mascot87:


She says she can NEVER attend my church & that even d children. That is her stand, what is d probability that if I eventually marry her she will shift her ground?

asuustrike2009:

Find another chick from your denomination should case persist as there's no church in heaven

Ajibel:
Babatunde Fashola is a muslim and goes to mosque. His wife is a christian and goes to church. Their marriage has stood strong with no scandal or divorce case.

So what is your point when you say No, it cant work.

mavinc4u:


The money is there, remove that money and you will see the point.

Chukazu:
infact, the matter is about to split me am my girl. the mum insist I must marry her in Catholic, I agreed, after that she is now saying I must leave my own church to attend Catholic with my wife to be. how now,shouldn't I be the one to chose which denominations to attend with my wifey?

Chukazu:


true there is no church in heaven, but church prepares you for heaven.

Chukazu:
infact, the matter is about to split me am my girl. the mum insist I must marry her in Catholic, I agreed, after that she is now saying I must leave my own church to attend Catholic with my wife to be. how now,shouldn't I be the one to chose which denominations to attend with my wifey?

BoleynDynaSTY:
Am I supposed to follow him to O.O Obu?

kilode100:
Who church don help?

rossyc:
Why do you av to marry him at first? If u can't follow him to his church or can't convert him to ur church then you av no business marrying him, it's better u marry someone dat shares the same believe with u.

kilode100:
Who church don help?

mascot87:


My own situation is the opposite of urs. I am a catholic & my girl is a redeemer. This happened yesterday & she says that she cannot attend Catholic with me & that I should instead attend redeem. I told her also that I can never attend redeem either but to make d issue more worst, she says that if we eventually marry & we have kids, the kids will be going to redeem with he & not catholic with me. The relationship just got me fed up already as I speak. I don't know how to resolve this cos I can't imagine myself attending a different church from that of my wife. This might lead to end of our relationship if the status quo remain.

mavinc4u:


The money is there, remove that money and you will see the point.

Ahmed3rdjuly:


My dad is a Muslim and my a Christian and they are not rich. they have lived for decades without issues.
Its only people with complex that attributes everything to money.

DedeNkem:


There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. Remember, a couple comprises of two different individuals and from different upbringing, who agreed together to tolerate each other while spending their lives together. Marriage is about loving, compromise, understanding and respecting of each other's differences.

You can't expect your partner to like everything you like, have the same hobbies, work at the same place, have the same degrees you have, attend the schools, come from the same extended family, agreed with every damn thing you say or do, in fact, your partner cannot be your carbon copy!

If your partner's workplace is different from yours, why can't she be also free to attend choice of church?
If your partner can have different friends from yours, why can't she be also free to attend any church she wishes.
If your partner can choose to be religious or not, why can't she also be free to choose her church?
If your partner have right to dump your as*s and the marriage any time she pleases, why can't she also have the right to choose her church or dump yours?

Even though I'm a an atheist, my wife has her freedom to practice her religion and I gave my kids freedom to follow their mum's religion or forget it entire. We still have a superb marriage and great kids!

mascot87:


My own situation is the opposite of urs. I am a catholic & my girl is a redeemer. This happened yesterday & she says that she cannot attend Catholic with me & that I should instead attend redeem. I told her also that I can never attend redeem either but to make d issue more worst, she says that if we eventually marry & we have kids, the kids will be going to redeem with he & not catholic with me. The relationship just got me fed up already as I speak. I don't know how to resolve this cos I can't imagine myself attending a different church from that of my wife. This might lead to end of our relationship if the status quo remain.

pheesayor:
She wants to start controlling you and you should NOT allow it. Don't do it for love o else she will use it against you after marriage when you try to take control. Yes you marry in her church and maybe thanksgiving but it should end there. I'm newly married and know what I'm saying.

All the best

damilareoye:
Couples are meant to attend same church.


Imagine the doctrine collision in a situation whereby the father attend Baptist, mother a deeper life member and children are winners ... The house eh.

Godfullsam:
Couples attending different churches are not husband and wife, they are room mates.

MrPresident1:
Couples need to have the same belief system, it makes things easier between them. The multiplication of denominations and doctrines even within the same religions has made the world to be some kind of Babel.

How will a Deeperlife man understand when his Celestial wife informs him that Wooli under the inspiration of Emi mimo has commanded that she should be under abe abo in the church premises for the next 7 days?

Abi how demon chasing MFM wife wan relate well with Jerry curl wearing Christ Embassy husband? This is Babel.

It is better for couples to have the same religious and doctrinal beliefs, it will make marriages easier.

Ishilove:

Smh. I was brought up in a home where my parents attended different churches, and till date they still do. Mum accompanied dad once in a while to his church, and vice versa.

Growing up, we attended church with my mum, but as time went on, everybody found their square root, so now we all have our own individual denominations and it has not in any way affected our relationship. Work out your salvation with fear and trembling, says the scriptures. Find where works for you and stick with it. You can't tell me to attend RCCG if my spirit doesn't find fulfilment there. I could go the Kerubu way, or CAC and find my rest there. Salvation is an individual race.

Religious matters was never a bother in my home, so I've grown up with the belief that it is understanding that is paramount.

Personally I will not be bothered where my man worships, as long as he is a committed Christian who will not try to impose his religious doctrines on me. Abi no be the same God we worship?

MrPresident1:


Ishi, times have changed. You cannot use your parents' time to judge today, also there has been a lot of changes in the values of the society compared to the time when you were growing up. In the time of your parents, culture and tradition ordered society, everyone knew everyone and there were very good societal values that the whole community cherished and followed, this is the reason why parents were able to choose spouses for their children at that time because everyone in the society was running basically on the same values template. Even if the man and the woman were total strangers, chosen to marry themselves by their parents, the marriages lasted because there were values that would guide their marriage.

Nowadays, because of urbanisation and 'civilisation', the values that ordered the societies of old have been thrown out, morality has been replaced by religiosity, and this explains why we are getting more religious but less righteous. Today, religious doctrines are apparently more relevant than moral values and people within the same doctrines will find it easier to relate more among themselves.

Ishi, I say growing up, your home was ordered by values, not by the religion of your parents hence the tranquility. Society has evolved, if your hubby is Kerubu, just jeje prepare your mind to be Kerubu because he is your head, he will provide spiritual direction in your home, and you cannot afford to be at loggerheads over doctrinal issues.