Guest22:
wouldnt say I’m new here, have always visited nairaland as a guest, but just had to comment on this,..as I think am in a similar situation with the OP
well, my case is a slightly different because I’ve been married before (6yrs ago),…my wife died within the 1st year of our marriage. (bless her soul)… .

Now, I’m in my mid-thirties, have a reasonable job, lives quite okay,...but I just don’t feel like marrying again… and that’s what everyone don’t seem to understand.

I have dated couple of good ladies since my late wife passed, but that feeling to make the relationship permanent, isn’t just there,…I don’t seem to love any one of them…cos I don’t even want to.

Every one keep saying “I’m yet to get over my late wife”… “that I have to move on”,..but I honestly don’t think that’s the case here,..I believe I have moved past that… its just that I’m enjoying this single life over again,…and don’t wanna make that marriage commitment again,..at least not at the moment. Maybe many years down the line,...like when am 60yrs old, I might consider marrying...lol.

So mr Op, I don’t think theres anything wrong with you,.. if the thought of marriage is giving you sleepless night,..maybe marriage isn’t just for you yet, irrespective of your age. Stop losing sleep over it, enjoy your life, do whatever you want with your life, cos its yours …and you owe no one any explanation. cheers.

DonChippy:
Right now I'm in a position where I'm supposed to be married with a woman and at least a child in my household.
Sadly, that is not the case for me this moment.
I'm fully grown, reached and passed marriageable age yet the idea of keeping a relationship talk less of getting married is such a burden for me.

I'm content with a sort of solitary lifestyle and sometimes make time out to socialize by hanging out with friends or in a bar.

My problem now is I don't know how long I can keep up with this type of life and I'm yet to find a reason to seek a serious relationship that would lead to marriage.

I just don't feel the need for it.
Don't even let me get started with the sex part.
Am I even normal

DonChippy:

Yeah I know and that's what keeps me away from women.

Richy4:
So marriage is making you not to sleep? hmmmm!!! You don't really want to sleep because if you do, U will sleep with your doors wide open

You do not need to live your life based on the dictate of the society.... It is not compulsory that everyone must marry....

If you don't feel like it, do not go into it... the only thing I can suggest to you is a possibility of adoption...ie a child that will take care of you at old age since I guess you are living in Nigeria....

Assuming you are living abroad, you would have known that your retirement package could help you get a decent nursing home that will take care of you at old age......

DonChippy:


That's one idea i do not by.
You don't raise kids with the hope that they take care of you when you get old.

If you work hard enough and have reasonable investments, your money will take care of you when you get old.
At least that's what my father and grand father thought me.