I was chatting with a colleague of mine (male) amebo things and we got talking bout relationships. One conversation led to another and he made this statement 'I CAN NEVER EVER SHARE MY WIFE!!! infact wife is too deep , i can never ever share my girlfriend with another man'. And i was like really

Before you crucify me, This guy has about five girlfriends that i know of (they come around) and i'm very sure he has more. He wants them to be faithful to him and he is actually cheating on them all . Isn't this selfishness of the highest order
so i told him i'll use his mini story as a case study .

No matter how sensitive or "different" men declare themselves to be they always end up being more interested in making themselves happy than making you happy...all the while expecting you to take care of them when they are sick, cook for them when they are hungry, sleep with them when they want sex. In my experience the only time a man is ever warm or understanding is when he wants pleasing of some kind. No matter how evolved they think they are, that is ultimately what they think your purpose is. To make them feel good. To serve them...but only when it suits them...

Guys/Ladies, in all sincerity, who is more selfish in nature

You have said it all. Nothing to argue about.

Men are naturally more selfish.

But for example I had you for a wife, why would I wanna share you with anybody? I mean, just look at you.

mimzy:
I was chatting with a colleague of mine (male) amebo things and we got talking bout relationships. One conversation led to another and he made this statement 'I CAN NEVER EVER SHARE MY WIFE!!! infact wife is too deep , i can never ever share my girlfriend with another man'. And i was like really

Before you crucify me, This guy has about five girlfriends that i know of (they come around) and i'm very sure he has more. He wants them to be faithful to him and he is actually cheating on them all . Isn't this selfishness of the highest order
so i told him i'll use his mini story as a case study .

No matter how sensitive or "different" men declare themselves to be they always end up being more interested in making themselves happy than making you happy...all the while expecting you to take care of them when they are sick, cook for them when they are hungry, sleep with them when they want sex. In my experience the only time a man is ever warm or understanding is when he wants pleasing of some kind. No matter how evolved they think they are, that is ultimately what they think your purpose is. To make them feel good. To serve them...but only when it suits them...

Guys/Ladies, in all sincerity, who is more selfish in nature

selfishness is a trait in every individual be it male or female.
The capacity of any to suppress his/her's is what makes one a responsible person.

I fink women are more selfish!....yea guys are selfish buh women are more selfish!....


op d example u sited above was from just a friend of urs and it apply to some men too buh most women does all DAT and even more!....dey might date more Dan 10 men,each has dere purpose......maybe one for sex,one for money,one for love,etcetera!

dey mostly fink abt demslves wifout feelings for oders!

A woman (if seriously compelled) can let her man shagg other women if it'll make him happier. A man on the other hand can never allow that! Savvy?

Mutuwa:


selfishness is a trait in every individual be it male or female.
The capacity of any to suppress his/her's is what makes one a responsible person.

hmmm. well said. but i still think men are fundamentally more selfish." Unlike women, "they're simply less interested in people. And they're less empathetic.

refiner:
I fink women are more selfish!....yea guys are selfish buh women are more selfish!....


op d example u sited above was from just a friend of urs and it apply to some men too buh most women does all DAT and even more!....dey might date more Dan 10 men,each has dere purpose......maybe one for sex,one for money,one for love,etcetera!

dey mostly fink abt demslves wifout feelings for oders!

You're speaking from the experience of doing such ba

lol. dont derail this thread ooooo. back to the topic , thanks for being blunt jare

RexKexMilann:
Men are naturally more selfish.

But for example I had you for a wife, why would I wanna share you with anybody? I mean, just look at you.

People are selfish

Suigeneris93:


You're speaking from the experience of doing such ba

lol!...am a gal,I also have female friends!...so dats an enoff reason!

refiner:


lol!...am a gal,I also have female friends!...so dats an enoff reason!

The kind of company you keep tho ever heard of birds of a feather flocking together?

huh . lol , babes , really have you heard of this saying that "a key that can open many locks is a MASTER KEY but a lock that can opened by many keys is a SH*T*Y KEY?
Sweetie, if a lady has ten boyfriends or more, then she is a confirmed hoe. irrespective of the fact that she aint sleeping with all of em. that kinda lady isn't even capable of loving .

I agree with you that some ladies can be selfish too, but the tendency of a man to be selfish is higher than that of a lady.

refiner:
I fink women are more selfish!....yea guys are selfish buh women are more selfish!....


op d example u sited above was from just a friend of urs and it apply to some men too buh most women does all DAT and even more!....dey might date more Dan 10 men,each has dere purpose......maybe one for sex,one for money,one for love,etcetera!

dey mostly fink abt demslves wifout feelings for oders!

mimzy:



hmmm. well said. but i still think men are fundamentally more selfish." Unlike women, "they're simply less interested in people. And they're less empathetic.

well the question is,selfishness in what aspect or facet? men being selfish towards securing worldly materials,selfishness towards learning,love,family,assistance,relationship,advice,sex,leadership?what aspect is a man selfish in and what part is a woman also guilty of?

This is why the word "selfish" in itself is relative and cannot be apportioned to just one gender.
But all and sundry would agree that the woman (Eve) pushed the man to sin against the Almighty,due to her own personal selfish intent. apparently,the devil chose to use her to tempt the man to sin,why?
That is somewhat of selfishness being exercised.

Synzu, on point .

But a good man will not push his woman to that limit simply cos he knows we are vulnerable in nature.

