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I Think He Is Cheating by MsJackson: 5:18am On Apr 09, 2016 |
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Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Cutehector(m): 5:21am On Apr 09, 2016 |
Awww, it is always at this point, most married women are vulnerable... Why not seek the face of God like the women of old did? He will answer u 4 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Tundeiab(m): 5:24am On Apr 09, 2016 |
Didn't you guys court? You should have noticed all these while dating. For all I know, his sisters could be responsible for your barrenness. As for the sisters, make dem no marry again na. What you need is prayer, my sister. May God see you through... Amen! 10 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Nobody: 5:56am On Apr 09, 2016 |
at this stage I will advice separation....not divorce, bitter but true.... rather than becoming a basket case...while you seek the face of God in prayer... MsJackson: 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Patented: 6:09am On Apr 09, 2016 |
Seeking God's face is key at this point. Also how well do you know your man? 2ndly doing what u think will make a man happy can often be diff from what actually makes a man happy. I pray God will give you the wisdom to handle this correctly. Also rem dt a 3rd party in a R/shp cld lead to problems. Don't take ur story to many pple 1 Like |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Tallesty1(m): 6:42am On Apr 09, 2016 |
Stop giving a dam, which one is seek God's face? 4 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Nobody: 6:47am On Apr 09, 2016 |
Tallesty1: Pray. 3 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by dangotesmummy: 6:48am On Apr 09, 2016 |
angels09:exactly What a toxic family 5 Likes 1 Share
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Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Tallesty1(m): 6:49am On Apr 09, 2016 |
angels09:For what exactly? Oh! You're an angle? Oya forward her case to God asaply. @OP, stop giving a dam, two cannot walk unless they agree. 5 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by lilmax(m): 7:27am On Apr 09, 2016 |
You are not in your marriage to please his sisters Dont give a f.uck about it,put on your ‘i dont care attitude‘ And for his sisters.....no right thinking man with a good job will take sides with his sisters even when they are wrong 2 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by MsJackson: 7:31am On Apr 09, 2016 |
I've been praying and will continue to pray. We did court, but like I said, they were all pretending. never knw until recently. the sisters are all married with kids, they're older to him. It's sooo bad that when I had a miscarriage last year, my hubby told them. not a single word of comfort from them. only my parents in-law love me. but these sisters keep poisoning their minds. I belong to one conception group on fbk, a woman posted that she had a miscarriage, I only comforted her, I never made reference to myself. that same evening, my father inlaw called my hubby to ask him if I posted on fbk for the whole world to see that I had a miscarriage. my hubby defended me because, thank God, I showed him the fbk post before I uploaded it. then my father inlaw admitted that it was one of his daughters Who called him to report me. my father inlaw is not on fbk. Imagine another scenario. Where I was working with my eldest sister in-law, she was always reporting to her hubby abt my activities. I can never talk to a man or wear the trousers my own hubby bought for me to go to work with. All the sisters and parents inlaw will hear. she even told my hubby that men were always dragging me into the toilet at work. WHICH MAN WILL HEAR SUCH? I was paralysed with shock. Why will I be close to such people? simple I LOVE U from my hubby to me gets them angry. they never showed all these traits to me before marriage. Maybe it's because no child. AM I GOD? had I know... #sobs# |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by GoldenJAT(m): 8:16am On Apr 09, 2016 |
D problem is hydra headed.... U just av 2b prayerful if u werent.. Hopefully d jazz de use on him will wane soon... |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by aforti(m): 8:21am On Apr 09, 2016 |
MsJackson:. Op, sometimes we don't have control of who we love, but we have control on how we allow ourselves to be treated. Everything you are going through now is bcoz you allowed it. You are playing the victim when you should be the Victor. From your first post your hubby is not working, yet the family has so much power over your marriage, why? Bcoz you are giving them too much attention. Don't you have a family, or you don't have a bond with your family, try to cling to your own family look for love and comfort from your family instead of trying to be paddy with your husband sisters, they have made up their minds to frustrate you so ignore them. If your husband join them ignore him join too. Are you a child that they will be reporting your activities up and down? Is it what your sister in-laws sisters in-laws are doing to them. Call your husband sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him, he should grow up and stop being a poppy to his sisters, they should face their marriages . If you dontb sit-up now them go do worse. You have prayed ones God has heard, leave the prayer matter and deal with the reality of the day. God no get time to dey handle matters way him Don give you the ability to handle. 14 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by freecocoa(f): 8:44am On Apr 09, 2016 |
Hian! When I say I honestly don't get stories like this, someone will think I'm lying. I mean, how can a fellow grown a$$ woman like myself be the one to decide what happens in my home? A home where I'm even the sole bread winner. Mehn! Some things are just impossible o. OP I honestly don't know what to tell you o, cos I believe you should know what to do, haba! 8 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Nobody: 9:05am On Apr 09, 2016 |
