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Re: The Thought Of Marriage Is Giving Me Sleepless Nights. by Ishilove: 11:24am On Jan 30, 2016 |
Guest22:You're been honest with yourself. The problem with our society is we seem to place so much emphasis on marriage. It's like people are not complete without marriage, meanwhile the opposite is the case. Most people go into marriage without first of all finding themselves 1 Like |
Re: The Thought Of Marriage Is Giving Me Sleepless Nights. by nanalady(f): 12:29pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
DonChippy:you are normal....nothing to worry about..you are simply not ready |
Re: The Thought Of Marriage Is Giving Me Sleepless Nights. by Wealthy15(f): 1:25pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
DonChippy:this babe you dey vex o,marriage is not a career nor a nor a job opportunity.take am easy. |
Re: The Thought Of Marriage Is Giving Me Sleepless Nights. by Nobody: 11:17pm On Jan 30, 2016 |
OP, cast out every spirit in u that is against u getting married, for I'm afraid u need Jesus |
Re: The Thought Of Marriage Is Giving Me Sleepless Nights. by Richy4(m): 12:15am On Jan 31, 2016 |
So marriage is making you not to sleep? hmmmm!!! You don't really want to sleep because if you do, U will sleep with your doors wide open You do not need to live your life based on the dictate of the society.... It is not compulsory that everyone must marry.... If you don't feel like it, do not go into it... the only thing I can suggest to you is a possibility of adoption...ie a child that will take care of you at old age since I guess you are living in Nigeria.... Assuming you are living abroad, you would have known that your retirement package could help you get a decent nursing home that will take care of you at old age...... |
Re: The Thought Of Marriage Is Giving Me Sleepless Nights. by Nobody: 12:22am On Jan 31, 2016 |
Richy4: That's one idea i do not buy. You don't raise kids with the hope that they take care of you when you get old. If you work hard enough and have reasonable investments, your money will take care of you when you get old. At least that's what my father and grand father thought me. |
Re: The Thought Of Marriage Is Giving Me Sleepless Nights. by Richy4(m): 10:53am On Jan 31, 2016 |
DonChippy: I am glad that your parents thought you such a wonderful norm and virtue my brother...but sometimes in African settings, what you said does not conform with the majority in African context especially in Nigeria.... Take an example of a local government worker that earn a basic salary of 60k a month with 4 or 5kids... some were in the university, how much investment do you think he can make and equally take care of the family? His proud investment I am sure will be his children with hope that when he train them well, they will grow and become better people and help him out... In advanced country, all their savings goes to the retirement packages which will pay their nursing bills at nursing home... they do not really need to take care of their kids because the kids got student loan and grant that were in place for them and they will inturns pay it back when working .. but such things are not in Nigeria....everything rests on the shoulders of the parents.... I do not want to digress much on the issue of the OP....but I used to volunteer at a nursing home, must of them were looking for whom to talk to...some have kids who dumped them at a nursing home and never came to say hello ...Most of them were super rich with great connections etc....what we do was to talk to them and keep them company every Saturday...I believe that the OP will not be lonely when he became old if he adopt now ie if he doesn't feel like marrying.... |
Re: The Thought Of Marriage Is Giving Me Sleepless Nights. by Nobody: 1:27pm On Jan 31, 2016 |
Adoption is great and it's an option I may be willing to explore if the need arises. But I still don't buy the idea of raising a child so they can take care of me when I get old. Let's paint this scenario. The kind of future I hope and pray for. I have my kids, raise them right, give them the best education money can afford. They look up to me for wisdom based on my life experience. As a matter of fact, I am their best friend and role model. They simply cannot do away with me because I am successful and set a standard on personal wealth. I inspire and motivate them to achieve even greater things just like I did with my predecessors. Over time, they excel in the various fields go out there and start their own families. I now have several grand children. Most of them love and adore me. They visit occasionally for holidays because they find my mansion/Villa very appealing. Each time they visit, they learn something knew about their parents and the extended family as a whole. Now tell me how I would be abandoned when I get old, especially if they get lots of gifts each time they visit. They still grow up and give me great grand children. I have worked so hard and still have assets that are worth a fortune. ***** Life to me is all about goals and aspirations. You get what you want out of it. The only reason and the biggest challenge I'm having is finding a woman who fits into this vision. |
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