₦airaland Forum

Welcome, Guest: Join Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 1,896,713 members, 3,857,187 topics. Date: Tuesday, 17 October 2017 at 06:52 AM

3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying - Family - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying (61421 Views)

My 1st Daughter Saw Her 1st Period Today & She’s Been Crying All Day - Doctor / Couple Who Wedded 3 Days After Meeting Celebrate 37th Wedding Anniversary (photo / It's Our Wedding Anniversary! Help Us Thank Jehovah. (1) (2) (3) (4)

(0) (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (Reply) (Go Down)

3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by yommys01(m): 8:18am On Feb 23, 2016
I got married on Saturday 20th of February 2016. We were in an hotel till Monday, wanted us to stay longer but she refused saying she wants to go home ( that used to be my house).

Ever since we got home yesterday ( Monday), she has been crying. Called her mom, she prayed for her, my mom called her too and prayed for her.

She stopped crying for a while, we woke up with another round of crying this morning.

This is breaking my heart. I hate to cry as it often leads me to depression now I am close to tears myself.

I don't know if I have done something wrong or what to do. It is hurting as she cries.

When we were dating, she finds it difficult without her family for long " oh, I am already missing my dad, I am already missing my siblings" could this be the reason?

One day she came to mine from home as we have Dr appointment early and she lives in another state, she got to mine and 1 hour later she wanted to go home. "I am missing my dad sha" which got me annoyed then.

Could it be that the crying now is linked? She is 25 and I am 30 and we spent quite some time together before marriage. The fact we used to be together for so long makes it more confusing. This is a house she has always been in why the crying now?

It is hurting me. Badly and I am confused.

What do I do?

24 Likes 5 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Kingsasian(m): 8:25am On Feb 23, 2016
Give her some time. She will get use to living with you soon. Its normal for ladies to act that way. Three years ago when my younger sister got married she was always running back to our family home almost on a daily basis until my parents talked to her. Just exercise patience and she will be alright.

231 Likes 11 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by MizMyColi(f): 8:28am On Feb 23, 2016
I think it's pretty normal for someone who has forged very strong familial bonds with their relation.

This might sound harshsmiley
But you need to go tough in love.

While scolding her might sound like an option, it might turn out to be counter productive.

First, stop indulging and petting her.
I'm sure you've told her by now that she is now married to you, and that both of you need to be strong both mentally and emotionally for each other to build your lives.

If you have had this pep talk with her, and she is still tearing up.
Permit her to go to her house.
Tell her to stay as long as she likes and she shouldn't return until you come for her.

This sounds brutal, but it seems an efficient way to cure that unwanted spirit in her.

466 Likes 41 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by lonngmann(m): 8:30am On Feb 23, 2016
erm..did you pratice no sex before marriage?

It might be because of what she saw on her wedding night that is making her cry

Especially the fact that she has to live with it like that for the rest of her life grin

440 Likes 32 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Brymo: 8:32am On Feb 23, 2016
this is 1 is strong oh!

8 Likes 5 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Dyt(f): 8:35am On Feb 23, 2016
Shrugs
Hian
Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by yommys01(m): 8:35am On Feb 23, 2016
MizMyColi:
I think it's pretty normal for someone who has forged very strong familial bonds with their relation.

This might sound harshsmiley
But you need to go tough in love.

While scolding her might sound like an option, it might turn out to be counter productive.

First, stop indulging and petting her.
I'm sure you've told her by now that she is now married to you, and that both of you need to be strong both mentally and

At first I felt it was trust issues. Maybe she doesn't trust that she will be fine with me. I assured her. This feeling I have due to what her dad kept saying "omo oo, omo oo" my daughter this, my daughter that"

I tried to assure her even though having been together for 2 years, I know she is assured enough. She wanted the marriage as much as I did. I see no reason for fear. She knows me well, I have operated an open book with her.

I just discovered something, she and her dad were chatting till 10pm sending wedding pictures and the dad forming pastor.

Could the man be making things worst. I am close to him in fact as close as the daughter to him and I can tell him to give it a while before they start their usual whatsapp chats and prayer sections if it is the problem.

