Dear Bunmi,

I’ve been with my current girlfriend for two years and she told me a few days ago that she often had multiple orgasms with a man she used to date before we met. With me she only orgasms once. She was almost bragging about this comparison and I felt really hurt. I don’t understand why she had them with this ex and not with me.

If she’s capable of having multiple orgasms with her ex, why isn’t it happening with us as well? I’m sure I’m a good lover and I must be doing something right to make her orgasm in the first place.

I’ve asked her what he did to make her have more than one orgasm and she became flippant about it and said she wished she hadn’t told me because I was clearly uptight about it. Well, I am. I don’t think it’s fair to compare us both to my face. I don’t tell her about past lovers and how good they were in bed.

I particularly don’t think it’s fair to tell me and then not let me the secret. Is there something I can do to make her orgasm more or is it something that just happens on its own?


http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/12/my-girlfriend-brags-she-had-multiple-orgasms-with-her-ex-why-cant-i/

cc: Lalasticlala

SHE CANNOT HAVE IT WITH YOU BECAUSE WE ARE IN THE ERA OF CHANGE.
CHANGE FOR BETTER.

she's stylishly telling you to step up your game esle you should not blame her when she starts cheating. To the guys, You can't be sure you doing it right until your woman sincerely tells you

ungrateful greedy biatch, when so many women out there cant even have ONE orgasm, here she is demanding for multiple ones.
that man should just tell her:" babe i am doing my best here, if it aint good enough for you then why dont you go back to your ex, and save us the BS? i guess, if it was really "all" that good, you would still be with him, and not me, so ush up and work with me here.

its is not entirely MY fault if you cant come more than once, you are to blame too. sex is about two people so communicate with me during sex so you can lead me in the right direction etc. voice it to me when i am doing something pleasant, or if you want it softer/faster/rougher/nastier, where you like me to caress/lick you etc. sex is a partnership and thats the only way i will discover you fully, and possibly find what makes you explode multiple times."

don't kill yourself looking for solution.

do the best you can