The article we wrote yesterday under relationship section pointed out communication as a critical ingredient that spice up relationship. For more details refer to the article http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/most-couples-don’t-pay-attention-to-their-relationships/

Today we will be talking about communication problem in relationship. According to Elaine Fantle Shimberg the author of Blending Families believes that all relationship problems stem from poor communication. She said “You can’t communicate while you are checking your Blackberry, watching television or flipping through sports section”
If communication is an ingredient that can spice up relationship and if most relationship problems are stemmed up from poor communication, then everyone in a relationship needs to know how to communicate effectively. Yes, because we communicate in all calls of life, the way we relate with business partners, friends, and colleagues has a long way to determine how we communicate in our relationship or marriage.

To communicate effectively:
1. You have to be calm and soft: When we raise our voices, it naturally disturbs the mind. You can’t raise your voice in the library because it’s affect concentration. When you scream while communicating, the receiver of your message gets disconnected. You won’t want to shout in the hospital, you will be embarrassed, reason because noise disturbs one’s state of mind. A receiver tend to shout back at you, or ask you “why are you shouting? Can’t you talk without shouting?”

2. Talk or speak at the right time: its better you tell the person you want to communicate to or who wants to communicate with you that “can we please speak or talk later” because the right things can be said at the wrong time. Sometimes when we are not in the right state of mind to communicate, it’s better we reschedule the discussion instead of getting angry over little things because of our state of mind. Of cause every human will once in a while be in that mood. ’’You don’t always win in life’’

3. Follow the rules: there are rules in communication: Listen first before you speak, so you can be on the same page of the discussion. Don’t interrupt your communication partner, let him/her finishes before you talk or speak. Generalize it. don’t always ascribe credit to yourself, “I did it”, “I will do it”, “I am the best”. It’s sometimes makes your listener see you as a liar and someone who takes credit. He/she may not take you serious. Ask for other people’s opinion, instead of saying “This is how we must do it” say “How should we do it” it gives your partner the sense of belonging and importance.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/most-relationship-problems-are-stemmed-up-from-poor-communication/