Straight to the point

Am a recent graduate and am staying at my married sister's apartment because I don't want to take the long trip home then come back to school to complete my project (and the fact that am running from my wahala father).

Now the problem, i caught my 13 years old niece with porn in her phone, she claimed she wasn't aware how it got in the phone, but I went straight to her downloads folder and that's where all the files were located.

My dilemma now is that if it was my younger sis, I will punish her straight away, probably sieze her phone for a while, but in this case, her dad is very protective, he's never scolded her in my presence not to talk of hitting her.

Should I report ( to either the dad or mum)? or punish her my way ( not necessarily hitting her)?

Talk to her Mum......but @ 13 aready downloadin porns....... dis is unbelievable

Report Her to her mother since you already knw tat Her Father won't do the needful..

Talk to her and let her delete them on her phone. You don't necessarily have to report her to any of the parents but you can threaten to report her if she persist.

mostyg:
Talk to her and let her delete them on her phone. You don't necessarily have to report her to any of the parents but you can threaten to report her if she persist.

My problem here is that she's a girl,a guy would be a little understandable,if i dont report or do something now she might make a fake promise and continue the act outdoors

dacovajnr:
Report Her to her mother since you already knw tat Her Father won't do the needful..

I know my sis,if she hears this,she'll rough her up and the dad would definatly notice,i dont want to jeopardise my stay

Behira:
Talk to her Mum......but @ 13 aready downloadin porns....... dis is unbelievable

Unbelievable,exactly my thought but my sis hears,i know her,she'll lay her hands on her which isnt what i want

oboyeeeeeeeee. Guy, mek dm no tok se na u cos am.o. But u must mek ur sis aware.

Alimzo:
I know my sis,if she hears this,she'll rough her up and the dad would definatly notice,i dont want to jeopardise my stay

Why brought this up in the first place if you wouldn't want her to be punished when you knw the gravity of what she has done?...Let Her mother do what she has to do which am sure the Father would be of support..if not Check the father coz he might be Manipulating His Daughter secretly

Alimzo:
Unbelievable,exactly my thought but my sis hears,i know her,she'll lay her hands on her which isnt what i want

u just hav to tell ur sister o.....for christsake u wud be helpin d little girl if she is reprimanded.

dacovajnr:
Why brought this up in the first place if you wouldn't want her to be punished when you knw the gravity of what she has done?...Let Her mother do what she has to do which am sure the Father would be of support..if not Check the father coz he might be Manipulating His Daughter secretly

Brought it up here cos obviously neither the dad or (mum??) are here,why am hesitating is that my position might be misunderstood,i dont want to bring any problem in the family during my stay.

How will your position be misunderstood? Are you more concerned about your comfort than a teenager's future well-being? Call both her parents and inform them of what you saw, telling them that you didn't think it was your place to discipline her or keep the issue from them.

Alimzo:
Brought it up here cos obviously neither the dad or (mum??) are here,why am hesitating is that my position might be misunderstood,i dont want to bring any problem in the family during my stay.

Nope Baami you are doin the right thing and and m not sure this will bring any problem to the family so far you have the evidence..the only advice I can give right now is to hand over the evidence which is the porn videos on her fone and handed her over to her Mom and stay away afterwards...But if you chose to stay mute about it I bet your conscience will continue to disturb you Bro

dacovajnr:
Nope Baami you are doin the right thing and and m not sure this will bring any problem to the family so far you have the evidence..the only advice I can give right now is to hand over the evidence which is the porn videos on her fone and handed her over to her Mom and stay away afterwards...But if you chose to stay mute about it I bet your conscience will continue to disturb you Bro

Olryt brother, I get your point now, guess I'll also be doing myself a favour by getting it off my chest..thanks alot.

Onegai:
How will your position be misunderstood? Are you more concerned about your comfort than a teenager's future well-being? Call both her parents and inform them of what you saw, telling them that you didn't think it was your place to discipline her or keep the issue from them.

Believe me the first thing that came to my mind was to immediately report her, but by being misunderstood, I meant that me being there is already a burden on then now I take on the role of perfect uncle, it a little strange to me, left to me I'll sieze her phone for a while but can't do that cos I didn't get it for her, there's this uncertainty that's surrounding my stay don't want to add to it, my best bet now is to call the mum, talk to her and and plead with her to wait till am gone before she takes her action, the hubby can be inconsiderate at times.

Alimzo:
Olryt brother, I get your point now, guess I'll also be doing myself a favour by getting it off my chest..thanks alot.

You welcome baami

Hmmmm, a 13 year old with porn? The world is going south
That means they bought a good phone for her with subscription?


Anyway, talk to your sister, the mother. .

Alimzo:
Believe me the first thing that came to my mind was to immediately report her, but by being misunderstood, I meant that me being there is already a burden on then now I take on the role of perfect uncle, it a little strange to me, left to me I'll sieze her phone for a while but can't do that cos I didn't get it for her, there's this uncertainty that's surrounding my stay don't want to add to it, my best bet now is to call the mum, talk to her and and plead with her to wait till am gone before she takes her action, the hubby can be inconsiderate at times.

You are worried that he may eject you out of the house. It's clear. I'm saddened by the whole thing: a girl is exposing her mind to something polluting, she could act on it and start sleeping around and subjecting herself to nasty behaviour. But the adults are more concerned about their welfare. Rather than nipping it in the bud, you want her mum to wait until you've left the house. Meanwhile the girl can easily think to herself "uncle won't tell because he's scared of Daddy" and before you know it, a few years later we will be listening to another Sugarbelly gist of underage girl enacting very adult videos with men. Or maybe you won't speak up when you find her sending nude selfies to a boy because her father may need to forward your C. V. for a job then and we wouldn't want to cause "uncertainty" in your future now, would we...

If you're so worried that the husband is inconsiderate and you don't wish to "offend" anyone, don't tell her mum, just let her be and if she eventually starts acting out what she sees in those videos, hey at least, you still have a roof over your head whilst you go about your business. Thats the important thing, right

Doing the right thing when it doesn't pay you is what makes you a good person, not doing the right thing when it's convenient for you.

Onegai:


You are worried that he may eject you out of the house. It's clear. I'm saddened by the whole thing: a girl is exposing her mind to something polluting, she could act on it and start sleeping around and subjecting herself to nasty behaviour. But the adults are more concerned about their welfare. Rather than nipping it in the bud, you want her mum to wait until you've left the house. Meanwhile the girl can easily think to herself "uncle won't tell because he's scared of Daddy" and before you know it, a few years later we will be listening to another Sugarbelly gist of underage girl enacting very adult videos with men. Or maybe you won't speak up when you find her sending nude selfies to a boy because her father may need to forward your C. V. for a job then and we wouldn't want to cause "uncertainty" in your future now, would we...

If you're so worried that the husband is inconsiderate and you don't wish to "offend" anyone, don't tell her mum, just let her be and if she eventually starts acting out what she sees in those videos, hey at least, you still have a roof over your head whilst you go about your business. Thats the important thing, right

Doing the right thing when it doesn't pay you is what makes you a good person, not doing the right thing when it's convenient for you.

Guess you've said it all,can't argue with this, it will be difficult obviously but I'll find a way, even if I'll ready my stuff before I tell her parents, so I'll be prepared for any outcome, thanks a lot, I needed this.