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Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by finalboss(m): 11:03pm On Apr 28, 2016

Good day people, I
will go straight to the point. I write this piece
in TEARS.

I'm a woman in my early 30's, slim and
attractive. People don't believe I have given
birth at all. Hubby is in his late 30's. We have
been married for 7 years.

Right from the start i noticed that hubby
watches porn on his computer and
masturbates like 3 times before day breaks.
Initially, he tries to hide it from me but right
now he does it openly. He leaves rolls of used
tissue paper for me to see. He makes sure we
never sleep in the same room.

Our sex life is pretty much nonexistence. He
goes 3 months or 4 months without any act of
intimacy. ..no hugs..no kisses. Infact, he
avoids me like a plague and goes in and out
as he pleases. Some days, he acts like the
sight of me simply disgusts him. When I touch
him, or try to initiate sex,he pulls away in
aversion.

I've sat him down to discuss the issue, he
confirms that it is nothing to do with me or
my appearance . He enjoys what he does and
he is not prepared to stop. If i'm not happy
with it, I should feel free to leave.

I have never cheated on him and don't intend
to start, but i'm tired of this emotional
torture. I spoke to my pastor and he told me
my hubby has "spirit" wife and children. Did i
mention I struggled to conceive my son, it was
one miscarriage after another, until I started
night vigil.

I'm too young to be going through these.
Please are there in my shoes? I'll appreciate
male and female views on masturbation in
marriage. And apart from prayers what else
should I do, because I have prayed and kinda
done praying.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Strahovski1(m): 11:05pm On Apr 28, 2016

The woman below me...

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Vinshu(f): 11:06pm On Apr 28, 2016

Is it the masturbation that is the problem or the abstinence from sex that is the problem?

There are two things here and I have answers for both.

1.) He masturbate too much:- Sorry, masturbation is not a bad thing. He enjoys playing with himself.

Solution: Leave him alone! Let him enjoy himself. He prefers porn to his wife.

2.) 4 months no Intimacy:-

Solution: Cheat on him. Get your intimacy else where. I wonder why a man would not offer his wife sex. It's disgusting. It's not like there ain't better looking men outside.

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Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Nobody: 11:28pm On Apr 28, 2016

Masturbation isn't exactly the problem here.
It's his business. Whatever he wants to do with himself. he should go right ahead.

But the problem here is..The Nonexistent Sex thingy. he's depriving You of Sexual pleasures. I mean...that's so unfair.
who does that
What You should do...

Ask if he plans on having Sex with You anytime soon? like maybe in A year time?
...if he still doesn't want to.

Please Cheat! Cheat! Masturbate! HAVE As many Sex as you want! even God will understand! Rubbish!
You're human too..and women also Have sexual desires.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by absolute2020(m): 11:38pm On Apr 28, 2016

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Vinshu:
Is it the masturbation that is the problem or the abstinence from sex that is the problem?

There are two things here and I have answers for both.

1.) He masturbate too much:- Sorry, masturbation is not a bad thing. He enjoys playing with himself.

Solution: Leave him alone! Let him enjoy himself. He prefers porn to his wife.

2.) 4 months no Intimacy:-

Solution: Cheat on him. Get your intimacy else where. I wonder why a man would not offer his wife sex. It's disgusting. It's not like there ain't better looking men outside.

Vinshu:
Is it the masturbation that is the problem or the abstinence from sex that is the problem?
There are two things here and I have answers for both.
1.) He masturbate too much:- Sorry, masturbation is not a bad thing. He enjoys playing with himself.
Solution: Leave him alone! Let him enjoy himself. He prefers porn to his wife.
2.) 4 months no Intimacy:-
Solution: Cheat on him. Get your intimacy else where. I wonder why a man would not offer his wife sex. It's disgusting. It's not like there ain't better looking men outside.

Vinshu:
Is it the masturbation that is the problem or the abstinence from sex that is the problem?