It is annoying me now.

33 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Oma307: 8:35am On Feb 23, 2016
Ask them ooo
lonngmann:
erm..did you pratice no sex before marriage?

It might be because of what she saw on her wedding night that is making her cry

Especially the fact that she has to live with it like that for the rest of her life grin

7 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by yommys01(m): 8:36am On Feb 23, 2016
lonngmann:
erm..did you pratice no sex before marriage?

It might be because of what she saw on her wedding night that is making her cry

Especially the fact that she has to live with it like that for the rest of her life grin
me no sex? For where? She is pregnant sef.

365 Likes 22 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by viceldo(m): 8:36am On Feb 23, 2016
Bro Give Her Time She Would Get Over It....Same Goes To My Elder Sis Before She Get Marrige She No Let Us Hear Word....The She Got Marrige... They Were About To Go When Star Crying Na So She No Grre Go Her Husband House Because Say Nah She Be The Only Girl...My Mom Have To Relase One Of My Younger Bro To Go With Her And Stayed For Like Two Month Before She Agree To Stay

26 Likes 4 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by TheArchangel(f): 8:40am On Feb 23, 2016
GIVE HER TIME AND PUT A CHILD IN HER BELLY TO KEEP HER BUSY then tell your father in law to back off that he is putting asunder.
The feeling will go with time cos I have been there and NOW I just want me and my husband./children.

10 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by kadas01(m): 8:50am On Feb 23, 2016
Take her somewhere nice for the weekend and spoil her a little so as to free her mind!

8 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by lonngmann(m): 8:54am On Feb 23, 2016
yommys01:
me no sex? For where? She is pregnant sef.

baddolee!!!
*chop knuclle grin

She is ur wife..get her to open to you, try and surprise her with stuffs, like pounded yam as breakfast in bed..things that will make her frget or replace her great memories with her family with super great memories you are creating.

Samsung galaxy S7 has been announced..and i hear its fine o..you can get her one when its out.. wink

Happy married life!

139 Likes 8 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by yommys01(m): 8:57am On Feb 23, 2016
lonngmann:


baddolee!!!
*chop knuclle grin

She is ur wife..get her to open to you, try and surprise her with stuffs, like pounded yam as breakfast in bed..things that will make her frget or replace her great memories with her family with super great memories you are creating.

Samsung galaxy S7 has been announced..and i hear its fine o..you can get her one when its out.. wink

Happy married life!
Her mom will come over for a 2-3 days. She is not the gift type. What makes her happy is family and family. Her father operates almost a compound family.

7 Likes

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by yommys01(m): 9:07am On Feb 23, 2016
TheArchangel:
GIVE HER TIME AND PUT A CHILD IN HER BELLY TO KEEP HER BUSY then tell your father in law to back off that he is putting asunder.
The feeling will go with time cos I have been there and NOW I just want me and my husband./children.
Done and dusted. In fact it was the reason why we didn't wait till August for the wedding proper. I planned August this year initially.

My shoulder is 6ft higher than normal.

28 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by bigabbey: 9:10am On Feb 23, 2016
You are married to daddy's pet,just take it easy with her. Happy married life.

27 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by lonngmann(m): 9:11am On Feb 23, 2016
yommys01:
Her mom will come over for a 2-3 days. She is not the gift type. What makes her happy is family and family. Her father operates almost a compound family.

Okay o..that should work too.

1 Like 2 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by TheArchangel(f): 9:55am On Feb 23, 2016
yommys01:
Done and dusted. In fact it was the reason why we didn't wait till August for the wedding proper. I planned August this year initially.

My shoulder is 6ft higher than normal.
Her hormones are now running haywire coupled with the familial attachments. Dude, youve got your hand so full.

Just IGNORE THE DAMN CRYING.

28 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by thorpido(m): 10:30am On Feb 23, 2016
Daddy's pet.Give her time.Just ignore her cries,she needs tough love.
Pregnancy hormones could be affecting her too.