freecocoa: Its because she was slow of the mark and maybe was doing some eye service when she was courting their brother just to be in their good books. I dont think that they changed You only just noticed it now that you are in their family My advise is to stop playing the victim or you will be like this till kingdom come Hopefully it isnt too late It seems that you are all too close....same job with your SIL is a little too close for comfort. In the meantime Just be firm and let your yes be yes and your no be no stop reporting them to your hubby as it puts him in a uncomfortable position Just ignore them and dont get too close to them. Its not as if you eat from the same pot. pls do not be rude to any of them. Be civil but keep a distance. And like someone said...Yes please do pray I also want you to remember that stress does impact on fertility, so please dont let anything stress you All the best and I pray that you have your own baby soon. 6 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by edwife(f): 9:20am On Apr 09, 2016 |
tearoses: On point! She said they were pretending... I knew she was exaggerating,they have no need to pretend to you,they are older than your husband and have their families.They were always like that you were the one trying to please them by losing yourself. Just like tearoses said,you are too close to them-they can be in your business for all they want but you should avoid and stay away from them.Stop associating with everything they are a party to. Make yourself unreachable. Get out of that facebook . I don't even think it is the right time to bring a child,the space is too toxic even from your husband. You need to grow firm and bold.It is time you sit him down and tell him that you won't tolerate anymore disrespect and bullies. You better concentrate on your job as it is and if your husband chooses to be his sisters's poppy,don't worry about it as long as he doesn't bring his madness to you.Support your HOME and if you feel uneasy,go to your parents for a while and comeback home when you feel better. Lest i forget,do have a saving account.A wise man sees trouble coming and prepares for it. 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Nobody: 9:26am On Apr 09, 2016 |
edwife babes long time How are you dear |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by edwife(f): 9:28am On Apr 09, 2016 |
tearoses: I am fine dear,hope you are too.Winter is over... |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Nobody: 9:29am On Apr 09, 2016 |
edwife: I'm still cold o! |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by edwife(f): 9:34am On Apr 09, 2016 |
tearoses: It is better o,i don't have to cover myself up and down. |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Nobody: 9:38am On Apr 09, 2016 |
edwife: |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by TheArchangel(f): 9:48am On Apr 09, 2016 |
edwife:Winter is coming...... |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by MsJackson: 1:12pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
my mum and sisters are blaming me seriously for being too slack. seriously I didn't notice this attitude in them before marriage. they acted soooo nice to me, then. |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by keepingmum: 1:20pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Awwwhhh e hugs to you babe. Sadly you can't. I was in ur shoes....exactly the same issue. My story and yours is quite similar except that when I decided I wanted out of the marriage, after all the noise from both sides. We started talking again and I really opened up on how his siblings actions/pretence affected me. How taking sides with them affected me much more. He felt really bad and has been making every effort 2 change. He even told his family that if I change my mind and choose to remain in the marriage, they won't be allowed to visit unless I approve. They will no longer be allowed 2 be abusive or make snipy comments about me. But all these happened because He CHOOSE to change.....prayers didn't make him because trust me, I prayed, fought, ignored him and even his family.....till I decided I was done and wanted out of the marriage......so babe I wish u all the best in whatever you decide 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by RiloKiley: 2:48pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
Cutehector:And again! |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by armyofone(m): 3:03pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
You are right edwife. One thing though, I think having a separate saving now is going to be a problem since the husband isn't working. Op, also start applying for jobs elsewhere....too close for comfort. edwife: |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by edwife(f): 3:07pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
armyofone: With the kind of husband she has that tells everything to his sisters,she doesn't have to tell him. If he changes,it will still be useful to both but if not,she will at least have something to fall on. 7 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by EfemenaXY: 5:59pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
MsJackson: So why are you still with him? I mean, what are you gaining from the "union" apart from misery? MsJackson: So I ask again, what's keeping you in there? 2 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by nasha1(f): 7:01pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
MsJackson dont listen to anyone that will tell u to divorce your husband. Many people have their own struggle in their marriages and none of them divorce their husbands.Only after u have tried everything u think u can then u can take a drastic decision.Be wise,i see some good comment above,follow them. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by Onegai(f): 8:41pm On Apr 09, 2016 |
MsJackson: No, no, no. You kissed their ar.ses and planted your lips so far up their butts that you didn't open your eyes to take a good look at them. First be honest with yourself then you can solve the problem. You've gotten good advice from here. It's upto to decide what you want and how much you can take. Your problem is that your husband isn't drawing boundaries. You need to let him know (without attacking anyone) that things need to change. And take a break by going to see your parents. 4 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by MsJackson: 2:37am On Apr 10, 2016 |
EfemenaXY:love. commitment. respect for marriage. 5 Likes |
Re: I Think He Is Cheating by MsJackson: 2:43am On Apr 10, 2016 |
For those of you Who still insisted that I knowingly went into this marriage with the sisters attitude, well I can't try to convince you further. if u aren't married, then you'll know that circumstances could change people. in my case, the issue of childbirth changed them(I think ), because they were so welcoming. we even ate from the same bowl(literally and otherwise ) we were that close. God dey. |
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