There are two things here and I have answers for both.

1.) He masturbate too much:- Sorry, masturbation is not a bad thing. He enjoys playing with himself.

Solution: Leave him alone! Let him enjoy himself. He prefers porn to his wife.

2.) 4 months no Intimacy:-

Solution: Cheat on him. Get your intimacy else where. I wonder why a man would not offer his wife sex. It's disgusting. It's not like there ain't better looking men outside.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by finalboss(m): 11:39pm On Apr 28, 2016

absolute2020:
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meaning pls

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Nobody: 11:41pm On Apr 28, 2016

Vinshu:
Is it the masturbation that is the problem or the abstinence from sex that is the problem?

There are two things here and I have answers for both.

1.) He masturbate too much:- Sorry, masturbation is not a bad thing. He enjoys playing with himself.

Solution: Leave him alone! Let him enjoy himself. He prefers porn to his wife.

2.) 4 months no Intimacy:-

Solution: Cheat on him. Get your intimacy else where. I wonder why a man would not offer his wife sex. It's disgusting. It's not like there ain't better looking men outside.

ur comment made me check ur profile cos I was wondering how a sane person could give such advice

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Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Vinshu(f): 11:41pm On Apr 28, 2016

absolute2020:
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Did you have to quote me that much? undecided

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by banyo(m): 11:41pm On Apr 28, 2016

pls dear dont cheat.sit ur man down,ask him hw he would feel if he finds out that another man is having his wife? hear his replies. then u knw wat next to do.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Vinshu(f): 11:42pm On Apr 28, 2016

kallmemrB:
ur comment made me check ur profile cos I was wondering how a sane person could give such advice

So? I have given the advice. What now?

What are you trying to say

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Nobody: 11:46pm On Apr 28, 2016

Vinshu:

So? I have given the advice. What now?

What are you trying to say

nothing....I wish u a successful marriage

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Vinshu(f): 11:51pm On Apr 28, 2016

kallmemrB:
nothing....I wish u a successful marriage

Thanks.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by absolute2020(m): 11:51pm On Apr 28, 2016

Back your prayers with the word of God.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by NiRfreak(m): 11:54pm On Apr 28, 2016

Since you can't cheat , maybe you should let him see you masturbate too....or join him when he's masturbating....i know its a weird advice but what can i say.......your husband is a psycho....

Increase your vigil and prayer........that's if u are a good Xtian

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by finalboss(m): 11:55pm On Apr 28, 2016

Vinshu:

Thanks.

yo funny...

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by absolute2020(m): 11:59pm On Apr 28, 2016

NiRfreak:
Since you can't cheat , maybe you should let him see you masturbate too....or join him when he's masturbating....i know its a weird advice but what can i say.......your husband is a psycho....

Increase your vigil and prayer........that's if u are a good Xtian

hmmmmm

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Nobody: 1:16am On Apr 29, 2016

1. Make him his best meal and striptease during or after the meal.

2.since you don't sleep in same room, cover or hide your nudity from him, starve him of free views till he comes hungry and yearning for it. He will surely come.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Slapsticker: 4:37am On Apr 29, 2016

Get some toys way bigger than his and after use, leave them where he can find it.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by gunpoint(m): 5:58am On Apr 29, 2016

Estharfabian:
Masturbation isn't exactly the problem here.
It's his business. Whatever he wants to do with himself. he should go right ahead.

But the problem here is..The Nonexistent Sex thingy. he's depriving You of Sexual pleasures. I mean...that's so unfair.
who does that
What You should do...

Ask if he plans on having Sex with You anytime soon? like maybe in A year time?
...if he still doesn't want to.

Please Cheat! Cheat! Masturbate! HAVE As many Sex as you want! even God will understand! Rubbish!
You're human too..and women also Have sexual desires.

Is a lie

You have desires too?

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Nobody: 7:29am On Apr 29, 2016

gunpoint:
Is a lie You have desires too?

Lol.

