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Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 8:35pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness: If she made a choice when she was younger, she wont be here paying her own bride price. Now she is almost dragging the man into it kicking and thrashing. Plenty of time to right your wrong if you make a mistake at a younger age. 4 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by PresVA: 8:35pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness is being idealistic while byvan is being realistic... given the Nigerian environment. . Enjoying the debate 11 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 8:37pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Miami11: Quality of suitors is what we are talking about . Among the plenty suitors, a good percentage will be hit and run . 7 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Nobody: 8:38pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
PresVA: No, she is arguing for her limitations. I am sure of my value. I hope her husband does not share her mindset else he will only stay with her out of a false sense of responsibility while admiring and desiring younger flesh once she begins to feel like a grandma at 30. 5 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 8:38pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
PresVA: Don't enjoy only, participate . |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 8:42pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness: You are personalising it? Thought you to be a matured individual . Nice chatting with you though. 6 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Miami11: 8:54pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
byvan03:Well she married a guy with two degrees working on his doctorate! What do you mean quality of suitors. Do you know all suitors out there. Just because you have the Nigerian mentality should make you see the rest of the world out there operates differently. I attended a wedding of a lady marrying for the first time at 37- husband a college professor 11 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Nobody: 9:03pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
byvan03: I am showing you the implications of your beliefs. I enjoyed the conversation too. 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 9:17pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness: You don't involve people 's family no matter the point you are trying to make. You talk of Nigerian mentality but you are not yet rid of it. Do you think that mentioning one's family makes you score?There are lines you don't cross to maintain a healthy discuss . Actually your beliefs have more implications than mine, a human being with no sense of time is in trouble. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Nobody: 9:19pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
If this were my sister I would tell her because I care about her I also know she may hate me briefly for telling her this but when I truly care about someone I can't watch them harm themselves while minding my business. He made it my business when he bad mouthed my sister to me. I'll tell her and leave her with the choice to proceed or back out. |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Nobody: 9:32pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
byvan03: I don't even know your family so relax. People mention my family here all the time to get their point across. It doesn't mean that they want to insult me or any of my family members, that they don't even know. No big deal. 4 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 9:45pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness: It's rude, as enlightened as you are you should know that. I find it distasteful because once you start mentioning family members that you don't know,a light hearted discussion can quickly degenerate to insults. You attack the issue , not the individual you are discussing with. Maybe no big deal for you if someone makes rude remarks about your loved ones, it's a big deal for me. 11 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Ekeeyhandsome(m): 10:06pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Next time get him a hypo for mouth wash... Nigger STFU..and let ur sis leave her life. |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by arabianights: 10:07pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Oma307: My Grandmother also told me that when you see a man walking in to fire or about to fall in to a pitless bottom but decide to keep shut for fear of being dragged along,yours would be worse. 5 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by kaziblake(f): 10:08pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Pls it's not by force to get married. I feel for you sister all in the name of getting the"mrs" title. The guy saw her weakness"desperado"...that why he is mistreating her. |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Nobody: 10:09pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
byvan03: Some stranger's remarks on a faceless forum are a big deal? I don't get it. You can even insult my mother now and it won't make any difference to me, my life and my happiness. Anyway, we are derailing. I am not sorry but I want you to know that I didn't mean to insult you. 4 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Ehinmola(m): 10:09pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Don't you have work to do Mr Amebo.?• If Not, ccontnue to pray for dem ok? |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Dcholeric: 10:10pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
in respect to the arguement, wether anyone likes it or not, the percentage of young women (25-30) attracting suitors and getting married is by far more than that of the percentage of older (30+) women getting same chances .#any where in the entire world 2 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by doveda: 10:11pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
What is submissiveness? |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by oodua1stson: 10:16pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
