share ur views ladies. what I mean by authoritative guy is one that don't allow u to go out n if u wan to go out u have to take permission otherwise u will be dealt with..he doesn't allow u do what u want to do...however what I mean by a gentle guy is d opposite of what I have mentions above abt an authoritative guy...

Authoritative"'

allow the ladies to answer

Gentleman is still the best..

ify2nyce:
Authoritative"'

yes

I need a gentle man who knows how to treat a Lady ,who also is not a weakling.

Op you're mixing it up. The fact that a guy is authoritative doesn't make him a nuisance and the so called "gentle guy" maybe a thorn in the flesh


This doesn't mean my opinions won't count in the relationship

I think it's possible to possess both attributes (Someone like me)... OP be more elaborate.
I think you were referring to temperaments.

layla129:
Op you're mixing it up. The fact that a guy is authoritative doesn't make him a nuisance and the so called "gentle guy" maybe a thorn in the flesh. Anyways, for me i like a guy that is a little authoritative... i'm a stubborn lady and if i end up with a "gentle guy" i may end up dominating him completely which i detest .
I always like my man to be in charge most of the time.


This doesn't mean my opinions won't count in the relationship

Women are confused species. See this one now.

You want authority that will dominate. Yet you want yor opinion to count. Can you put your hand in fire and say it won't burn?

Hahaha.. women ehn.. make una dey deceive una self

A gentle but tactfully opinionated guy

Greene66:


Women are confused species. See this one now.

You want authority that will dominate. Yet you want yor opinion to count. Can you put your hand in fire and say it won't burn?

Hahaha.. women ehn.. make una dey deceive una self

Hope you didn't skip the "a little authoritative"?
I hope you also know a person can possess both attributes ...so i'm not confused

cruzita:
I need a gentle man who knows how to treat a Lady ,who also is not a weakling.

I also need a funny gal like u who can make me laugh sometimes. I wanna be ur E-friend cruz.

layla129:


Hope you didn't skip the "a little authoritative"?
I hope you also know a person can possess both attributes ...so i'm not confused

Lol you are confused. It's either A or B. It's either positive or negative. There is no in-between. A person cannot posses both attributes. Only a pretender can. Which won't hold for long.

And there is no such thing as "a little authoritative". Many of you women put yourself in the wrong situation because of your childish thinking. Your type will end up marrying a man who will turn you to punching bag.

Just don't come back to nairaland when he slap you sha.

Lol. Imperfect posters looking for perfect soulmates. Take a study about personilities and u'll realize many dream men and women ppl have actually do not exist.

Besides there are some experiences that would make one not selective anymore but to make a person better.

dhenri:
share ur views ladies. what I mean by authoritative guy is one that don't allow u to go out n if u wan to go out u have to take permission otherwise u will be dealt with..he doesn't allow u do what u want to do...however what I mean by a gentle guy is d opposite of what I have mentions above abt an authoritative guy...

gentle guy, those that go after bossy men always regret it

ehn

Gentle and polite man all the way#not a dull one ooooo

Am bossy in nature thus can't be with a bossy fella.

+ve and +ve don't attract

KashyBaby:
Gentleman is still the best..

but you still prefer authoritative

cruzita:
I need a gentle man who knows how to treat a Lady ,who also is not a weakling.

Are you sure?

KashyBaby:
Gentleman is still the best..

but you still prefer authoritative

Different girls with different wants but as for me,am a gentleman and will neva change although sometimes I become unpredictable,and I will also prefer a cool and gentle lady too who is also unpredictable sometimes.

cruzita:
I need a gentle man who knows how to treat a Lady ,who also is not a weakling.

are u a female?

esosa993:




gentle guy, those that go after bossy men always regret it

Avaa about your bae's younger bro?have you settled the stuff?

olac21:


Avaa about your bae's younger bro?have you settled the stuff?

Lol,he doesn't like me and I can't force him.... As long he doesn't harm me, thanks for asking I appreciate

layla129:


Hope you didn't skip the "a little authoritative"?
I hope you also know a person can possess both attributes ...so i'm not confused

Lol.. It's obvious you don't know what you want..
. The question is to choose between an Authoritative man and a Gentle man.

This is the problem with you ladies, your imaginations are wild and desires aren't realistic, you think an Authoritative man will make your opinion count?
That can only happen if it's in line with his opinion..

Choose and don't compromise because you want it your way...

Yewandequeen:
ehn

Gentle and polite man all the way#not a dull one ooooo

Am bossy in nature thus can't be with a bossy fella.

+ve and +ve don't attract

Being gentle and polite doesn't necessarily always mean a person is submissive oooo.
There're some men and women who appear quite polite and gentle yet are extremely assertive in a gentle but firm way.

Also a submissive may behave, under certain circumstances, in a way that he'll be misjudged to be impolite and unbecoming.

focus on making money abeg

Who no like better thing

all of una for this thread.
who una comment epp?

None. I just need a man who knows what to do at the right time without being told...

Greene66:


Women are confused species. See this one now.

You want authority that will dominate. Yet you want your opinion to count. Can you put your hand in fire and say it won't burn?

Hahaha.. women ehn.. make una dey deceive una self

Actually, there's no confusion in what she said.

When women say "authoritative", they don't mean Stalin but a man who takes charge.

Think of the relationship between a young girl and her father. He's strict, but also loving. He's sweet and "gentle", when she's on her best behaviour, but doesn't hesitate to bring the hammer down when she misbehaves.

As for the "her opinion counting" part: Imagine taking your 5-year-old niece out. You want her to have a good time, so you actually listen to her suggestions about where she'd like to go, or what she'd like to eat.

...but the buck stops with you.

You can will simply overrule any suggestions you don't like because you're the oga-at-the-top.

BuddhaPalm:


Actually, there's no confusion in what she said.

When women say "authoritative", they don't mean Stalin but a man who takes charge.

Think of the relationship between a young girl and her father. He's strict, but also loving. He's sweet and "gentle", when she's on her best behaviour, but doesn't hesitate to bring the hammer down when she misbehaves.

As for the "her opinion counting" part: Imagine taking your 5-year-old niece out. You want her to have a good time, so you actually listen to her suggestions about where she'd like to go, or what she'd like to eat.

...but the buck stops with you.

You can will simply overrule any suggestions you don't like because you're the oga-at-the-top.

Even you are also confused.

So a wife is now a 5 year old?

Besides Husband is different from father. She is confused. I repeat