23 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Amhappy(f): 10:46am On Feb 23, 2016
This reminds me of a wedding i attended,the bride sobbed so loud and long after church that it almost disrupted the reception.The Rev. Fr had to come back and ask her whether she no want the marriage again so that he will announce the annulment right there.

35 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by blessedtwins: 11:04am On Feb 23, 2016
Pregnancy hormones bro
Yes she misses her ppl.buh dose hormones will not allow her reason wtout exaggerating her emotions
Be gentle wt her oh
Since belle dey,bros na u go calm down and speak ur mind wtout jabbs firmly but softly
The way u treat her next few months will determine if ur marriage wl last biko

*clears throat* **ahem**
Welcome to marriage

63 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by yommys01(m): 11:09am On Feb 23, 2016
blessedtwins:
Pregnancy hormones bro
Yes she misses her ppl.buh dose hormones will not allow her reason wtout exaggerating her emotions
Be gentle wt her oh
Since belle dey,bros na u go calm down and speak ur mind wtout jabbs firmly but softly
The way u treat her next few months will determine if ur marriage wl last biko

*clears throat* **ahem**
Welcome to marriage
I am gentle with her. She is calmer now but the dad constant calling doesn't help.

May have to tell him soon.

16 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Octobertwentysix(f): 11:13am On Feb 23, 2016
Give her time it also happened to me weeks to my wedding I was so excited about leaving my home and state for a new adventure in another state but on the day of the wedding immediately the reception came to an end I started crying that people wondered if I was forced to marry my husband, a deacon in my Church had to take me aside to talk to me but to no avail. More than five people talked to me but I was inconsolable many people were irritated. I cried all the way from PH to Warri
and cried all through the night. I kept calling home so much so that my husband allowed. me to go back home to PH the next week after I gave birth to our first child at my request my hubby allowed me to go to PH for the omugwo for a month. On my way to PH I started crying again and my mum just laughed cos few months back I cried while leaving them now its the other way round. Its been five years now just had my second child but this time I refused to go with my mum so she had to stay. You know what she said? You have grown up. so don't worry your wife will grow up. Give her time. All the best

145 Likes 6 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by jacy67(f): 11:21am On Feb 23, 2016
With time she will get used to being your wife and not daddy's girl I think she will feel a lot better after delivery. BTW Happy married life

3 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by kaziblake(f): 11:31am On Feb 23, 2016
She is obviously a daddy pet but I think it's normal in female children especially when she is close to her family.
Give her time to adjust.

Happy married life

8 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Nobody: 12:02pm On Feb 23, 2016
Rubbish. Simply cry when shes crying. Lets see who will cry pass

80 Likes 4 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Nobody: 12:02pm On Feb 23, 2016
Pregnancy can cause some funny behaviours among women. Just be strong and do not pet her too much, but you should know when she needs you.

You should also try to make sure that no one is trying to blackmail her and her marriage. It happens! I do not want to talk more about this to avoid causing problem. I don't know how matured you are

5 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Sunnycliff(m): 12:02pm On Feb 23, 2016
This is hat happens when you marry a baby in an adult body. Anyway women are called babies and babies do cry. So my man bear with your crying baby!!

12 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Nobody: 12:04pm On Feb 23, 2016
grin u think say marriage na okpa

14 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by ChappyChase(m): 12:04pm On Feb 23, 2016
This is strong/strange!!
Its obvious you got married to a 25years old baby!! Give her time to grow up!

5 Likes 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by kennysteve77: 12:04pm On Feb 23, 2016
Hmmm

1 Like 1 Share

Re: 3 Days After Our Wedding, My Wife Can't Stop Crying by Lovexme(m): 12:04pm On Feb 23, 2016
She has a strong family bond, and she can't imagine being away from her family.

She should get over it in time. She isn't a baby.

5 Likes 1 Share

(0) (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (Reply)

How To Determine Your Safe And Unsafe Period Within A 28 Days Menstrual Cycle / Man Returns From Mortuary After Confirmed Dead (PICTURED) / Man Dumps Wife For Being A Bad Cook

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (0) (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2017 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 116
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.