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Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by neocortex: 7:06pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
VoteDemiladgold: Yes, you not all those who gamble loses. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Lexusgs430: 7:07pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
If continually beating the child has changed nothing, the child is now allergic to the beatings!!! A different approach is required!!!! |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by AfroKnight: 7:08pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
As they grow older and are able to understand consequences, you may stop spanking them. However at a tender age, the smacking does the trick. Some little kids I've met will talk back at you if you correct them gently. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by demolinka(m): 7:10pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Ur answer lies in the thick, flexible mass of cane in the backyard. Use it. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 7:12pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
I heard frm my older siblings that my dad will wake them up at 2a.m jst to spank them now they are nt wayward, spanking a child is good bt don't break a bone. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Amsonme(m): 7:17pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
VoteDemiladgold:it is simple there r tins a child will do Dat u don't have to ignore them u follow it up with spanking. but the 'stubbornness issue' is a different case. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by endtimesblog: 7:17pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Is not about beating ooooo you can't believe what my little boi did this afternoon the little man carry the tourchlite wey the whole house dey use... And took it to the bathroom and baff for it.. Waka come back to the sitting room saw me and just dey laff.... I collect it from him and shake my head... And thank God is nt my fone... Na another story dat one go be.. Kids are so special.. So beating is Not the solution... I think punishment make alot of sense than pikin.... |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by GboyegaD(m): 7:17pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
soopamom: The shepherd uses the rod for both comfort and correction. When a sheep is going astray, he uses the rod to beat the sheep so that it can come back to the flock. I do not agree to excessive beating rather, I support stern talk with beating sometimes. The beating shouldn't be out of anger as most parents do though. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Niyinficient(m): 7:21pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
How to deal wit a stubborn child.... 1. Show some love 2. Talk to him/her (as many times as possible when you have to) 3. Punishment/beating (too much beating ain't advisable, bbt interval and unsuspecting slaps will do d magic) 4. Play games wit him/her (scrabble, ps, bed wrestling or any game he/she likes) 5. Overlook some of his/her behaviour at times 6. Pray |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by azeecoboy(m): 7:22pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
if you like continue spanking him all day,a stubborn child wouldn't change for good. PUNISHMENT is better! |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by bettercreature(m): 7:25pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Enypie:You are very funny,Refuse to beat your kids at your own peril |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by magicfingers009: 7:25pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Cut what the child loves. E.g Games, TV programmes, Internet. Lock the child in the toilet for 2 hours. Threaten to go to his/her school to embarrass him/her. (Always works, cos they have a rep to protect). Flog when necessary. Pray for the child and engage the child in extra curricular activities. e.g A Music Band, a drama group, photography class, fashion school 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by bettercreature(m): 7:26pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
AfroKnight:Don't mind the guys on here most of them are single,they don't know how to handle children |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by HomeOfMe(f): 7:28pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
From experience,I think spanking a child too often will make him more hardened. it is better to consistently advice the child,show him love,but if he's the rebellious one ground him;make him do extra chores and deprive him of those things he enjoys just to punish him. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by femijohn21(m): 7:29pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
drag the lad to the elders of the church and let them stone him to death. That was the command for those that dwell fully in keeping the law. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Chukzyfcb(m): 7:33pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Its very easy for people to say spank the child until her brain returns to default setting but I tell you. Continuous act of flogging will lead to a time when there will be emotional disconnect between you & that child in future. The child may grow up to always avoid your presence because he/she has grown to have the mentality - not to annoy you coz of the wrath he/she could incur. I was a victim, so I know better!!! #no be everytime flog, spoken words are very powerful. It can break or mend a man's spirit ,not even rod can do that. A wise man once said "people often say that MOTIVATION DOESN'T LAST, well NEITHER DOES BATHING, that is why its RECOMMENDED DAILY" 1 Like
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Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by goingape: 7:37pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
PoliticalThuG:hit his head in the wall more than twice. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by SirGowon(m): 7:39pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
even bible talk say 'Aya omode ni weyrey di si'.... egba ati igbale lama fi yor 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Abbeyunique2(m): 7:40pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
OP there is something called oshepotu in yoruba. it would restore her to the factory settings |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by frubben(m): 7:41pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
[quote author=soopamom post=44850057] Spare the rod, the first question is "what is a rod?" Now I'll refer you to psalm 23 " Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me" so it's a shepherds rod, which was used to gently guide the sheep. Not flog the sheep as most people assume. ...gentle guidance is what is needed, even from the Bible[/quote Wat of aboki's rod, to gently guild d cows abi Some human need cain, dats why nigeria fear army so much. Cos army are d aboki's why nigeria's are d cow's |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 7:43pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
I'll never beat my kid, i want them to be as stubborn as their dad. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Thobilobah(m): 7:43pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Amsonme:with time, such child will get used to being flogged, and that's how touts are born. Why bring a child into the world when all you use he/she as your anger punching bag |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by mysticgal(f): 7:46pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Truth is that most parents have not sat down to understand their children, they just look at the outlook(stubbornness) and not what they feel. If you seat a presumed stubborn person, you'll find out that there is a psychological push just that it has not been found. Op, what works for me is; If it is a preteen :I'll take the person out, maybe to an eatery and then try to scrutinise the whole issue making it easier to deal with. Anything but beating works faster. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by kemelyt: 7:47pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
VoteDemiladgold:I think that's because @ some point you learnt your mistakes & organised yourself better, but it is not everyone that can be like you. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Wizkoko(m): 7:48pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
soopamom: Let me also refer you to proverbs 23:13-14: "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell." My Brother, read your Bible well, and stop confusing people. I'm sure many people who saw your post will also go and confuse more people. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by DealZ(m): 7:50pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Five mouth koboko is the cure |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by DealZ(m): 7:50pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Five mouth koboko is the cure.....no time |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Manlado: 7:55pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
The Child is a product of training and exposure. The problem of children are adults. Adults are insensitive and self centre mostly at the time they encounter the child. At night after work, early in the morning when rushing to work or when trying to maximise their time the child seems to be in the way. Adult tends to find faults in their children or wards. A stubborn child can simply the described as a child who is thinking differently from the adult. Come down from your high horse and the child will cooperate, explain and explain again The rod means letting the child understand the difference between hot and cold water 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 8:02pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
VoteDemiladgold:I can relate to this..Some parent takes beating as a show of superiority..'I am your mother nd I can do you as I wish'..Taaaaaarh! |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Wizkoko(m): 8:02pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Sixaxis: All those methods don't work; it's beating that fix a child. If you look at the American children, you will notice that they are very stubborn; they lack respect, and they talk shit to their parents face. All of that is due to lack of beating. But look at our Nigerian children, they don't disrespect people anyhow. The beating has humbled them. Although beating works wonders, don't over use it because too much of everything is bad. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by odion81(f): 8:02pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Engage the child with constructive play such as taekwondo, swimming, outdoor play etc. This make the child so tired that when he comes back home from school, he will sleep till the next day. Also, reduce sugary foods, this makes them hyperactive resulting in negative behaviours that result to spanking 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by VoteDemiladgold: 8:04pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
MzLarem:lol.. I think modern mums aren't like the mums of those days... it's only ends in shouts like, I will beat u oooo, I will spank you now, etc.. dats all.. well who wan spoil go spoil... dats the fact. 1 Like |
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