babygirlfl:
Really, Are we talking 14years old or 14monrhs.

Women please think really hard before you become a step mum.

sickstars:


I kno but it all depends on ow u handle d situation

A loving heart to heart talk will do

Op sounds like she wana rip off d little girl's head

Cant u feel d aggression in her posts

I888:
you really tried o. You are still on this? I know their type around here. Is this not same place where over 70% would support a DIL for slapping her MIL? There is a thread as far back as 2011/2012 and even say the MIL should pack out of her son's house.

Same place where people don't see anything wrong for DIL to not show love to her MIL after taken care of her before and after child birth?

So many and so many things crawl here I tell you.

Just hang around on a day where a thread would be created in which involves MIL and DIL and see venoms being spilled.

You would imaging the kind of hatred they have towards their MIL, a fellow woman like they of which they will grow old like her and their own children will eventually get married which they wouldn't want their DIL to treat them by same yardstick

Miami11:

As crazy as that sounds, I hope it's a 14 month old

Timbuktou:
Nairaland women, some of the most unfeminine, selfish, brainless females life has to offer.

Look, veins2016, I understand it can be weird for you that this happens, but it's totally understandable your step-daughter would be like that. Perhaps, she had a close relationship with her father prior to his divorce and misses him. Perhaps, she used to sleep in his bed when he was still married to her mother and she misses that. Perhaps, her father is busy and that's the only time she thinks she can be with him, this is two days in a month we're talking about here.

You can handle this lovingly like you would like your own daughter to be treated if roles were reversed. No need to blow a gasket unless you suspect some hanky-panky. Good luck.

Miami11:

Off course I gave all the sexual undertones
How many cases of paedophiles do we hear everyday? Especially from fathers to daughter's,
Why can't daddy create reasonable time to hangout with daughter and not in bed.
My husband will not even let out two year old spent a night in our own bed

I think you just saw STEP mum and run to conclusion

crackhaus:

Reading the bold text makes me cringe, but I can understand how things we see and hear around us can influence how we think.

However, I did not just see step-mum and jump into conclusion. I saw step-mum and I understood that before every other reason, the girl being her step-daughter contributed immensely to the way she's reacting and handling the situation.

As for those of you who still can't let your own 14year old daughter sleep on your bed because of the sexual undertone you draw from it, then all I can say type is wow! Just wow!

RiloKiley:

I'm amazed as well!
Was all the jealousy and vexation all this while coming from a sexual point of view? Surely they dont think the man is sleeping with his daughter? On the same bed while she is there??

I888:
that's because there are too many bitter women in this section. This is just a tip of what crawls around here. Others are still in their cave and would be out like vampires at night.

Only a few are matured and reason from all angles before they make a post.

Miami11:
So when should this overgrown baby be taught not to be sleeping with opposite sex(boys) while the family is making it OK for her to sleep with daddy
Is she OK though/normal/abnormal my own 9 year old is demanding her own room for privacy now.

Men supporting this might be perverts or potential perverts
Women supporting this are the ones acting holier than thou only to become wicked step mothers

In this Africa this is normal, c'mon now, unless it's a movie script

veins2016:
my husband has been divorced for 5 years.we got married 2 yrs ago.his daughter visits once
or twice a month and stays for d weekend. d mum lives in d same city wit us. d problem is dat weneva his 14 yr old daughter comes,she prefers to sleep in our bed.we hav a 3 two bedroom apartment. we sleep in one room,d oda room is d guestroom.she came yesterd for d weekend.last nite at 2am and said she had stomach ache,afta stayimg with us for 20 mins,she said she felt beta but refusetd to go to her room,she stayed til d following morning.today she came to our room by 8pm and has refused to go to her room.i told my hband to go to d guestroom wit her since she claimed she was scared.does it m sense for a 14yr old to still want to sleep on our bed? she doesnt do dat to her mum.dey sleep in separe beds at home.

RiloKiley:

Hmm
Well maybe I should continue reading first. The lady has added some new info. I honestly didn't see anything wrong in the girl's action, and its not like she's there all the time.

zeb04:
I don't understand how sleeping in a different room makes you less friendly and a bad step mum.

I slept in a different room and grew up as a normal child.

I888:
added new info to appear righteous incase this gets to front page I guess lol.

Miami11:


I also had a step parent and slept in a different room, I never felt insecure or anything, and came out ok

Unless we are talking about a traumatized abnormal girl, maybe mentally deranged, insane or something, normal kids will just feel safe in the same house not necessarily same bed,

Maybe there are underlying issues we need to know off

zeb04:
maybe but what I can't understand is why sending her back to her room makes you a wicked step mum. this is something I can do to my child so why not my step child. well I don't beat myself for things that don't make sense.

Miami11:
People forming hypocrisy as usual just because they believe in all mother's out there are wicked apart from there biological mother

veins2016:
gosh. dia r no underlying issues. i surely cant be d only person married to a divorced man with kids who visit.i only posted to get d opinion of pple in d same situation with me. definately dia r days wen she upsets me and i upset her,jst like any mother and daughter,but we get along well and she's a sweet girl.dats all.ses nairalanders hate stepmums oh.all this bashing!

Timbuktou:


But all fathers except yours are having sex with the teenage daughters na. Everyone is free to be biased just like you, unless youre saying daddy's got magic fingers then I can understand . Worst thing though, your interpretation of comments is far from what people are actually saying. Comprehesion seems to be a bìtcb in 2016.

Miami11:
If that was a step son would you have let him at 14 years sleep with mum and step father.
What happened to his bed. His own room

crackhaus:

Reading the bold text makes me cringe, but I can understand how things we see and hear around us can influence how we think.

However, I did not just see step-mum and jump into conclusion. I saw step-mum and I understood that before every other reason, the girl being her step-daughter contributed immensely to the way she's reacting and handling the situation.

As for those of you who still can't let your own 14year old daughter sleep on your bed because of the sexual undertone you draw from it, then all I can say type is wow! Just wow!

veins2016:
gosh. dia r no underlying issues. i surely cant be d only person married to a divorced man with kids who visit.i only posted to get d opinion of pple in d same situation with me. definately dia r days wen she upsets me and i upset her,jst like any mother and daughter,but we get along well and she's a sweet girl.dats all.ses nairalanders hate stepmums oh.all this bashing!

Miami11:

Apparently you are one of the nairaland people I don't engage in, in any kind of conversations deuces,

Miami11:


The story now does not even make sense because poster has changed details, making all the responses null,

Well if she is sick, that is someway ok

If she is afraid she needs reassurance,

cococandy:

I don't think the father will be labeled a wicked or bitter step dad if he says no to that.
Figures