ibkaye:

Is your birthday today? If it is, the day is not yet over so see how it goes

If not, sorry.

Koncept:


My birthday is like over a month ago, but its really been hurting me all this while and right now i'm considering saving my self all the pains by quiting and looking up elsewhere.

olaleye101:

why quit? u should know she's not serious about u, just hang in there (for the sex) while u search for another girl, "a bush rat in hand is better than 10 antelopes in the bush", dont loose both ways, cheers!

olaleye101:

why quit? u should know she's not serious about u, just hang in there (for the sex) while u search for another girl, "a bush rat in hand is better than 10 antelopes in the bush", dont loose both ways, cheers!

olaleye101:

@ ibk

did u read the poster's text well? 'even when you called her couple of days earlier to remind her it was coming up",

what excuse would she have, its plain and simple,

maybe she's getting attention somewhere else not to remember "her boyffriend's"bday,

in that case there's nothing to talk about,


NOTE: its her boyfriend o, not a casual friend, GOD!!!

Unseen:

Did it occur to any of you that it may be intentional ? May be her silent way of saying that she is tired of the whole stuff.

TheSeeker:

Everyone have got a point. Albeit, understanding that we don't know what may have transpired between the both has called for some diplomacy right there. He said he called her a month before the birthday to remind her, that seemed like it's his first birthday since they started dating, which means the relationship might be pretty new or he wouldn't have been the one to call and remind her of his birthday. I may suspect that they aren't taking each other seriously but even at that she should have called or at the very least, send him a text message.

u r partially right here,its about the 1st birthday since we started dating,but like u also countered its not enough reason 4 her to ignore it.

ibkaye link=topic=286802.msg4064963#msg4064963 date=1245585504:



Oh wow, have you talked to her about it? As small as it may seem, I know I wouldn't feel to good if my bf failed say Happy Birthday, is it that she failed to call or sms or that she just didn't say Happy Birthday?

i brought it up but she made a very light apology,and then capped it with a huge complain of me not giving her any bday present on hers, since hers comes b4 mine, but mind u we r a little distant 4rm each other so we couldnt see on her own bday, but i promised her i owe her a bday present, isnt that fair enough?

ibkaye:

It's up to you, wouldn't say break it off necessarily because of the whole failure to call, sms etc, is the relationship shaky?

TheSeeker:

Your right about not breaking off the relationship based on her lackadaisical acts towards his birthday, however, with the assertion she made I am having the feeling that she cares more about the material effects than the actual passion they are supposed to share with each other. So, if I may answer, I think the relationship is not quite healthy.

ibkaye:

Too right.

TheSeeker:

I still don't believe there are girls like that in Nigeria. I thought those days were gone when girls were materialistic and money mongers. Do you by chance have suggestions on why this is so?

ibkaye:

Did you just say that you don't believe that there are girls that are more about the material effects than the actual passion couples are supposed to share with each other in a relationship in Nigeria?  

walestar:

Sorry maybe she forgot,Let me help her to say it. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU but I am sure she will not forget if you promise her money and tell her to remind you a date you promise to give her money. I guess she will call you 6 00 am in the da morning to remind you or being reminding you 2 days before the day

TheSeeker:

Yes, that is what I just said. I have met some real good girls from Naija and gurl, they were wonderful. I still don't understand why some girls stoop down to this crap.