OEmiohe:seriously what's your problem? I'm 100% sure the man said those things to you about your sis because you're a man and he believed you'll understand some things Ok. So you mean to tell me a man will like everything about his wife? Nah! Let then be and stop hating He may not have money now does not mean he won't have money forever 1 Like |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by edwife(f): 10:16pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Byvan03 i am 100% with you. You might want to read this.Even in the west,women still worrying about marriage.It is not by choice that they are single but many factors. In the West, men are no longer interested in marriage, the system has ruined many life. I have so many articles,you will understand what is happening. In Nigeria we all know that women over 30 are no longer eligible except they have a good source of income. Read this Psychologist Mairead Molloy, who specialises in relationship issues, says another reason many women stay single for longer these days is that they often have unrealistic expectations about relationships. In working class America, though, it’s much harder to figure out where the sweet spot lies, and how to bring the two sexes’ interests into line. The path that offers the clearest financial benefits to men (relatively early marriage) is perilous for women, because the earnings that they lose by marrying early loom large if the marriage then falls apart, which earlier marriages are more likely to do. And wedlock isn’t magic: Even if late marriage seems to hurt the economic prospects of working class men, their economic prospects are poor for many other reasons as well, which makes them less marriageable, period. But for women, this dearth of marriageable men then cuts both ways: You don’t want to rush into things, but you don’t want to let a plausible mate slip away. Hence the appeal of cohabitation, as a trial run — but that trial run makes it easier to end up with semi-accidental, semi-planned out-of-wedlock childbearing, because after all you’re almost married, and you’re in prime childbearing years, and the rewards for putting career ahead of family aren’t nearly as high as they are for the college-educated … 4 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by oodua1stson: 10:20pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Goldenboy007:no mind the mumu guy. He should at least face his own life instead of putting his nose in another people's life |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 10:24pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness: I don't want you to be sorry, but I expect you to be civil. I consciously avoid people that come here to haul insults like their life depends on rudeness. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Blackops(m): 10:24pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Remember the story of the man that pokenosed and dem poke him eye? Ehn na ur head dem go use break coconut. No leave dem. |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 10:27pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
edwife: Hello dear, let me read up and get back. |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by sirwisy2580: 10:29pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
a broken engagement is beta than a frustrated n unhappy marriage. u don't rush into marriage all in the name of AGE IS NO LONGER ON MY SIDE. * u don't equally marry out of Pity. to me, LOVE is to a good reason y u shud marry some1. u need to consider other key factors * understanding * mindset *public view. ie what will other people see n say about him or her . etc I will ADVICE that ur sister should reconsider her feeling if it is not driven by AGE.... n ur family should reexamine the situation critically n analytically... pls don't subject ur scope to his present condition because things can Turn around for HIM later..... |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 10:30pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness:I don't know why mothers like this kind of thing. They will be the ones to reject men by tell them that their daughter is too young for marrage and the next meeting they are pushing them to marry any man that comes by telling them that they are getting old. They will even remind their daughter that their father used them for colateral and they didn't complain. Mothers like decide for their daughters when and who to marry as if they are the ones that will stay with the man. I just tire for this kind thing. 4 Likes |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by noblegrex: 10:32pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Mindfulness:hmmm! Mindfulnesssssssssiii.you aint mindful enough.be mindful.not at this point. Afters 5yrs of your sis perseverance.don't be an obstacle oo.be mindful and be watchful. |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Nicepoker(m): 10:35pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Marry the man. Since u know him more than ur sis. |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by byvan03: 10:35pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
edwife: On point! Lol the good source of income at that age mostly attract a certain unfortunate category of men too. 1 Like |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by franco3075q(m): 10:39pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
Anyting una c make una take am so, sha na una arrenge d wedding 4 dem, so psd mind ur business |
Re: Help My Elder Sister Is About To Marry A Man That Bad Mouths Her In Her Absence. by Fredosky247(m): 10:41pm On Feb 05, 2016 |
cococandy:hi.... I believe that it's often said that it takes two to tangle! You have nailed it already by accepting the fact that either of the partners could be the bread winner in the family.... But on a lighter note, the lady is marrying the fiance not primarily because of age issues, but for love... Note; she got engaged at the age of 27 which is fair enough.... Economic downturn could have resulted in the presumed delay in the wedding arrangement.... Food for thought |
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