I need an advice
I've known this particular girl since my primary school days. We've been friends and started dating two years ago. I love her so much and always wished for a pure relationship with her, that's all I ever wanted( when I mean pure I mean pure in the sight of God I.e no sex). She loved me cos of that, I made her believe one can still have a holy relationship in this present generation. But last year, we fell and we had sex. Since then it hasn't been the same, we'll reconnect and fall again. I was her pastor, d one who helped to keep her going in terms of spirituality. But I started to decline and the sex thing increased, she no longer believed me or the things I say anymore cos I was saying and no longer doing.( I know she also has a part to play in keeping things going, but I like taking responsibility for it, cos I know im the driver of the bus and I determine where we'll end up). It's painful to let some one believe that some thing is possible and you let the person down by your action, and you just can't help it.
RIght now, she doesn't trust me anymore and she wants out. so I'm left with two minds; should I give her some space and then work on mysef or I shld completely let her go Cos I really don't want to destroy anybody, wit my actions or rob sombody wit my wrong doings. she's two years older Dan me, one of the reason I wild went to let her go. but I do not want it to be cos of my own lapses.
most times I really want to forget about her and about relationship and work on myself and do that when I'm completely ready for it, cos I really cannot do any tin outside God.
But I love her so much and would hate to see her go.

Even tho I don't understand a word of what you wrote there, I'll say.....Sometimes it's best to just let go.

Save both of u nd let go of the relationship...beta still u can kip her if u can control ur sexual urges toward herSave both of u nd let go of the relationship...beta still u can kip her if u can control ur sexual urges toward herSave both of u nd let go of the relationship...beta still u can kip her if u can control ur sexual urges toward her

Mr man practice d art of self control. I'v got a PhD in dat

Drigdee:
I need an advice
I've known this particular girl since my primary school days. We've been friends and started dating two years ago. I love her so much and always wished for a pure relationship with her, that's all I ever wanted( when I mean pure I mean pure in the sight of God I.e no sex). She loved me cos of that, I made her believe one can still have a holy relationship in this present generation. But last year, we fell and we had sex. Since then it hasn't been the same, we'll reconnect and fall again. I was her pastor, d one who helped to keep her going in terms of spirituality. But I started to decline and the sex thing increased, she no longer believed me or the things I say anymore cos I was saying and no longer doing.( I know she also has a part to play in keeping things going, but I like taking responsibility for it, cos I know im the driver of the bus and I determine where we'll end up). It's painful to let some one believe that some thing is possible and you let the person down by your action, and you just can't help it.
RIght now, she doesn't trust me anymore and she wants out. so I'm left with two minds; should I give her some space and then work on mysef or I shld completely let her go Cos I really don't want to destroy anybody, wit my actions or rob sombody wit my wrong doings. she's two years older Dan me, one of the reason I wild went to let her go. but I do not want it to be cos of my own lapses.
most times I really want to forget about her and about relationship and work on myself and do that when I'm completely ready for it, cos I really cannot do any tin outside God.
But I love her so much and would hate to see her go.

Op don't blame urself
U self be Human Being faaa..
Give her space...if she want u..she will find her way

B4 u post this topic ur mind has already told u wat to do. But I have advice for u.
What if you let her go and u fall again into the hands of anoda girl That wil b anoda sin. As a Pastor u call yourself, u are not suppose to venture into such act, and dat makes it hard 4 her to believe u. Ask God for forgiveness. She is 2 years older than u is not an excuse to let her go. I advice u to go for a deliverance. Don't let her go. Ask her to give u one more chance to prove ur faithfulness to her, and stand by it.
Goodluck.

Only know you love her when you let her go'

Lol after hitting it once OP can't let go.....

As u said u cant do anything outside God, so go down on your knee and consult the heavenly

Pray and ask for God's direction,you fell for the devils trick sex is not something you start and stop immediately. Ask for God's mercy for the weapon of our warfare is not carnal bit spiritual.

I would say give her some space make peace with God and arm yourself draw back to christ and he shall set his word as a lamp unto thy feet and solve your problems because he is the impossibility specialist!

it's not about the girl, u know it




it's the fear of being exposed, by the girl

Daniel2289:
B4 u post this topic ur mind has already told u wat to do. But I have advice for u.
What if you let her go and u fall again into the hands of anoda girl That wil b anoda sin. As a Pastor u call yourself, u are not suppose to venture into such act, and dat makes it hard 4 her to believe u. Ask God for forgiveness. She is 2 years older than u is not an
excuse to let her go. I advice u to go for a deliverance. Don't let her go. Ask her to give u one more chance to prove ur faithfulness to her, and stand by it.
Goodluck.

thanks.

You're a pastor doesn't mean you're infallible. You're also human brov. Like MI said "me sef I be human being o0o"

Don't let her go. Give her space but keep in touch (hi, good morning, an Co. won't be bad)

Work on yourself and pray harder.

The devil get power o0oo!!

You shouldn't have mention pastor in your post.

Why not marry and be having sex as you like? If you don't want to have sex, stay single until you find the one you want to marry, simple.

Angelberry:
You shouldn't have mention pastor in your post.

I meant 'I was a pastor to her, like someone she looks up to spiritually' I'm not a pastor

you need booty'o' you need booty'o'

Drigdee:

I meant 'I was a pastor to her, like someone she looks up to spiritually' I'm not a pastor

Okay...you fail in your duty as her spiritual whatever. I'll advice you to marry her ASAP