chaircover: im on his side

Ahhhhhhh just like that?

jidegirl12: Ok ma

But if I change my mind on the Boy thingy ,..,, they will have no other choice but to bear hyphenated last names too( when married)... At least if that'll be the only favor I will ever ask from them.

So what happens if you kids' spouses insist on same?! People are just going to think your grandkids are Sri-Lankan on account of their surname

naijababe:

So what happens if you kids' spouses insist on same?! People are just going to think your grandkids are Sri-Lankan on account of their surname

now I feel old already.

jidegirl12:

now I feel old already.

That's not the point madam.

One your grandkids could be called Jason Akinwale Aladejobi Okungbade and the last 3 names would be his surname alone.

naijababe:

That's not the point madam.

One your grandkids could be called Jason Akinwale Aladejobi Okungbade and the last 3 names would be his surname alone.

I said 'I feel old' cos you're talking bout grand kids.

You don't understand, I only care about my Kids last names Jason Akinwale-Aladejobi ( Akinwale the maiden name& Aladejobi the married name) , just like my Dad don't give a hoot what my Kids last names are.

The Okungbades can do whatever! I doubt any son in law would want maternal last name with their kids names

baby_123: I dont blame them honestly. Some dumb female children can go and hand over their father's properties to opportunists and fraudsters who end up squandering what they did not work hard for, or giving it out to other women and their numerous illegitimate children. Such a parent may wake up from the grave and start fighting. LMAO. But male children can equally be a disaster, however, there is some security that the family business and property and name will live on and will be in hands that hopefully will appreciate it. Also, other children will be able to benefit from the profits and will get something over their life time, if well handled. As a husband may demand total focus on his family from his wife. [b]Instead of dealing with family businesses, work and her own family. I[/b]ts all complicated. Each child in regards to gender has the role they play.

Just saw this

^ Okay.

I guess its nice to have one of each gender but i and hubby wanted just two kids so it really would not have mattered what gender they were.To me its who and what kids turn out to be that really matters.You certainly dont want your family name being remembered for certain things eg Osama Bin Laden was a boy child

God forbid oh Damiso... So if you're a medical doctor who owns a professional building with different fields in Medicine and you as the Chief. And your kids aren't interested in medicine, what would you do?

Honest please? Let it out . Btw where have you been?

jidegirl12: God forbid oh Damiso... So if you're a medical doctor who owns a professional building with different fields in Medicine and you as the Chief. And your kids aren't interested in medicine, what would you do?

Honest please? Let it out . Btw where have you been?

Sell it now! What else can you possibly do?

Wow babè you're cold!

May God help us all Amen.

jidegirl12: Wow babè you're cold!

May God help us all Amen.

Not cold just a realist

jidegirl12: God forbid oh Damiso... So if you're a medical doctor who owns a professional building with different fields in Medicine and you as the Chief. And your kids aren't interested in medicine, what would you do?

Honest please? Let it out . Btw where have you been?

Sis just been so busy of late,adult education things .I need a clone of myself but as greatgod will say may God help us all.As to your question i would go with naijababe ,sell it naaa must my kids not build their own dreams ni?Their dreams and aspirations i would encourage but its not a must it must tie into mine.Besides it might even the girl who would tow the medical line and not the boy sef.

I personally think the whole having boys and children to carry on legacies is soo overrated.I dont think we hear much of Rockeffeller,Paul Getty etc kids like we hear of Bill Gates today.Not saying they are still not wealthy but not as well known.Make ur own mark if you want ur name to live on.

jidegirl12: God forbid oh Damiso... So if you're a medical doctor who owns a professional building with different fields in Medicine and you as the Chief. And your kids aren't interested in medicine, what would you do?

Honest please? Let it out . Btw where have you been?

Create a board or trust and put them all on it when they are above 30 and have made something of themselves in their own right. So they can all make joint decisions in the interest of the growth and profit of the business. This way, they can make decisions on the administration, get their share of the profits and still go about their daily lives. I prefer this way actually when a family owns big businesses. Putting it in one child's hands is usually dangerous. But when all of them have control, things are more sane. With the male vs female issue, i think most parents are scared that some guy from no where will just take advantage of their daughter. Especially in Nigeria, where they encourage female children to be submissive and hand over all their assets to the husband. smh. With me sha, e no fit happen. Everything i own will go to my daughters and their daughters, they are not allowed to sell or transfer title. That will be my will.

Thanks Dami( nice to see you again, Lord is your strength sis )

Baby , thanks ...