell. He said he cannot afford to leave me or the children again. He said he is not ready to take chances again. So therefore, he has prepared his mind to castrate himself since family planning as failed him.


I couldn't believe my ears

emorse:
Why did the family planning fail? What can be done to correct it? Those are the questions you should be asking. If you castrate yourself, you'll just die when she gets pregnant with her fourth child - by another man of course.

Cutehector:
Maybe he is afraid u will die during childbirth and he doesnt wana lose u... Wow three childbirths through CS a d you are alive and hearty, a miracle tho...

Kachisbarbie:


What is the wow factor there? How many people did you hear that CS killed or made unhealthy?
Mortality during childbirth would arise, CS or nah_ it's just grace.

@OP, your husband is just being a drama king, he wouldn't castrate himself, he isn't a dog. No doctor would even do that as a birth control measure. There are various male birth control measures, he should try vasectomy. There is an irreversible one, though I don't even see why he should wanna reverse it, 3kids is enough in this economic dispensation.

Cutehector:
karchisbarbie, i said maybe he is afraid dat somth bad will happen to his wife... The man may not be knowledgeable abt ceasarean section... Pls try to understand smth befor commenting.. The doctor should have enlightened the man dat cs is actually very safe and he shouldnt get all worried abt it..

emorse:
If you castrate yourself, you'll just die when she gets pregnant with her fourth child - by another man of course .

byvan03:
Which one is castrate again? He should go for a vasectomy.

cococandy:

That's what I was about to ask too. Castrate ke

I guess the man probably means vasectomy but she's seeing it as castration.

Kachisbarbie:


You said he is afraid something would happen to the wife, then went on to wow that she is alive and hearty, even called it a "miracle", pregnancy and childbirth itself is a miracle. I asked and I am still asking "how many people do you know that CS killed?

You need the understanding more dear. CS isn't a death sentence, so stop wowing... maybe you should have typed this comment of yours first. I can imagine the husband coming to you for advice, then you shout "wow, and she is still alive and hearty?" wtf'

byvan03:



That's very likely, the lady misunderstood the man . She should be happy her husband doesn't mind being the nipped one .

damiso:
I guess he actually meant vasectomy. Castration harsh naa

Its actually a safe birth control method but like Tubal Ligation i.e. tying of tubes or female surgical sterilization its not very popular among black people. Even if a person has 6 children there is that belief that something can still happen and you might need one more

I remember my mum almost having a fit when I mentioned that I was actually considering it( tying my tubes)

Its a decision that needs to be taken with a clear head though so maybe you both need a little more time to think it through.