Synzu:
A woman (if seriously compelled) can let her man shagg other women if it'll make him happier. A man on the other hand can never allow that! Savvy?

Suigeneris93:





The kind of company you keep tho ever heard of birds of a feather flocking together?

lol!....I avnt and I don't wish to hear dat!: D



well on a serious note!....stop denying d fact!...its obvious dats how most gals behave!....

mimzy:
Syn.zu, on point .

But a good man will not push his woman to that limit simply cos he knows we are vulnerable in nature.

Yea well, that's another topic baby



You still gat that onion booty??

most girls around you, you mean

refiner:



lol!....I avnt and I don't wish to hear dat!: D



well on a serious note!....stop denying d fact!...its obvious dats how most gals behave!....

word

Suigeneris93:





The kind of company you keep tho ever heard of birds of a feather flocking together?

mimzy:
huh . lol , babes , really have you heard of this saying that "a key that can open many locks is a MASTER KEY but a lock that can opened by many keys is a SH*T*Y KEY?
Sweetie, if a lady has ten boyfriends or more, then she is a confirmed hoe. irrespective of the fact that she aint sleeping with all of em. that kinda lady isn't even capable of loving .

I agree with you that some ladies can be selfish too, but the tendency of a man to be selfish is higher than that of a lady.

my dear am not surprised cos u are lady and so u are trying to defend ur gender!...buh truth be told women are more selfish!



a woman loves doing stuff DAT will favour her not minding d feelings of d guy!....u can hardly see a lady sticking on a poor diligent guy wifout having two or more guys outside!.....

let's call a spade a spade!

refiner:



lol!....I avnt and I don't wish to hear dat!: D



well on a serious note!....stop denying d fact!...its obvious dats how most gals behave!....

What research can you use to back up your statistic (many)? Frankly,I'm not disputing there are girls who act this way but its mostly guys that I know to be more territorial about their partners than ladies

mimzy:
most girls around you, you mean

lol!.....gals around d world!...dats wah I mean!

One or the other gender don't win. It's the personality of those people. I know selfish men and women.

You can't lump them into one group.

Suigeneris93:



What research can you use to back up your statistic (many)? Frankly,I'm not disputing there are girls who act this way but its mostly guys that I know to be more territorial about their partners than ladies

ohk!...ur opinion!...will ague no further!


cheers!

refiner:




my dear am not surprised cos u are lady and so u are trying to defend ur gender!...buh truth be told women are more selfish!



a woman loves doing stuff DAT will favour her not minding d feelings of d guy!....u can hardly see a lady sticking on a poor diligent guy wifout having two or more guys outside!.....

let's call a spade a spade!

Its obvious you're that kinda lady, stop forcing your ideology on the rest of us that are not like you

@ the bolded , are you a guy?

As i have stated earlier, while i would agree with you that there are some ladies who are very selfish in nature, men still have a higher tendency to be selfish.
This is simply cos women are naturally wired to be soft-hearted & kind . I'm not supporting women who cheat on their men but for every woman that has decided to be unfaithful...there lies a story of hurt, deceit, betrayal on her by a guy. Of course we have some ladies that are born HOES, so with the exception of their likes.

refiner:


my dear am not surprised cos u are lady and so u are trying to defend ur gender!...buh truth be told women are more selfish!
a woman loves doing stuff DAT will favour her not minding d feelings of d guy!....u can hardly see a lady sticking on a poor diligent guy wifout having two or more guys outside!.....

let's call a spade a spade!

Suigeneris93:



Its obvious you're that kinda lady, stop forcing your ideology on the rest of us that are not like you

lol!....u just made me smile now!.....we were only buttressing our points and opinion...I don't remember forcing my ideology on u gals!


not surprised tho cos u are one of those dat hate hearing d truth!....


note*...am not DAT kinda lady....if I was,I won't be saying dis,cos my conscience will surely prick me!


cheeers!

mimzy:
huh . lol , babes , really have you heard of this saying that "a key that can open many locks is a MASTER KEY but a lock that can opened by many keys is a SH*T*Y KEY?
Sweetie, if a lady has ten boyfriends or more, then she is a confirmed hoe. irrespective of the fact that she aint sleeping with all of em. that kinda lady isn't even capable of loving .

I agree with you that some ladies can be selfish too, but the tendency of a man to be selfish is higher than that of a lady.

Why take sides?
U are presenting d argument.

refiner:


lol!....u just made me smile now!.....we were only buttressing our points and opinion...I don't remember forcing my ideology on u gals!


not surprised tho cos u are one of those dat hate hearing d truth!....


note*...am not DAT kinda lady....if I was,I won't be saying dis,cos my conscience will surely prick me!


cheeers!

Truth-teller indeed, biko shift


























Cheers to you too

the last time i checked, being the OP does not mean you cannot air your views. Cheers

LaurelP:


Why take sides?
U are presenting d argument.

mimzy:
the last time i checked, being the OP does not mean you cannot air your views. Cheers

Then it means that u already know the answer to ur question. Therefore ur title shouldn't be a question but shud read "Men are more selfish than women".

refiner:
I fink women are more selfish!....yea guys are selfish buh women are more selfish!....


op d example u sited above was from just a friend of urs and it apply to some men too buh most women does all DAT and even more! ....dey might date more Dan 10 men,each has dere purpose......maybe one for sex,one for money,one for love,etcetera!

dey mostly fink abt demslves wifout feelings for oders!

Source? @Bolded