No. girls Are Robots!

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by finalboss(m): 7:42am On Apr 29, 2016

Estharfabian:
Lol.

No. girls Are Robots!

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by AlienStar: 7:51am On Apr 29, 2016

In a situation like this prayer's the only solution 'cause it's obvious that there nothing you can do 'bout it.
Do not cheat!! Don't even have it as an option, it won't solve it.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by finalboss(m): 7:57am On Apr 29, 2016

She should go home with her kids or go to his
parents house if they are supportive just to
make him sit up and realize that he is loosing
his marriage. Then deal with the issue from
there. However, it will be wrong not to support
him before considering a divorce. He might
not be in full control of himself and might
even need professional counseling and
rehabilitation. Divorce should be the last thing
to consider after every effort fails. Divorce
shouldn't be within a year of trying to solve
the issue though. I might not be completely
right but this is my suggestion... MzzTega cm put mouth baby..

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by MzzTega(f): 8:26am On Apr 29, 2016

finalboss:
She should go home with her kids or go to his
parents house if they are supportive just to
make him sit up and realize that he is loosing
his marriage. Then deal with the issue from
there. However, it will be wrong not to support
him before considering a divorce. He might
not be in full control of himself and might
even need professional counseling and
rehabilitation. Divorce should be the last thing
to consider after every effort fails. Divorce
shouldn't be within a year of trying to solve
the issue though. I might not be completely
right but this is my suggestion... MzzTega cm put mouth baby..

It looks like something he has been into even before the marriage. I think he needs counselling, seems more like an addiction.

All those saying she should cheat, you are wrong!

She won't be hurting him but herself you know.
And surprisingly he would care less.

If she could pray to get her baby, she can also pray to get her husband back.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by finalboss(m): 8:28am On Apr 29, 2016

MzzTega:

It looks like something he has been into even before the marriage. I think he needs counselling, seems more like an addiction.

All those saying she should cheat, you are wrong!

She won't be hurting him but herself you know.
And surprisingly he would care less.

If she could pray to get her baby, she can also pray to get her husband back.

hmmm dats my baby

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by gunpoint(m): 8:32am On Apr 29, 2016

Estharfabian:
Lol.

No. girls Are Robots!

Meant you in particular
I follow your dairy
So i shock ni oh

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by chriskosherbal(m): 8:41am On Apr 29, 2016

Pls can you give him, my contact let me talk to him, man to man, I want to hear him tell me something, that he has refused to tell you.

Because there are great dangers associated with masturbation. He better stop fast. You can read my post by following my link below, to understand the dangers of continuous masturbation.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by Nobody: 8:44am On Apr 29, 2016

gunpoint:
Meant you in particular I follow your dairy So i shock ni oh

Lol.

I'm human Sir..I get h0rny too.

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by gunpoint(m): 1:15pm On Apr 29, 2016

Estharfabian:
Lol.

I'm human Sir..I get h0rny too.

That be say hope dey for all humanity be dat na grin

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by eddyslim(m): 1:26pm On Apr 29, 2016

All i have to say is keep praying.... One day he'll come back to his senses

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by adextetoo(m): 7:08am On Apr 30, 2016

Let me tell you the bitter but real truth, your husband doesn't find you sexy, romantic or "dickly" educated

1. First thing is that what kind of clothes do you have in your wardrobe are they the ones that make you look like my granny of 79 even with her age she still looks smart

2. You are the log of wood type on the bed, you are ranting here but you have failed to tell us your husband like trying to give you different styles in which you refuse bluntly.

3. Your husband still loves you that's why he isn't going outside for the sex just wait and see if he won't graduate after 3 months of chronic masturbations.

#my1kobo

Re: Male And Female Views On Masturbation In Marriage Pls Help. by telemapreye1(f): 9:30am On Apr 30, 2016

kallmemrB:
ur comment made me check ur profile cos I was wondering how a sane person could give such advice

You are biased

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