On Thursday, we presented the statistics of divorce rate in some parts of the world and Nigeria. Then we asked what you think the leading cause of divorce could be. We asked if it could be issues relating to money, compatibility or sex. We further asked you to tell us what else you think could be responsible.

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Compatibility, came out tops as the cause of divorce as 44.2 percent of our respondents hold that the two parties entering the marriage contract are mostly blinded by ‘love’ and they only get to see that they are not compatible soon after sealing the deal. Money came in next, other issues third and sex came in as the least reason for divorce.



A dictionary defines compatibility as the capability [of people] to exist or live together in harmony. No wonder many respondents hammer on it with different explanations to back their stand up.

“Many don’t take time to understand each other before they get married. so, they have problems when the realities sets in soon afterwards and eventually divorce when they could not be patient enough to work things out,” a respondent said.

“Compatibility is the main issue because inability to make the required adjustments and changes when people become married is what makes them turn down their earlier declaration of the union. In compatibility is mutual: respect, trust, selflessness, appreciation, dedication, fortitude and alliance to make marriage a huge success,” another respondent said.

“Most people move into marriage based on initial sentimental and not -so – true behaviours. Time brings out the truth in the character and personality of the partners. Often the compatibility issues present themselves at this point. As a remedy, I suggest that truth and sincerity would help,” another respondent said.

Some even hold that compatibility covers everything, “Yes, because compatibility encompasses sex and money. If we are compatible sex won’t be an issue and financial issue will be brought under control.” A respondent said.

Money came in second at 26.4 percent.

“Our poverty entrenched society creates all sorts of misnomer, thus affecting peoples sense of virtue and values, this affects marriage adversely,” one correspondent said.

“The economy is becoming harder and people are finding it very difficult to make ends meet and to be able to look out for each other, the wages are shrinking and making people to think more of themselves only …,” another said.

“Economic wellbeing of a couple is determined largely by financial capability of both partners and either one of the couple. Whenever this is lacking, anyone of the partners that feels most uncomfortable would tend to be tired of the relationship. He/she may decide to walk out of the relationship. Thus economic factor plays a major role in the stability of homes.

Other issues came in third at 17.9 percent. Surprisingly, many respondents choosing the ‘others’ option say feminism and gender equality are responsible for divorce. Some of them say feminism snuffs out the life in humility and that starts the end of the marriage.

“The growing desire of women to be independent. High social profile of the women folk has absolutely made many of them to question the age long tradition of head ship of the man in the family. While modern time has watered down the maximum ruler ship of the man, democracy is the bane of our age. Imposition of self by woman, maybe because of financial power, over the man, is totally unAfrican and in fact to the healthy growth of the family in any clime,” a respondent said.

And one respondent suggested having breaks because of the ‘burden of continuous living together…’

“I have been married for 8 years and can say it may not be any of the aforementioned reasons though I think lack of Money can contribute to it. In my opinion it has to do with the burden of continuous living together without a break. Marriage takes freedom away from both man and woman and after some times this could have negative impact on their marriage. My advise or suggestion is that Man and Woman should take a regular break e.g. one month every 2 years from each other.”

Only a mere 11.4 percent of all respondents said sex was capable of leading to divorce.

“It is sex because it is meant to be enjoyed by a man and his wife. If either of them, especially the man, is not satisfied he may begin to pick up unnecessary quarrel with his wife but unwilling to talk about it in the public. He may then begin to engage in extra-marital affairs. Besides, no woman can keep or maintain a relationship with a man without sex, period,” a respondent said.

“Rising rates of easy access to pornographic material and rising rates of indecent dressing and attitudes especially by celebrities make people
promiscuous.”

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The most cause of divorce and unhappy marriage in the world statistics is compatibility issues. Sex and money does not guarantee happy marriage though it can keep it going but will never MAKE A MARRIAGE A HAPPY ONE .

Compatibility is state of understanding each other and able to manage each other weakness and strengths. When couples understands each, they tends to make a cautious efforts to help each other improve or cover-up their weakness including sex and financial issues.